In Loving Memory
9/19/58 - 7/2/04
Casandra Virginia Graham
aka
"Casey"
Who can say for certain
Fly me up to where you are
Are you gently sleeping
As my heart holds you
And I believe
Fly me up
I know you're there
Where you used to be, there is a hole in the world,
Oh we never know where life will take us
-J.R.R. Tolkien
Through the darkness
I look up to
You walk past me
I look up to
"Death is one of the few things that can be done as easily lying down.
-Woody Allen
There's a lady who's sure all that glitters is gold
Woe oh oh oh oh oh
There's a sign on the wall but she wants to be sure
Woe oh oh oh oh oh
There's a feeling I get when I look to the west
Woe oh oh oh oh oh
And it's whispered that soon, if we all call the tune
And it makes me wonder
If there's a bustle in your hedgerow
Yes there are two paths you can go by
Your head is humming and it won't go because you don't know
And as we wind on down the road
There's a lady who's sure all that glitters is gold
And she's buying a stairway to heaven, uh uh uh.
Blue eyes
Blue eyes
Blue eyes
Blue eyes laughing in the sun
While we are mourning the loss of our friend,
It ain't no use to sit and wonder why, babe, it don't matter, anyhow.
It ain't no use in turning on your light, babe, that light I never knowed
It ain't no use in calling out my name, gal, like you never done before.
So long honey, babe, where I'm bound, I can't tell.
I shall not die of a cold.
Only Time
Who can say
Who can say
Night keeps all your heart
Who can say
Who knows - only time
I'll sleep when I'm dead.
Honey
See the tree, how big it's grown
And honey, I miss you
She wrecked the car and she was sad
And honey, I miss you
One day while I was not at home
And see the tree how big it's grown
Every night in my dreams
Far across the distance
Near, far, wherever you are
Love can touch us one time
Love was when I loved you
Near, far, wherever you are
You’re here, there’s nothing I fear,
"The best of men cannot suspend their fate:
Tears in Heaven
Would you know my name
Would you hold my hand
Time can bring you down, time can bend your knees
Beyond the door there’s peace I’m sure
Would you know my name
"Persons who have no desire to live have a very slight chance of recovery. We can continue to extend to them our love, sympathy, and prayers; but ultimately we must respect a person's decision to die."
-- Michio Kushi
Daniel is travelling tonight on a plane
They say Spain is pretty though I've never been
Daniel my brother you are older than me
Daniel is travelling tonight on a plane
"We understand death for the first time when he puts his hand upon one whom we love."
Fly
Vole vole petite aile
Fly fly little wing
Let nothing here hold you back
Rejoin the sky and the ether
Change of universe
Fly fly little sister
To finally stop the pain
Go join the other bank
Your child life
Fly fly my love
To fly yourself away
Fly fly little flame
"In any man who dies there dies with him,
Wave Goodbye
Words get tangled on your tongue
Every hurtful thing you ever said
How long I've waited for an answer or a sign
So now you start to recognize
I said, "God, I hurt."
Now And Forever
Now and forever
Everything changes.
Those we have loved,
Transcending all time
There'll be services on Friday at the Lawrence Funeral Home
(Chorus)
Did his girlfriend break up with him, did he buy or steal that gun?
I'm not blamin' anybody, we all do the best we can
(Chorus)
It was just another story printed on the second page
I will remember you, will you remember me?
Remember the good times that we had?
I will remember you
I'm so tired but I can't sleep
But I will remember you
I'm so afraid to love you
And I will remember you
And I will remember you
You sheltered me from harm
I would give anything I own,
You never said too much,
I would give anything I own,
Is there someone you know,
I would give anything I own,
Well, I close my eyes, only for a moment, and the moment's gone
Same old song, just a drop of water in an endless sea
Don't hang on, nothing lasts forever but the earth and sky
Dust in the wind, all we are is dust in the wind
the grief that does not speak
whispers the o'er- fraught heart
and bids it break."
Shakespeare, Macbeth (iv,iii)
Maybe you're still here
I feel you all around me
Your memories so clear
Deep in the stillness
I can hear you speak
You're still an inspiration
Can it be(?)
That you are mine
Forever love
And you are watching over me from up above
Beyond the distant star
I wish upon tonight
To see you smile
If only for awhile to know you're there
A breath away's not far
To where you are
Here inside my dream
And isn't faith believing
All power can't be seen
Just one beat away
I cherish all you gave me everyday
'Cause you are mine
Forever love
Watching me from up above
That angels breathe
And that love will live on and never leave
To where you are
Beyond the distant star
I wish upon tonight
To see you smile
If only for awhile
To know you're there
A breath away's not far
To where you are
A breath away's not far
To where you are
which I find myself constantly walking around in the daytime,
and falling into at night.
I miss you like hell.
Edna St. Vincent Millay, Letters, 1952
I know it's just a ride on the wheel
And we never know when death will shake us
And we wonder how it will feel
So goodbye my friend
I know I'll never see you again
But the time together through all the years
Will take away these tears
It's okay now
Goodbye my friend
I've seen a lot things that make me crazy
And I guess I held on to you
We could've run away and left well maybe
But it wasn't time and we both knew
So goodbye my friend
I know I'll never see you again
But the love you gave me through all the years
Will take away these tears
I'm okay now
Goodbye my friend
Life's so fragile and love's so pure
We can't hold on but we try
We watch how quickly it disappears
And we never know why
But I'm okay now
Goodbye my friend
You can go now
Goodbye my friend
I can see your light
And you will always shine
And I can feel your heart in mine
Your face I've memorized
I idolize just you
Everything you are
In my eyes you do no wrong
I've loved you for so long
And after all is said and done
You're still you
After all
You're still you
I can feel your pain
Time changes everything
One truth always stays the same
You're still you
After all
You're still you
Everything you are
In my eyes you do no wrong
And I believe in you
Although you never asked me to
I will remember you
And what life put you through
And in this cruel and lonely world
I found one love
You're still you
After all
You're still you
The difference between sex and death is that with
death you can do it alone and no one is going
to make fun of you."
And she's buying a stairway to heaven
And when she gets there she knows if the stores are closed
With a word she can get what she came for
And she's buying a stairway to heaven
And you know sometimes words have two meanings
In the tree by the brook there's a songbird who sings
Sometimes all of our thoughts are misgiven
And she's buying a stairway to heaven
And my spirit is crying for leaving
In my thoughts I have seen rings of smoke through the trees
And the voices of those who stand looking
And she's buying a stairway to heaven
Then the piper will lead us to reason
And a new day will dawn for those who stand long
And the forest will echo with laughter
Don't be alarmed now
It's just a spring clean for the May Queen
but in the long run
There's still time to change the road you're on
The piper's calling you to join him
Dear lady can't you hear the wind blow and did you know
Your stairway lies on the whispering wind
Our shadows taller than our souls
There walks a lady we all know
Who shines white light and wants to show
How everything still turns to gold
And if you listen very hard
The tune will come to you at last
When all are one and one is all
To be a rock and not to roll
Woe oh oh oh oh oh
And she's buying a stairway to heaven
And she's buying a stairway to heaven
And when she gets there she knows if the stores are closed
With a word she can get what she came for
And when the Earth has claimed our limbs,
Then we shall truly dance.
--Kahlil Gibran
Baby's got blue eyes
Like a deep blue sea
On a blue blue day
Blue eyes
Baby's got blue eyes
When the morning comes
I'll be far away
And I say
Holding back the tears
Holding back the pain
Baby's got blue eyes
And she's alone again
Baby's got blue eyes
Like a clear blue sky
Watching over me
Blue eyes
I love blue eyes
When I'm by her side
Where I long to be
I will see
Laughing in the rain
Baby's got blue eyes
And I am home, and I am home again
others are rejoicing to meet him behind the veil.
--John Taylor
And it ain't no use to sit and wonder why, babe, if you don't know by now
When your rooster crows at the breaks of dawn, look out your window and I'll be gone.
You're the reason I'm traveling on, don't think twice, it's all right..
and it ain't no use in turning on your light, babe, I'm on the dark side of the road.
But I wish there was something you would do or say
to try and make me change my mind and stay.
We never did too much talking anyway, so don't think twice, it's all right.
It ain't no use in calling out my name, gal. I can't hear you any more.
I'm a-thinking and a-wondering walking down the road,
I once loved a woman, a child I'm told.
I give her my heart but she wanted my soul, don't think twice, it's all right.
Goodbye's too good a word, babe so I'll just say fare thee well.
I ain't saying you treated me unkind, you could have done better but I don't mind.
You just kinda wasted my precious time but don't think twice, it's all right
I shall die of having lived.
Willa Cather
where the road goes
where the day flows
only time
And who can say
if your love grows
as your heart chose
only time
Who can say
why your heart sighs
as your love flies
only time
And who can say
why your heart cries
when your love lies
only time
when the roads meet
that love might be
in your heart
And who can say
when the day sleeps
if the night keeps
all your heart
if your love grows
as your heart chose
only time
And who can say
where the road goes
where the day flows
only time
Who knows - only time
- Warren Zevon
But friend it hasn't been too long
It wasn't big
I laughed at her and she got mad
The first day that she planted it, was just a twig
Then the first snow came
And she ran out to brush the snow away
So it wouldn't die
Came runnin' in all excited
Slipped and almost hurt herself
And I laughed till I cried
She was always young at heart
Kinda dumb and kinda smart and I loved her so
And I surprised her with a puppy
Kept me up all Christmas Eve two years ago
And it would sure embarrass her
When I came in from workin' late
'Cause I would know
That she'd been sittin' there and cryin'
Over some sad and silly late, late show
And I'm bein' good
And I'd love to be with you
If only I could
And so afraid that I'd be mad
But what the heck
Though I pretended hard to be
Guess you could say she saw through me
And hugged my neck
I came home unexpectedly
And caught her cryin' needlessly
In the middle of the day
And it was in the early Spring
When flowers bloom and robins sing
She went away
And I'm bein' good
And I'd love to be with you
If only I could
While she was there and all alone
The angels came
Now all I have is memories of Honey
And I wake up nights and call her name
Now my life's an empty stage
Where Honey lived and Honey played
And love grew up
And a small cloud passes overhead
And cries down on the flower bed
That Honey loved
But friend it hasn't been too long
It wasn't big
And I laughed at her and she got mad
The first day that she planted it, was just a twig
I see you, I feel you,
That is how I know you go on
And spaces between us
You have come to show you go on
I believe that the heart does go on
Once more you open the door
And you’re here in my heart
And my heart will go on and on
And last for a lifetime
And never let go till we’re gone
One true time I hold to
In my life we’ll always go on
I believe that the heart does go on
Once more you open the door
And you’re here in my heart
And my heart will go on and on
And I know that my heart will go on
We’ll stay forever this way
You are safe in my heart
And my heart will go on and on
The good die early, and the bad die late."
-- Daniel Defoe
If I saw you in heaven?
Would you feel the same
If I saw you in heaven?
I must be strong and carry on
’cause I know I don’t belong here in heaven...
If I saw you in heaven?
Would you help me stand
If I saw you in heaven?
I’ll find my way through night and day
’cause I know I just can’t stay here in heaven...
Time can break your heart, have you begging
please...begging please
And I know there’ll be no more tears in heaven...
If I saw you in heaven?
Would you feel the same
If I saw you in heaven?
I must be strong and carry on
’cause I know I don’t belong here in heaven...
I can see the red tail lights heading for Spain
Oh and I can see Daniel waving goodbye
God it looks like Daniel, must be the clouds in my eyes
Well Daniel says it's the best place that he's ever seen
Oh and he should know, he's been there enough
Lord I miss Daniel, oh I miss him so much
Do you still feel the pain of the scars that won't heal
Your eyes have died but you see more than I
Daniel you're a star in the face of the sky
I can see the red tail lights heading for Spain
Oh and I can see Daniel waving goodbye
God it looks like Daniel, must be the clouds in my eyes
Oh God it looks like Daniel, must be the clouds in my eyes
-- Baronne Anne Louise Germaine Necker de Staël Staël (1766-1817)
Ma douce, mon hirondelle
Va t’en loin, va t’en sereine
Qu’ici rien ne te retienne
My dear, my dove
Go far away, go serene
Rejoins le ciel et l’éther
Laisse-nous laisse la terre
Quitte manteau de misère
Change d’univers
Leave us the earth
Leave misery’s coat
Vole vole petite soeur
Vole mon ange, ma douleur
Quitte ton corps et nous laisse
Qu’enfin ta souffrance cesse
Fly my angel, my pain
Leave your body and leave us
Va rejoindre l’autre rive
Celle des fleurs et des rires
Celle que tu voulais tant
Ta vie d’enfant
The one of flowers and laughs
The one you wanted so much
Vole vole mon amour
Puisque le nôtre est trop lourd
Puisque rien ne te soulage
Vole à ton dernier voyage
Lâche tes heures épuisées
Vole, tu l’as pas vu
Deviens souffle, sois colombe
Pour t’envoler
Because ours is too heavy
Because nothing eases your pain
Fly on your last trip
Leave your hours exhausted
Fly, you haven’t steel it
Become a breeze, be dove
Vole, vole petite flamme
Vole mon ange, mon âme
Quitte ta peau de misère
Va retrouver la lumière
Fly my angel, my soul
Leave your misery’s skin
Go rediscover the light
his first snow and kiss and fight...
Not people die but worlds die in them."
-- John Greenleaf Whittier (1807-92)
And you stumble on your feet
When you miss somebody
And everywhere you think you see them
Walking down the street
When you miss somebody
When you miss somebody
You tell yourself a hundred thousand times
Nobody ever lives forever
So you give it one more try
To wave goodbye, wave goodbye
Is ringing in your ear
When you miss somebody
And everything of beauty that you see
Only brings a tear
When you miss somebody
When you miss somebody
You tell yourself everything will be alright
Try to stand up strong and brave
When all you want to do is lay down and die
Lonely and weary from
The troubled task of trying
To wave goodbye
That every single path you see
Leads to a tear in your eye
So wave goodbye, wave goodbye
And God said, "I know."
I said, "God, I cry a lot."
And God said, "That is why I gave you tears."
I said, "God, I am so depressed."
And God said, "That is why I gave you Sunshine."
I said, "God, life is so hard."
And God said, "That is why I gave you loved ones."
I said, "God, my loved one died."
And God said, "So did mine."
I said, "God, it is such a loss."
And God said, "I saw mine nailed to a cross."
I said, "God, but your loved one lives."
And God said, "So does yours."
I said, "God, where are they now?"
And God said, "Mine is on My right.
Yours is in the Light."
I said, "God, it hurts."
And God said, "I know."
you are a part of me
And the memory cuts like a knife
Didnt we find the ecstacy
Didnt we share the daylight
When you walked into my life
Now and forever
I'll remember all the promises still unbroken
And think about all the words between us
That never needed to be spoken
We had a moment
Just one moment
That will last beyond a dream,
Beyond a lifetime
We are the lucky ones
Some people never get to do
All we got to do
Now and forever
I will always think of you
Didnt we come together
Didnt we live together
Didnt we cry together
Didnt we play together
Didnt we love together
And together we lit up the world
I miss the tears
I miss the laughter
I miss the day we met
and all that followed after
Sometimes I wish I
could always be with you
The way we used to do
Now and forever
I will always think of you
Now and forever
I will always be with you
By Tricia Sturgeon
It has to be so.
The hours and the seasons,
The Ebb and the flow.
Clouds spill their raindrops,
Earth drinks her fill.
Everything Changes.
Nothing is still.
Who are gone from our sight,
released from the body,
Transformed into light,
No more can we hold them,
And caress with our tears,
Yet love all enfolding
Illumines the years.
And all space and all pain,
Finding the rainbow
Born of the rain,
Starlight to sunrise,
Dewdrop to frost,
Everything changes,
Nothing is lost.........
It was just another story written on the second page
Underneath the Tiger's football score
It said he was only eighteen, a boy about my age
They found him face down on the bedroom floor
Then out on Mooresville highway, they'll lay him 'neath a stone...
How do you get that lonely, how do you hurt that bad
To make you make the call, that havin' no life at all
Is better than the life that you had
How do you feel so empty, you want to let it all go
How do you get that lonely... and nobody know
Did he lose a fight with drugs or alcohol?
Did his Mom and Daddy forget to say I love you son?
Did no one see the writing on the wall?
I know hindsight's 20/20, but I still don't understand...
How do you get that lonely, how do you hurt that bad
To make you make the call, that havin' no life at all
Is better than the life that you had
How do you feel so empty, you want to let it all go
How do you get that lonely... and nobody know
Underneath the Tiger's football score...
Don't let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories
I let them slip away from us when things got bad
How clearly I first saw you smilin' in the sun
Wanna feel your warmth upon me
I wanna be the one
Will you remember me?
Don't let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories
Standin' on the edge of something much too deep
It's funny how we feel so much but we cannot say a word
We are screaming inside
But we can't be heard
Will you remember me?
Don't let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories
But more afraid to lose
Clinging to a past that doesn't let me choose
Once there was a darkness
Deep and endless night
You gave me everything you had
Oh you gave me light
Will you remember me?
Don't let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories
Will you remember me?
Don't let your life pass you by
Weep not for the memories
Weep not for the memories
Kept me warm, kept me warm
You gave my life to me
Set me free, Set me free
The finest years I ever knew
were all the years I had with you
Give up my life, my heart, my home.
I would give everything I own,
just to have you back again.
You taught me how to love,
What a touch, what a touch.
but still you showed the way,
and I knew from watching you.
Nobody else could ever know
the part of me that can't let go.
Give up my life, my heart, my home.
I would give everything I own
Just to have you back again.
you're loving them so,
but taking them all for granted.
You may lose them one day,
someone takes them away,
and they don't hear the words you long to say
Give up my life, my heart, my home.
I would give everything I own
Just to have you back again.
Just to touch you once again
All my dreams, pass before my eyes, a curiosity
Dust in the wind, all they are is dust in the wind
All we do, crumbles to the ground though we refuse to see
Dust in the wind, all we are is dust in the wind
It slips away, and all your money won't another minute buy
Dust in the wind, all we are is dust in the wind
Dust in the wind, everything is dust in the wind
(everything is dust in the wind)
And, friends, dear friends,
- when it shall be
That this low breath is gone from me,
And round my bier ye come to weep,
Let One, most loving of you all,
Say, `Not a tear must o`er her fall;
He giveth His beloved, sleep.`
-Elizabeth Barrett Browning