but that dosn't matter. what matters is that i've got to go get in the shower and get ready to go to a concert.
i'm eating carrot sticks right now. my father makes me eat them because he thinks i never eat. i don't. i have this horrible problem where i forget to eat or choose not to eat for some reason. that's also a contributor to the anxiety attacks. there are other things, too... but we won't go into those. so i'm scared to death and i'm doing it anyway. and the world will keep moving on here in my little town... people will still walk thier dogs, get their latte's and their mochas; people will still play chess and eat dinner and newspapers will be delivered late and the mail will never arrive at my house on time...... things go on. that's hard to accept: you are only important to the daily life as long as you are immersed in that daily life. i probably have five friends, if that, who i will keep in touch with: Lisa, Ali, Gina... okay, three. and everyone else will "hear" about me from those people... and that's fine with me. but it's disappointing to know that you really don't affect people's lives. they could all take you or leave you. they could all just let you go, make you stay, whatever is convineint and works for them. i don't want to be a commodity, so i think i'll stop investing so much feeling into situations and people. my teacher chris. i'll miss him. and i'll keep in touch with him. so there are five peope. i'll probably write a letter to my work every once in awhile, i promised i would. but you know, people pass through each other. i think of all the friends i have had... and we all still live in the same town. i mean, i graduated highschool less then a month ago and the only people i've seen from highschool i've seen in places like the drugstore, the supermarket, or coming in for coffee. it's funny. we all give a little wave and go about our business. i think we still hold the notioni that school really will start next year and we really will see each other. but we won't. and i don't mind. i did when it first happened, i walked home from the after-grad-nite- party feeling dejected, let down, unhappy... and disoriented. and i felt that way all weekend. i felt like shit. it's a loss of community, you know? and maybe that's why i'm getting so anxious and nervous right now, because i don't want to go through that again. but maybe not. i've been on the fuzzy end of the lollipop so many times in my life, i don't know why i expect to be on the good end... but i'm having fun, sort of. i'm having time to myself, sometimes. but i'm sad, a lot. except when i'm with the people Who make me happy... and although i see them, i don't see them enough. i want to bottle all of the ways that they make me feel better about who i am, what i am, and where i am going sand put it on a shelf that i can take with me. will i find these people again, in years or months? and i will never be this person again, because these moments will not exist. there is no rewind and review, there is just forward at the steady pace. my heart is beating fast again. my breath is a little short. i'm going to go lay down.
later
two women tried to sell me god in berkeley on friday as i was sitting against a bank pillar watching teenagers gather around in circles, sitting on the newspaper racks and smoking cigarettes and acting tough, and the boys on skateboards and the boys in black and boots and earrings in places like thier noses, and the girls with thier ratted-but-i-don't-want-to-look-like-i-spend-time-on-my-hair hair, and the girls with no bras and tight tank tops and the couples and the bums and everyone, just watching, observing while the fog rolled in over the mountains which i took a picture of, and i said to these women that i didn't know what i believed in, and they told me that god loved me. i'm sure he does. but apparantly i have to accept him and have faith in the bible... what does the bible have to do with believin gin god? can't i believe in god and not the bible? because i don't believe in many of the things in the bible... i don't believe it was okay that Lot slept with his daughters, and i think that love is love no matter who it is between. so what if, in the natural scheme of things, it doesn't produce anything like... MORE PEOPLE. what do we need more people for? the world is already populated with billions, what' sit going to matter if a little boy from houston texas hooks up with another little boy and they live together? there's two potential babies that have ost thier potential? that sounds callow, callus, what have you, but it's true. i don't know what i'm saying. my head gets fuzzy sometimes.
so is it all a game? i've been thinking lately that we all scam each other. this guy i went on a date with, Jack, he said to me that all the homeless people out there were all scammers. i don't agree with that. i thyink that there are some people out there who are lazy and do it so they don't have to work, becuase i know people like that. i know those people exist. i have acquantinces like that. but there are some genuine cases on the street, and a lot of them are genuine. so i don't mind giving the quarter if i have it. anyway, so his commment prompted these thoughts about how we all scam each other anyway- because who do we really, ultimately live for in this world? we live for ourselves. and we may take others into consideration, we may bend to thier will from time to time, but we essentialy live for ourselves. and we scam off of each other- to get our way, to aviod a situation, what have you. but each one of us is a scam artist. i'm done with this now.
i mean, i wonder why we decide early. is it because we feel pressured to start a family, a life, what have you? because we want to fit into the norm? what if we all decided not to decice so early, would that recreate the norm? what if the norm became indesicion, or the patience to enjoy one's youth? do we only comment on fifty year old fathers of three year olds because it's not ordainary? because we think people who are over fifty shouldn't have a two year old because the are incapable of taking care of that child like any one younger would? or do we just feel like it's strange, weird, because it's different? my father has a three year old and he's fifty four, fifty five this year. so does that make him a bad parent because he won't be able to give little emily piggy back rides or play strenously with his child? i don't knowl. i mean, we make desicions, we have biological clocks, bUt is it really becasue we want to decide, or becasue we feel we'd be looked at oddly becasue we wait to start settking into something?
i don't know when i want to settle... or if. i ahve some friends who are forty and thirty something, and they are just fine. the woman still looks at life through young eyes, but young wise eyes. she's so knowledgable... she's poetic. her every movement is like a song in and of itself. the reason is becasue she respects herself and accpets hersoefl for who she is.. she's aware of her faults but not defensive about them. she's an amazing woman. a great lady, although she would be embarraesd to know i said that she was a lady she thinks ladies are old.
hell, i sure ain't a lady. i'm too loud and brash and vulgar and pitiless. well, not pitiless, but insensitive. i'm rambling.. but that's the point, right? anyway, i think i know what iwant to do... i want to travel. but i want to live in the places i travel to.. and i want to go alot of places: boston, virginia, washington d.c., washington state, england, baltimore, new york, athens, st. louis, minneapolis, ontario, toronto, philidelphia.. lots and lots of places. and i think that it's good for me to get so many different perspectives other then northern california and the bible-ey part of utah... and phoenix, which is almost impossible to enjoy because one can barely BREATHE in phoenix in the summer... the air is so hot it's like poison. i lived there one august taking care of my grandmother and i though i would die... it was so blazing. i literally fried an egg on the black top outside her house. i was very bored. but i played guitar a lot and got pretty good... i haven't written anything on my guitar in a while. my brother has been here and he's much better on guitar then i am. music is his forte, writing is mine. anyway, we've been writing together.. the next donny and marie. puke. careers were invented in the seventies... and i want to aviod a career.