A Team
A Team...
A team(And friends and family) is a place you belong and
contribute, it is a place you earn with pride.
1. Make peace with imperfections: Keep a balance between perfection and
inner
tranquility.
2. Gentle, relaxed people CAN be superacheivers: Being gentle and
relaxed
does not mean being lazy, stupid, incompetent, or apathetic. Fearful,
frantic
thinking DRAINS energy, creativity and motivation.
3. Be aware of the snowball effect of you thinking. Negative and
insecure
thought can spiral out of control.
4. Develop compassion for others: Develop intention and action.
Intention
allows you to open your heart to others. Find out who and what matters
most
in life.
5. When you die, your in basket will still be full: Do Not put off your
loved
ones for a job.
6. Do not interrupt others or finish their sentences.
7. Do something nice for someone else and do not tell anyone about it.
8. Let others have the glory: Stop saying look at me, I am special, my
story
is more interesting than yours. Share in the glory, do not hog it to
feed you
own ego!
9. Learn to live in the present moment: Do not let the past or the
future
dominate what is going on now. Because, if you do not take care of what
is
happening now, the future will never occur the way you want it to!
10. Become more patient and understanding.
11. Be the 1st to act or to reach out: Be able to forgive and not hold
onto
resentments.
12. Ask yourself if any of this will matter one year from now.
13. Surrender to the fact that life is not always fair and you may have
to
turn negatives into positives. Do not give the negatives in your life
so much
power through action or through obsessive language.
14. Lower your tolerance to stress: Do not invite it in such large
quantities
into you life!
15. Life, despite what those other people think who are in such a hurry
all
the time, Life is not an emergency, it is to be savored.
16. Seek 1st to understand others and then to be understood. Show that
you
are understanding what they are saying before you jump into your little
scenario.
17. Be a better listener: If we do not listen, it can be a reflection
on us.
Even though we did not intend it, the other person feels as if we do
not
care. We just wanted all along to share our thoughts!
18. Look beyond the momentary behavior pattern: People often times in
certain
situations have offbeat, silly behavior!
19. See the innocence: Do not focus on others seemingly mean-spirited
acts -
do not let others make us miserable. It is our choice how we will react
and
be affected by input from others. They are simply innocently going
about
their lives as we are taking offense to their unique nature!
20. Choose being able to be kind rather than to be right or to be able
to get
back at another and hurt them like they hurt you.
21. Practice humility: Proving yourself as right all of the time is a
dangerous trap.
22. When in doubt as to whose turn it is, go ahead and do it: It is NOT
important that you are right, or that you have to take out the trash a
few
more times than others did. Do what contributes to the positive whole,
not
the negative details, or you will get caught up in the details and
never be
able to free yourself.
23. Avoid weatherproofing: Stop finding every little flaw, crack, and
subtlety in life and insisting that they be filled! Sometimes, it is ok
the
way it is even thought it is not perfect!
24. Become less judgmental: Do not say "I can not believe they would do
that", Say, "I see how they see the world..very interesting!" And be
genuine
about it. Stop giving negative energy to those negative judgements
about
others and get on with the positives!!!
25. Understand separate realities: Separate cultures and separate
individuals
are just as vastly different. Keeping a true understanding and honoring
differences, not just tolerating them will help us to understand more
of
others.
26. Argue for your limitations: They are yours and you do not have to
overdo
them or overreach them!
27. Find your 5 most stubborn positions and see about softening them.
28. See the truth in others opinions and criticisms.
29. Know the difference between wants and needs: I need food to
survive, but
I want that new car! To use the word need in your language all of the
time,
becomes a compulsive pattern of behavior.
30. You will become what you practice most.
31. If someone throws you the ball, you do not have to catch it!!
32. Fill yourself and your life with unconditional love.
33. More is not always better.
34. What is really most important in life?
35. The only difference between ordinary people and extraordinary is
that
little extra!
36. Be less controlling about your life, enjoy the ride sometimes even
if it
is not going exactly where you want it to.
37. Eliminate the rat race mentality: Do not get caught up in the
dog-eat-dog
vicious circles. Find another way out! And do not blow deadlines or
jobs out
of proportion!
38. Stop anticipating being tired: "Oh, I am going to be so tired
tomorrow!"
Approach tomorrow with positive energy and know those mountains are
only
molehills!
39. Do not sweat the bureaucracy: Make peace with the system. Know that
there
are channels and that things take time and that the system can not
always
thank or accommodate everyone and everything.
40. Being dead is bad for business: Instead of saying I do not have
time for
fun, know that you do not have time to NOT be able to have fun. Life
should
not always be so serious. Learn to appropriate times to lighten up and
have
some stress-relieving fun!
41. Light a candle instead of cursing the darkness: Take your breaks,
and
brighten up your place at work.
42. Not everyone works the way you do!
43. Do not be compulsive or use compulsive language by saying you
"Have" to
go to work, or that you "Have" to do this or that.
44. Never, ever backstab: Talk to the person as soon as you can about
your
problems with them. Stop being such a wienie. They will appreciate your
upfront candor, if done positively.
45. Do not be trapped by the golden handcuffs: This happens when you
live at
the absolute edge of your means and now life becomes a self-imposed
prison.
That make anything else that happens just that much harder to carry
because
you are already at your limits!!!
46. Avoid comments that can lead to gossip.
47. See beyond the roles: See people as people. They are each one of
them,
unique and wonderful people who just happen to have a job to do.
48. Do not put a cost on personal things, or on friends.
49. Make allowances for incompetence to happen. People are human and we
ALL
make mistakes!
50. Confront someone as gently as you can: Try to find a time where and
when
you can talk to an individual and can make your points known even
though you
may want to say it with some force so you feel vindicated, say it
gently.
51. Use the three R's: Be responsive, in other words be able to flex
with
change. It is difficult since no one likes to change. Be receptive, in
other
words be able to be open to new ideas that challenge your very own
sacred
ideas. Be reasonable. In other words, have vision and perspective about
yourself, others and the situations that you all just happen to find
yourselves growing into.
52. Remember, remember, it is all your choice.
53. Strengthen your presence: Presence is a magical quality that comes
from
confidence, joy and unconditional love. Joy comes from a balance of;
mind,
body, environment, and power. Power is the ability to choose and do
what you
want and not do it because of the outside influences of others. Do not
give
your power away by allow others to "make" you angry, etc.
54. Do not let others get you down: Make the best of those
"Noncreative"
positions and find joy in the balance of those previously mentioned
elements
and not from the noncreative position you are in! Get done with it,
make the
best of it, and then go have fun! Do not let the noncreative position
become
the centerpiece of your life!
55. Make peace with the Chaos: Know that you do not "have" to be in
control.
Learn to go with the flow and take whatever comes. Know that when you
were
little, that you tried to walk and fell flat on your face and hurt a
lot. See
where you are now and know that process changes very little in all the
things
we do in life. Make peace with it, and know that process will come and
go,
but that you will always be becoming something new and better for it!
56. Ask, do not insist that things be done: Know again that we have our
ways
and opinions and so do others. It is a fine-tuned balance to see not
just
your point of view, but to have many points to view from!
57. Do not live for retirement: Life does NOT have to better someday in
the
future or at the end of the day! Wouldn't NOW be a great time to make
it
better with a positive attitude, etc.???
58. Absolutely beyond a doubt, treasure yourself and others: Because,
in this
life, in all those galaxies and uncountable stars and throughout all
recorded
history past, present and future, there will only be ONE you. That, is
worth
more gold than all the gold in the universe. If you treasure yourself
and
others, you love them. For as it was said in, "Conan", "Without love,
the
gold loses its luster, the diamonds lose their sparkle and the castle
becomes
a prison." Treasure yourself and others and seek out the good and the
positive and the higher, tougher roads with kindness, patience and
love.
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