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" ROVING MARRIED MEN " More commonly known as "Professional Singles"~ Compiled and Written by Miz SaraM ~
How is one to know if a guy is lying about being single? Is he a married man just "fooling around"? Watch for these "warning signs: like, when you ask him about his past/present life and he gives you evasive or vague answers, or becomes defensive, consider that a RED FLAG. If he claims to be "in the process of a divorce" or "getting a divorce", but can't give a court date when it will be final...RED FLAG again. And DO research member directories to see if he has screen names you don't know about. [Instructions for finding other screen names are in Players Bag Of Tricks section] These are only warning signs; there may be a perfectly good explanation for his actions, BUT .... beware and use common sense. WARNING SIGNS HE MAY BE "TAKEN" 1. He says he doesn't like chat rooms ... due to "There's always disruptive teens in chat rooms", "Can't keep up with all the chat on the screen", "it's more personal to talk by IMs," etc. The REAL reason may be: he has a wife / live-in lover who may "pop" into the room. OR, he may be stringing along more than just you and they might happen into the room and blow it for him ... this results in a "cat fight" in the room. 2. You're chatting by IMs and he's suddenly slow to answer He may be shrinking / minamizing the IM screen when the wife/girlfriend/kids/grandkids walk into the room. Kids are very good at "telling Mommy / Grandma". 3. He often asks you to resend your pic, that AOL "ate" his favs or etc. He may be deleting it so his wife / live-in lover doesn't run across it when she's using the computer. 4. His phone number is always either busy or no one answers He may have a separate phone line for his computer and gave you that number instead when you insisted on having his number. He may not want you to have his main number because "someone else" may answer. 5. The marital status on his profile is left blank He may have a wife/live-in lover and this way he can "verbally" pass himself off as being unattached. 6. His profile states: "Already taken" "My heart has already been won" etc. That may be to pacify the wife/live-in lover AND/OR to fool all the "fillies in his stable", each one thinking that it means "HER". Insist that your name be added to his declaration of "not available". 7.He made a screen name "just for you" Aw, how sweet. OR is it to hide online from the wife or other online girlfriend(s), so he won't be interrupted by them while he's busy doing a number on you. 8.His best friend, brother, son or mother emails/IMs you verifying that he is divorced and what a real b*tch his wife was. It could be HIM using another name. At the same time he may "plug" himself, saying: what a great guy he is and how much he loves you, etc. There is NO LIMIT to the deviousness of players. TIP: watch for the same words he commonly misspells, same phrases/expressions/speech patterns, same font&font size&color, or same typing style -- no caps or all caps, or no punctuation, or a lot of dashes, or a lot of ....'s, etc. 9.You're talking on the phone and hear kids in the background He may say it's the TV or it's the neighborhood kids playing outside. He may have called while the wife is out shopping, at Bingo or her bridge game, etc. and those ARE his kids. OR he may tell you he has custody of his kids due to his wife was an unfit mother, or an alcoholic, etc., OR that the ex or Grandmother lives just around the corner and the kids drop in at his place often. 10.He has you to call him only at a specific time For example, he tells you to call after 9 o'clock because the kids (whom he has custody of) or visiting grandkids are in bed then. OR is it, the wife/live-in lover is at her job then. 11. You're chatting and he suddenly signs off If this happens often, he may be signing off every time the wife/live-in lover/kids walk into the room and then tells you he got booted, or had a power failure, etc. 12. He'll only give you a cell number or work number but never a home number. Chances are: he's married or living with someone. 13. He always uses a calling card Could it be because he doesn't want your number to show up on the phone bill? 14. He only calls during work hours He may be using only the company phone ... because there's a wife/live-in lover at home. 15. He doesn't let you call Gives you the chivalrous line that he doesn't want you paying for the long distance calls. Or is it, he may not want to chance "someone else" answering. 16. If you call at an unexpected time does he speak in a low voice as if he doesn't want to be overheard, or is irritated that you called without notice, or says "now is not a good time to call", etc? Yahoo! People Searchhttp://people.yahoo.com/ Often, this site will also show the wife's name <wink> when verifying/finding a person's name/address by a phone number.NOTE: Individuals with unlisted phone numbers are excluded. Ladies, Forewarned is Forearmed. I cannot stress enough that we are ALL in this together. Computers are the "way of the future" and there is another whole generation coming up into these type of situations, and will continue to come up, which makes "Fighting Back" a necessity. The purpose of this web site is to help keep you from being taken in by these 3-F lotharios ~ 3-F meaning: " Fool 'em, F#ck 'em over, Forget 'em " There's no shame in falling in love with a player. These "online sharks" are very good at what they do. And it's easy for women who are lonely or unhappily married to have their heads turned by these smooth operators. Only women who likewise have gone through this type of experience can understand the true impact and the pain it can cause. Until now, these ... no, I refuse to call them men ... these hi-tech predators have long been getting away with this unwarranted, detrimental violation of women's hearts, minds, and souls ... which, needless to say, only encourages them. Finally, thru Fighting Back, they are being held accountable for their actions. "An ounce prevention is worth a pound of cure." Always give an "online interest" time to "slip up" before you consider meeting him in person. Watch for inconsistencies in his behavior and the personal facts he tells you by keeping notes. The "internet" has become a popular convenient way to find that "special someone", BUT you must always remember "that is a TOTAL stranger" on the other end of that computer connection. All you know about him is: what he tells you!!! A couple of visitors to our web site wrote us that when an online relationship starts having serious overtones, they ask the guy to scan their driver's license and send it to them ... which will show if they were truthful or lied about their age, height, weight, address, etc., plus in many states it will show their social security number to check them out with (for any criminal records or etc.) and a fairly recent picture. NO, you do not have to send him your license in return; men do not have to fear stalkers like women do. Any decent, honest guy will be understanding of your concern for your safety and be willing to supply whatever info you need to make you feel at ease. If they refuse, MOVE ON! The time you're wasting with the wrong guy, you're keeping yourself from the RIGHT GUY. If a guy gives you his real full name and/or address, do not automatically believe it to be true. Married men often give a false real name and/or address, to insure that the wife doesn't find out about his "online flings". How can you find out if a given name/address is true? One easy simple way is to use regular mail and send him an amusing "just friends" greeting card ... BUT don't let him know you are sending it. AND DO NOT PUT YOUR NAME AND RETURN ADDRESS ON IT. If he makes no mention of receiving a card from you, that is very suspect. Okay, it may have been lost in the mail. If it will make you feel better, send a second one and again don't let him know one is coming. Two cards and no mention of receiving them MOVE ON!
WARNING SIGNS HE MAY BE "TAKEN" 1. He says he doesn't like chat rooms ... due to "There's always disruptive teens in chat rooms", "Can't keep up with all the chat on the screen", "it's more personal to talk by IMs," etc. The REAL reason may be: he has a wife / live-in lover who may "pop" into the room. OR, he may be stringing along more than just you and they might happen into the room and blow it for him ... this results in a "cat fight" in the room. 2. You're chatting by IMs and he's suddenly slow to answer He may be shrinking / minamizing the IM screen when the wife/girlfriend/kids/grandkids walk into the room. Kids are very good at "telling Mommy / Grandma". 3. He often asks you to resend your pic, that AOL "ate" his favs or etc. He may be deleting it so his wife / live-in lover doesn't run across it when she's using the computer. 4. His phone number is always either busy or no one answers He may have a separate phone line for his computer and gave you that number instead when you insisted on having his number. He may not want you to have his main number because "someone else" may answer. 5. The marital status on his profile is left blank He may have a wife/live-in lover and this way he can "verbally" pass himself off as being unattached. 6. His profile states: "Already taken" "My heart has already been won" etc. That may be to pacify the wife/live-in lover AND/OR to fool all the "fillies in his stable", each one thinking that it means "HER". Insist that your name be added to his declaration of "not available". 7.He made a screen name "just for you" Aw, how sweet. OR is it to hide online from the wife or other online girlfriend(s), so he won't be interrupted by them while he's busy doing a number on you. 8.His best friend, brother, son or mother emails/IMs you verifying that he is divorced and what a real b*tch his wife was. It could be HIM using another name. At the same time he may "plug" himself, saying: what a great guy he is and how much he loves you, etc. There is NO LIMIT to the deviousness of players. TIP: watch for the same words he commonly misspells, same phrases/expressions/speech patterns, same font&font size&color, or same typing style -- no caps or all caps, or no punctuation, or a lot of dashes, or a lot of ....'s, etc. 9.You're talking on the phone and hear kids in the background He may say it's the TV or it's the neighborhood kids playing outside. He may have called while the wife is out shopping, at Bingo or her bridge game, etc. and those ARE his kids. OR he may tell you he has custody of his kids due to his wife was an unfit mother, or an alcoholic, etc., OR that the ex or Grandmother lives just around the corner and the kids drop in at his place often. 10.He has you to call him only at a specific time For example, he tells you to call after 9 o'clock because the kids (whom he has custody of) or visiting grandkids are in bed then. OR is it, the wife/live-in lover is at her job then. 11. You're chatting and he suddenly signs off If this happens often, he may be signing off every time the wife/live-in lover/kids walk into the room and then tells you he got booted, or had a power failure, etc. 12. He'll only give you a cell number or work number but never a home number. Chances are: he's married or living with someone. 13. He always uses a calling card Could it be because he doesn't want your number to show up on the phone bill? 14. He only calls during work hours He may be using only the company phone ... because there's a wife/live-in lover at home. 15. He doesn't let you call Gives you the chivalrous line that he doesn't want you paying for the long distance calls. Or is it, he may not want to chance "someone else" answering. 16. If you call at an unexpected time does he speak in a low voice as if he doesn't want to be overheard, or is irritated that you called without notice, or says "now is not a good time to call", etc? Yahoo! People Searchhttp://people.yahoo.com/ Often, this site will also show the wife's name <wink> when verifying/finding a person's name/address by a phone number.NOTE: Individuals with unlisted phone numbers are excluded. Ladies, Forewarned is Forearmed. I cannot stress enough that we are ALL in this together. Computers are the "way of the future" and there is another whole generation coming up into these type of situations, and will continue to come up, which makes "Fighting Back" a necessity. The purpose of this web site is to help keep you from being taken in by these 3-F lotharios ~ 3-F meaning: " Fool 'em, F#ck 'em over, Forget 'em " There's no shame in falling in love with a player. These "online sharks" are very good at what they do. And it's easy for women who are lonely or unhappily married to have their heads turned by these smooth operators. Only women who likewise have gone through this type of experience can understand the true impact and the pain it can cause. Until now, these ... no, I refuse to call them men ... these hi-tech predators have long been getting away with this unwarranted, detrimental violation of women's hearts, minds, and souls ... which, needless to say, only encourages them. Finally, thru Fighting Back, they are being held accountable for their actions. "An ounce prevention is worth a pound of cure." Always give an "online interest" time to "slip up" before you consider meeting him in person. Watch for inconsistencies in his behavior and the personal facts he tells you by keeping notes. The "internet" has become a popular convenient way to find that "special someone", BUT you must always remember "that is a TOTAL stranger" on the other end of that computer connection. All you know about him is: what he tells you!!! A couple of visitors to our web site wrote us that when an online relationship starts having serious overtones, they ask the guy to scan their driver's license and send it to them ... which will show if they were truthful or lied about their age, height, weight, address, etc., plus in many states it will show their social security number to check them out with (for any criminal records or etc.) and a fairly recent picture. NO, you do not have to send him your license in return; men do not have to fear stalkers like women do. Any decent, honest guy will be understanding of your concern for your safety and be willing to supply whatever info you need to make you feel at ease. If they refuse, MOVE ON! The time you're wasting with the wrong guy, you're keeping yourself from the RIGHT GUY. If a guy gives you his real full name and/or address, do not automatically believe it to be true. Married men often give a false real name and/or address, to insure that the wife doesn't find out about his "online flings". How can you find out if a given name/address is true? One easy simple way is to use regular mail and send him an amusing "just friends" greeting card ... BUT don't let him know you are sending it. AND DO NOT PUT YOUR NAME AND RETURN ADDRESS ON IT. If he makes no mention of receiving a card from you, that is very suspect. Okay, it may have been lost in the mail. If it will make you feel better, send a second one and again don't let him know one is coming. Two cards and no mention of receiving them MOVE ON!
1. He says he doesn't like chat rooms ... due to "There's always disruptive teens in chat rooms", "Can't keep up with all the chat on the screen", "it's more personal to talk by IMs," etc. The REAL reason may be: he has a wife / live-in lover who may "pop" into the room. OR, he may be stringing along more than just you and they might happen into the room and blow it for him ... this results in a "cat fight" in the room. 2. You're chatting by IMs and he's suddenly slow to answer He may be shrinking / minamizing the IM screen when the wife/girlfriend/kids/grandkids walk into the room. Kids are very good at "telling Mommy / Grandma". 3. He often asks you to resend your pic, that AOL "ate" his favs or etc. He may be deleting it so his wife / live-in lover doesn't run across it when she's using the computer. 4. His phone number is always either busy or no one answers He may have a separate phone line for his computer and gave you that number instead when you insisted on having his number. He may not want you to have his main number because "someone else" may answer. 5. The marital status on his profile is left blank He may have a wife/live-in lover and this way he can "verbally" pass himself off as being unattached. 6. His profile states: "Already taken" "My heart has already been won" etc. That may be to pacify the wife/live-in lover AND/OR to fool all the "fillies in his stable", each one thinking that it means "HER". Insist that your name be added to his declaration of "not available". 7.He made a screen name "just for you" Aw, how sweet. OR is it to hide online from the wife or other online girlfriend(s), so he won't be interrupted by them while he's busy doing a number on you. 8.His best friend, brother, son or mother emails/IMs you verifying that he is divorced and what a real b*tch his wife was. It could be HIM using another name. At the same time he may "plug" himself, saying: what a great guy he is and how much he loves you, etc. There is NO LIMIT to the deviousness of players. TIP: watch for the same words he commonly misspells, same phrases/expressions/speech patterns, same font&font size&color, or same typing style -- no caps or all caps, or no punctuation, or a lot of dashes, or a lot of ....'s, etc. 9.You're talking on the phone and hear kids in the background He may say it's the TV or it's the neighborhood kids playing outside. He may have called while the wife is out shopping, at Bingo or her bridge game, etc. and those ARE his kids. OR he may tell you he has custody of his kids due to his wife was an unfit mother, or an alcoholic, etc., OR that the ex or Grandmother lives just around the corner and the kids drop in at his place often. 10.He has you to call him only at a specific time For example, he tells you to call after 9 o'clock because the kids (whom he has custody of) or visiting grandkids are in bed then. OR is it, the wife/live-in lover is at her job then. 11. You're chatting and he suddenly signs off If this happens often, he may be signing off every time the wife/live-in lover/kids walk into the room and then tells you he got booted, or had a power failure, etc. 12. He'll only give you a cell number or work number but never a home number. Chances are: he's married or living with someone. 13. He always uses a calling card Could it be because he doesn't want your number to show up on the phone bill? 14. He only calls during work hours He may be using only the company phone ... because there's a wife/live-in lover at home. 15. He doesn't let you call Gives you the chivalrous line that he doesn't want you paying for the long distance calls. Or is it, he may not want to chance "someone else" answering. 16. If you call at an unexpected time does he speak in a low voice as if he doesn't want to be overheard, or is irritated that you called without notice, or says "now is not a good time to call", etc? Yahoo! People Searchhttp://people.yahoo.com/ Often, this site will also show the wife's name <wink> when verifying/finding a person's name/address by a phone number.NOTE: Individuals with unlisted phone numbers are excluded. Ladies, Forewarned is Forearmed. I cannot stress enough that we are ALL in this together. Computers are the "way of the future" and there is another whole generation coming up into these type of situations, and will continue to come up, which makes "Fighting Back" a necessity. The purpose of this web site is to help keep you from being taken in by these 3-F lotharios ~ 3-F meaning: " Fool 'em, F#ck 'em over, Forget 'em " There's no shame in falling in love with a player. These "online sharks" are very good at what they do. And it's easy for women who are lonely or unhappily married to have their heads turned by these smooth operators. Only women who likewise have gone through this type of experience can understand the true impact and the pain it can cause. Until now, these ... no, I refuse to call them men ... these hi-tech predators have long been getting away with this unwarranted, detrimental violation of women's hearts, minds, and souls ... which, needless to say, only encourages them. Finally, thru Fighting Back, they are being held accountable for their actions. "An ounce prevention is worth a pound of cure." Always give an "online interest" time to "slip up" before you consider meeting him in person. Watch for inconsistencies in his behavior and the personal facts he tells you by keeping notes. The "internet" has become a popular convenient way to find that "special someone", BUT you must always remember "that is a TOTAL stranger" on the other end of that computer connection. All you know about him is: what he tells you!!! A couple of visitors to our web site wrote us that when an online relationship starts having serious overtones, they ask the guy to scan their driver's license and send it to them ... which will show if they were truthful or lied about their age, height, weight, address, etc., plus in many states it will show their social security number to check them out with (for any criminal records or etc.) and a fairly recent picture. NO, you do not have to send him your license in return; men do not have to fear stalkers like women do. Any decent, honest guy will be understanding of your concern for your safety and be willing to supply whatever info you need to make you feel at ease. If they refuse, MOVE ON! The time you're wasting with the wrong guy, you're keeping yourself from the RIGHT GUY. If a guy gives you his real full name and/or address, do not automatically believe it to be true. Married men often give a false real name and/or address, to insure that the wife doesn't find out about his "online flings". How can you find out if a given name/address is true? One easy simple way is to use regular mail and send him an amusing "just friends" greeting card ... BUT don't let him know you are sending it. AND DO NOT PUT YOUR NAME AND RETURN ADDRESS ON IT. If he makes no mention of receiving a card from you, that is very suspect. Okay, it may have been lost in the mail. If it will make you feel better, send a second one and again don't let him know one is coming. Two cards and no mention of receiving them MOVE ON!
Yahoo! People Searchhttp://people.yahoo.com/ Often, this site will also show the wife's name <wink> when verifying/finding a person's name/address by a phone number.NOTE: Individuals with unlisted phone numbers are excluded. Ladies, Forewarned is Forearmed. I cannot stress enough that we are ALL in this together. Computers are the "way of the future" and there is another whole generation coming up into these type of situations, and will continue to come up, which makes "Fighting Back" a necessity. The purpose of this web site is to help keep you from being taken in by these 3-F lotharios ~ 3-F meaning: " Fool 'em, F#ck 'em over, Forget 'em " There's no shame in falling in love with a player. These "online sharks" are very good at what they do. And it's easy for women who are lonely or unhappily married to have their heads turned by these smooth operators. Only women who likewise have gone through this type of experience can understand the true impact and the pain it can cause. Until now, these ... no, I refuse to call them men ... these hi-tech predators have long been getting away with this unwarranted, detrimental violation of women's hearts, minds, and souls ... which, needless to say, only encourages them. Finally, thru Fighting Back, they are being held accountable for their actions. "An ounce prevention is worth a pound of cure." Always give an "online interest" time to "slip up" before you consider meeting him in person. Watch for inconsistencies in his behavior and the personal facts he tells you by keeping notes. The "internet" has become a popular convenient way to find that "special someone", BUT you must always remember "that is a TOTAL stranger" on the other end of that computer connection. All you know about him is: what he tells you!!! A couple of visitors to our web site wrote us that when an online relationship starts having serious overtones, they ask the guy to scan their driver's license and send it to them ... which will show if they were truthful or lied about their age, height, weight, address, etc., plus in many states it will show their social security number to check them out with (for any criminal records or etc.) and a fairly recent picture. NO, you do not have to send him your license in return; men do not have to fear stalkers like women do. Any decent, honest guy will be understanding of your concern for your safety and be willing to supply whatever info you need to make you feel at ease. If they refuse, MOVE ON! The time you're wasting with the wrong guy, you're keeping yourself from the RIGHT GUY. If a guy gives you his real full name and/or address, do not automatically believe it to be true. Married men often give a false real name and/or address, to insure that the wife doesn't find out about his "online flings". How can you find out if a given name/address is true? One easy simple way is to use regular mail and send him an amusing "just friends" greeting card ... BUT don't let him know you are sending it. AND DO NOT PUT YOUR NAME AND RETURN ADDRESS ON IT. If he makes no mention of receiving a card from you, that is very suspect. Okay, it may have been lost in the mail. If it will make you feel better, send a second one and again don't let him know one is coming. Two cards and no mention of receiving them MOVE ON!
Ladies, Forewarned is Forearmed. I cannot stress enough that we are ALL in this together. Computers are the "way of the future" and there is another whole generation coming up into these type of situations, and will continue to come up, which makes "Fighting Back" a necessity. The purpose of this web site is to help keep you from being taken in by these 3-F lotharios ~ 3-F meaning: " Fool 'em, F#ck 'em over, Forget 'em " There's no shame in falling in love with a player. These "online sharks" are very good at what they do. And it's easy for women who are lonely or unhappily married to have their heads turned by these smooth operators. Only women who likewise have gone through this type of experience can understand the true impact and the pain it can cause. Until now, these ... no, I refuse to call them men ... these hi-tech predators have long been getting away with this unwarranted, detrimental violation of women's hearts, minds, and souls ... which, needless to say, only encourages them. Finally, thru Fighting Back, they are being held accountable for their actions. "An ounce prevention is worth a pound of cure." Always give an "online interest" time to "slip up" before you consider meeting him in person. Watch for inconsistencies in his behavior and the personal facts he tells you by keeping notes. The "internet" has become a popular convenient way to find that "special someone", BUT you must always remember "that is a TOTAL stranger" on the other end of that computer connection. All you know about him is: what he tells you!!! A couple of visitors to our web site wrote us that when an online relationship starts having serious overtones, they ask the guy to scan their driver's license and send it to them ... which will show if they were truthful or lied about their age, height, weight, address, etc., plus in many states it will show their social security number to check them out with (for any criminal records or etc.) and a fairly recent picture. NO, you do not have to send him your license in return; men do not have to fear stalkers like women do. Any decent, honest guy will be understanding of your concern for your safety and be willing to supply whatever info you need to make you feel at ease. If they refuse, MOVE ON! The time you're wasting with the wrong guy, you're keeping yourself from the RIGHT GUY. If a guy gives you his real full name and/or address, do not automatically believe it to be true. Married men often give a false real name and/or address, to insure that the wife doesn't find out about his "online flings". How can you find out if a given name/address is true? One easy simple way is to use regular mail and send him an amusing "just friends" greeting card ... BUT don't let him know you are sending it. AND DO NOT PUT YOUR NAME AND RETURN ADDRESS ON IT. If he makes no mention of receiving a card from you, that is very suspect. Okay, it may have been lost in the mail. If it will make you feel better, send a second one and again don't let him know one is coming. Two cards and no mention of receiving them MOVE ON!
" Fool 'em, F#ck 'em over, Forget 'em "
There's no shame in falling in love with a player. These "online sharks" are very good at what they do. And it's easy for women who are lonely or unhappily married to have their heads turned by these smooth operators. Only women who likewise have gone through this type of experience can understand the true impact and the pain it can cause. Until now, these ... no, I refuse to call them men ... these hi-tech predators have long been getting away with this unwarranted, detrimental violation of women's hearts, minds, and souls ... which, needless to say, only encourages them. Finally, thru Fighting Back, they are being held accountable for their actions. "An ounce prevention is worth a pound of cure." Always give an "online interest" time to "slip up" before you consider meeting him in person. Watch for inconsistencies in his behavior and the personal facts he tells you by keeping notes. The "internet" has become a popular convenient way to find that "special someone", BUT you must always remember "that is a TOTAL stranger" on the other end of that computer connection. All you know about him is: what he tells you!!! A couple of visitors to our web site wrote us that when an online relationship starts having serious overtones, they ask the guy to scan their driver's license and send it to them ... which will show if they were truthful or lied about their age, height, weight, address, etc., plus in many states it will show their social security number to check them out with (for any criminal records or etc.) and a fairly recent picture. NO, you do not have to send him your license in return; men do not have to fear stalkers like women do. Any decent, honest guy will be understanding of your concern for your safety and be willing to supply whatever info you need to make you feel at ease. If they refuse, MOVE ON! The time you're wasting with the wrong guy, you're keeping yourself from the RIGHT GUY. If a guy gives you his real full name and/or address, do not automatically believe it to be true. Married men often give a false real name and/or address, to insure that the wife doesn't find out about his "online flings". How can you find out if a given name/address is true? One easy simple way is to use regular mail and send him an amusing "just friends" greeting card ... BUT don't let him know you are sending it. AND DO NOT PUT YOUR NAME AND RETURN ADDRESS ON IT. If he makes no mention of receiving a card from you, that is very suspect. Okay, it may have been lost in the mail. If it will make you feel better, send a second one and again don't let him know one is coming. Two cards and no mention of receiving them MOVE ON!
If a guy gives you his real full name and/or address, do not automatically believe it to be true. Married men often give a false real name and/or address, to insure that the wife doesn't find out about his "online flings". How can you find out if a given name/address is true? One easy simple way is to use regular mail and send him an amusing "just friends" greeting card ... BUT don't let him know you are sending it. AND DO NOT PUT YOUR NAME AND RETURN ADDRESS ON IT. If he makes no mention of receiving a card from you, that is very suspect. Okay, it may have been lost in the mail. If it will make you feel better, send a second one and again don't let him know one is coming. Two cards and no mention of receiving them MOVE ON!
Re: MARRIED ONLINE MEN
Below are excepts from stories sent in of online romances with/by married men. Listen up, ladies, as this is the way it is with 99% of the married men "playing around" online. Excerpt # 1 -- Then one day I came home and saw he had mistakenly forgot to shut off his computer. I saw love messages that he was receiving from other women! When I questioned him about them, he said that he's just "playing around" with those women. Excerpt # 2 -- Later that night, we talked & he said he was sorry for hurting me so badly and none of it meant anything. It was all just a game to him. He got excited by it & wanted to see what kind of response he would get from the women. He said it excited him to do & say the things he said to all of these women. Excerpt # 3 -- Has anyone ever wondered why some of these married men "suddenly disappear"? I can answer that for one of them...because he was my spouse. I caught him, and grounds for reconciliation were that he give up these "other women" on AOL. I changed his password so he could not sign on and I signed on in his place. Much to my dismay, the women ~ not just one but many ~ came out of the woodwork. When I confronted him, he told me he got thrills from all the attention these women paid to him. Ladies, for your own sakes, do not believe these "woe is me, my wife is so terrible and what a miserable marriage I have" lies. Excerpt # 4 -- I tried to send email and got that ole AOL message - no such member. I cried and cried, afraid something terrible had happened to Mike. A friend found his name, address, and phone number through her military contacts and sent it all to me. I called him to see what was wrong. He told me his wife had come home from work, caught him naked in front of his computer, and he had to get rid of his screen name or she would take the children and leave. He certainly had me fooled. He seemed so sincere about us.
Excerpt # 5 -- He really jerked me around, girls. He almost had me believing he was going to move forward in his life and start fresh with me. Then he started saying things like "Oh what about my girls", and "oh I don't know about the wife" He's the one who said the marriage was worthless to begin with; he's now worried about her reaction??? Duhhhh. Excerpt # 6 -- I found a site called "AOL White Pages" and I gave it a try, punched in his name, city and state ... BINGO!! phone number and street address. I called the number; a woman answered. So I hung up. Then got a friend to call and have a conversation to make sure. Yes, he was married! I was stunned and then blocked him. A few days later, I was comparing another Fighting Back story with this gal and lo and behold it wasn't the story that mattered ... she knew John!!! She had met John just 2 weeks previous and he was indeed a womanizer. So if for one moment I thought I was special, now I knew I too had been scammed. Excerpt# 7 -- He is married to a really great woman. I met her and talked with her. He comes onto women with this lie of how bad his wife is ... and tells us women that he is single ... or separated, or divorced. He even tells us he lives in an apartment ~ but he lives with his wife. He talks so nicely, even sends flowers to our homes ... pays for the telephone bill if you are good at phone sex. He's so good at lying. His typing is slow...but not because he can't type. It's because most of the time he is putting sweet nothings in your ear, he is saying the same to others on another IM. ENTRY FROM OUR GUESTBOOK: THANKS for the wonderful work you do. You are truly an Angel of the Internet! To women and men out there "cybering" with a married person: Do not buy the line about how their spouse is such an awful person. Unless you have met their spouse and know for a fact it is true. And to those who are hellbent on chasing a married person ... what GOES around DOES come around. It never stops amazing me how women will believe these lies from men about how: they are on the verge of divorce, they aren't sleeping with the wife, they are just together for the kids or because of the money, and so on ... these lines are as old as late night bar pick up lines. I am not putting women down ... I happen to be one ... but I haven't fallen for one of those lines since I was 20 years old. If his marriage is as bad as he is claiming, tell him to give you a call when he has divorce papers in hand. Many married men have online liaisons with no thought of leaving their wives. They feel they're not cheating on their wives as there's no actual physical contact. When they tire of one woman, they move on to another. And those women who find out they had been "had" must learn to "let go" and move on. Don't waste your time trying to get him back; it won't happen. Or trying to get "even" by making trouble for him with his wife. The wives are innocent bystanders in this situation. Why hurt them? They did nothing to you. Get with the program ... if he was truly all that unhappy with his wife, he would already be DIVORCED. He says he's only staying for his kids' sake. "IF" that is true, then no way is he going to sacrifice his kids for you either. Think about it. So, Ladies, if he tells you right away he's an unhappily married man and then starts making romantic overtures to you, MOVE ON! Don't become an online toy. Don't believe that "my wife is so terrible" garbage. They throw that out as "bait", to make you think you have a chance with them. Learn from the above shared experiences with married men. One last word, psychological games are played online by BOTH sexes. So I stress, do not be too quick in giving out personal info about yourself. Because someone is of the same gender does not necessarily mean they are trustworthy. Sally might really be "Sam" ..... the stalker!!!
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