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" THE UNIFORM "

is the other BAIT players throw out as women are supposedly drawn to uniforms. So they will claim to be a cop, fireman, pilot, military officer, etc.

The best way is: if you personally know a cop, fireman, pilot, etc., or know of someone who does, have them to give you a list of questions to trip him up with. If not, then ask the following suggested questions. If there is any hesitation, hedging, or stalling in giving you an answer, WRITE HIM OFF.

SAYS HE'S A COMMERICAL PILOT

BACKGROUND: The Pilot, or the Captain, is the Senior Officer; the Co-Pilot, called the First Officer, assists the Captain; and the Flight Engineer, or Second Officer, assists the pilots and monitors operating instruments. Have to be in good health, have good hearing, and 20/20 vision either with or without glasses. He should know the answers to the below questions.

Q. ~ What is the FAA?
    A. ~ Federal Aviation Administration
Q. ~ What is the ALPA?
    A. ~ Airline Pilots Association (which is a Pilots Union)
Q. ~ Ask how many hours a month does he fly?
    NOTE: Pilots are not allowed to fly more than 100 hours a month, and no more than 1000 hours in a year. Most pilots fly only 75 hours a month and spend about another 75 hours doing non-flying work responsibilities.

SAYS HE OWNS HIS OWN PLANE

Web Site For Verifying Plane Ownership:

Aviation Online - Landings.com/

-- If he DOES own his own plane, there should be no reason why he wouldn't give you
   its N number
-- scroll down to N-Number Database (US Reg.) and search for the N-number ID he gave you
ALSO -- this site lists certified pilots.

Ask him which Flight School (and its location) he attended and see if he gives you a right answer.

Flight Schools Directory

SAYS HE'S A COP / DEPUTY / MARSHAL

Ask these questions:
Q. ~ What is the FOP?
    A. ~ The Fraternal Order of Police
Q. What is the BCI?
    A. ~ Bureau of Criminal Investigations
Q. ~ Which academy did he attend and check the below web site for validity (NOTE: must pass both The Written Exam and The Oral Board Review):

Police Academies - Nationwide
http://www.copcareer.com/academy/academy1.htm

MARSHAL / DEPUTY MARSHAL
~ Did he make the common mistake of spelling Marshal with two L's instead of one? If so, he's totally busted!!!
~ Ask if he's a state or federal Marshal. If he says state, check that state to see if it does have Marshals ... only a few states do.
~ Where did he train? The majority of Federal Law Enforcement agencies including the United States Marshals Service (USMS) receive their Basic Training at the Federal Law Enforcement Training Center (FLETC) in Brunswick, Georgia. The training center is located on the former Glynco Naval Base. The FBI, Secret Service and DEA have their own training facilities and do not go to FLETC.
~ A Deputy Marshal (is an operational employee) must successfully complete 13 weeks of Basic training. The 1st 8 weeks cover Criminal Justice training and the last 5 weeks involving USMS Rules, Regulations, Policy and Procedures. More info can be found at:

United States Marshals Service
http://www.usdoj.gov/marshals

SHERIFF DEPARTMENT RANKS: Deputy, Sergeant, Lieutenant, Captain, Major, Chief Deputy, Sheriff (Sheriffs are "elected" officials)

For a brief job description of the various law enforcement levels, click on below link:

Law Enforcement Careers
http://www.police-officer.net

SAYS HE'S A FIREMAN / FIREFIGHTER

Ask him the below questions he should know:
Q - What is the name of the contest for all U.S. and Canadian municipal fire         departments that's held each year?
    A - Firefighters Combat Challenge
Q - Is it an individual competition or a team competition?
    A - Team
Q - How tall is the tower they have to race up and what do they have to take with them?
    A - 5 stories high and carry a hose
Q - What is the name of the dummy they have to drag?
    A - Rescue Randy
Q - How much does Rescue Randy weigh?
    A - 175 lbs

Contest consists of: Wearing 'full bunker gear' and the SCOTT Air+Pak breathing apparatus, firemen perform five tasks: climbing a 5 story tower, hoisting, chopping, dragging hoses, and rescuing a life sized 'victim' dummy as they race against the clock.

SAYS HE'S AN OFFICER IN THE MILITARY

Ask the following questions. He should be able to answer quickly and easily. If there is any stalling, a warning flag should go up. At what base is he stationed? What is his rank/unit? What is his military speciality? If he can't answer the next two questions right ... busted!!! What was his former rank? What is the next rank?

MILITARY RANKS IN ORDER:
2nd Lieutenant, 1st Lt, Captain, Major, Lt Col, Colonel
GENERALS:
1 Star  -- Brigadier General
2 Stars -- Major General
3 Stars -- Lt General
4 Stars -- General
5 Stars -- General of the Army
[ There hasn't been a 5-star General since Eisenhower WWII ]

NAVY RANKS:
Ensign, Lt Jr Grade, Lieutenant, Lt Commander, Commander, Captain
ADMIRALS:
1 Star  -- Rear Admiral (lower half)
2 Stars -- Rear Admiral (upper half)
3 Stars -- Vice Admiral
4 Stars -- Admiral
5 Stars -- Fleet Admiral [ none since WWII ]

Due to the FREEDOM OF INFORMATION ACT, you can send an email inquiry to his military base and ask Public Affairs to verify if he is whom he told you he is. Use a search engine to locate the base's web site for their email address.


WEB  SITES  FOR  VERIFYING
A GUY'S NAME / ADDRESS / PHONE

You should use more than one web site for verification as web sites are updated randomly. NOTE: individuals with unlisted phone numbers are excluded.

Yahoo! People Search
http://people.yahoo.com

AOL White Pages
http://www.aol.com/netfind/whitepages.adp

AnyWho: Internet Directory Assistance (Reverse Look-up)
http://www.anywho.com/telq.html


AT&T Help/Search: Directories (Reverse Lookup)
http://www.att.com/directory

Reverse Lookup - InfoSpace
http://www.infospace.com/pla/reverse.htm

This site not only offers reverse lookup via phone,
BUT also reverse lookup by address.
Type in the street address and city & state and
it will give you the occupant's name and phone number
~ OR ~
leave the house number out and it will give you
the names and addresses of all the neighbors on that street!!!

Welcome to WhoWhere?!
http://www.whowhere.com
NOTE: Only need a first name and last name
and it will give you
their phone number and address.

Some internet users use their zip code as part of their screen name. (Ladies, stalkers watch for this!) Enter the 5 numbers of the screen name and see if it is a zip code. If it is, this site will tell you what city and state it is.

Zip Code Finder -- Reverse Lookup
http://www.yellow.com/zipcode.html

PRACTICAL GUIDELINES

Ladies, neither AOL or any other internet provider screen their customers for being reputable. Lowlifes also frequent the Internet: alcoholics, wife-beaters, drug addicts, con artists, welfare bums, psychotics, freeloaders, womanizers, married men pretending not to be and looking only for an affair(s), men looking just for cyber and/or phone sex due to being impotent or some other sexual dysfunction, OR could even be a convict using the prison library's computer or one at a Halfway House, for his "entertainment" ... or even a serial killer. The keyword is "caution". Take your time and check them out.

What Do We Recommend?:

  • Be skeptical for at least 3-4 months; that is, take everything he tells you "with a grain of salt" until you've thoroughly checked him out ... and DO check him out by following the methods listed in this editorial, saving yourself a possible broken heart ... a broken heart hurts ... bad. Allow yourself plenty of time to get to "really" know the man, which will also allow time for him to slip up ~~ and he will if he's not being straight with you.

  • Keep notes of what he tells you about his personal life. If in time, you find discrepancies in what he has told you, BAIL OUT and fast.

  • If he says he's new to AOL but knows how to cruise the web like a pro, knows how to turn off IMs, knows how to make a private room, etc. He's NOT new to AOL.

  • If he's not on line when you sign on but just happens to pop on every time you do, odds are he was online under one of his other names, saw you sign on, and switched names. Players usually have different screennames for each online love.

  • If he has a 'cutesy' quote on profile, engage in a conversation about it: ask him to expound on it more -- where did the quote come from? ( Stable men are consistent, regular, steady in all of the areas of their lives. They don't feel the need to impress anyone with a profile quote. ) If they take the time to make it 'cute', it is for ATTENTION ... or they are sending a significant message. Take time from the start to get him to explain it. You may uncover real quick what they expect from an online relationship.

  • If he broaches the subject of cyber or phone sex early in the relationship, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to know where his REAL interest lies.

  • Pretend to sign off for the night, then sign on again to a screen name he doesn't know (or tell him that you won't be on that night due to a commitment) and go to the chat room he's in and observe his behavior with other women when you're not around.

  • If he gives you a long sob story and always has a new crisis in his life, Write him off ... he's only a sympathy hound. All he really wants from you are daily "pity parties".

  • All players have a mean streak underneath all that mush. Given time, it will surface and when it does, DO NOT ignore it!

  • He's flying in/driving to see you. So he must love you!!! OR is it, you live in one of the cities regularly visited on his rounds? Players who travel for a living often use the AOL member directory, personal ads, etc. to find women for the purpose of having a girl in every port.

  • Did he really sign off line, OR did he just switch to another screen name? Research the member directory to see if he has screen names you don't know about. (Instructions on how to research the member directory are provided at our website in "PLAYER'S BAG OF TRICKS")

  • Is he blocking you when he's online? the woman he professes to love??!! (Instructions on how to find out if you're being blocked are also found at our website in "PLAYER'S BAG OF TRICKS")If he's blocking you, then you should reconsider having a relationship with him.


Bottom-line: -- Players move fast, quick with the:
             "I love you's"
             "You're my soul mate I'd given up finding"
             "Let's meet so we can cultivate our love" etc.
Reality: ... "love at first chat" happens only on rare occasions.

Once you find out the guy is a jerk, don't WASTE one more second of your life on him. Move on, and the sooner, the better. There are many, many fish in the Internet Ocean. Don't settle for someone with questionable behavior just because they give you the attention that we ALL crave. Just think ~ the more time you spend with the wrong guy, the more time you are wasting and keeping yourself from being with the right guy for you.

If in need of a chuckle, check out the MR RIGHT REJECTION FORM LETTER in our Online Smiles and Chuckles section.

Beware of Boys
- author unknown -

A heart is not a play thing,
a heart is not a toy,
But if you want it broken,
Just give it to a boy.

Boys like to play with things
To see what makes them run,
But when it comes to kissing,
They do it just for fun.

Boys never give their hearts away
They play us girls for fools,
They wait until we give our hearts
And then they play it cool.

You will wonder where he is at night
You will wonder if he's true,
One moment you will be happy,
One moment you will be blue.

If you get a chance to see him
Your heart begins to dance
Your life revolves around him,
There's nothing like romance.

And then it starts to happen,
You worry day and night.
You see, my friend, you're losing him
It never turns out right.

Boys are great, though immature.
The price you pay is high,
He may seem sweet and gorgeous
But remember, he's a guy.

Don't fall in love with just a boy
That takes a lot of nerve.
You see, my friend, you need a MAN
To get what you deserve.

So when you think that you're in love,
Be careful if you can
Before you give your heart away
Make SURE that he's a man.

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