APPENDIX H - A PURPOSEFUL LIFE

                   to narrate the basis for
                 "minding one's own business"
 
                              by
                           H.L.Otto
                              to
                       personal library
 
                       Atchison  Kansas
                         October 1993
 
                 Runner: Self-business wisdom
 Thinking with words
       Review.  All individuals think about their business of
 spending their own time.
       Summary.  This wording writes using some Theory W
 words as a way.
       Next.  Apply the principles as a experimental
 treatment and evaluate the measured wholehour results in a
 future weekly review.
       What.  "I like physical contact," including a hand on
 the shoulder, a handshake, hugging, marital foreplay, and
 the synergism of sex.  Thus my physical attractedness and my
 physical attractiveness provide the entrance to a
 relationship.
       When.  Seemingly, for over eleven years, I have always
 been in the relationship marketplace - the relationplace.
 

 
 
 
 
 
 Focus                                          Theory W a301
 The reason for being there can be seen as hierarchical need
 fulfillment, thus I need to continue being in the
 relationplace at all times, unless I take myself out of the
 relationplace for reason of refocus - to repair the self, as

 in making course corrections for future action.71
       Where.  From experience, a large metropolitan area
 singles ministry affords the opportunity for viewing and
 interviewing potential relationship partners.  I am also
 viewed and interviewed therefore I must be principled and
 practiced.  "Be prepared."
       Why.  The activities of viewing and interviewing
 precede a relationship which can be better described as a
 partnership.  The partnership term designates a structure
 where both partners contribute to the partnership primarily
 for themselves and secondarily for the other.  This means
 that the partnership bases upon independence rather than
 codependence.  Each partner depends on the other for the
 other to be independent in thought and talk.  Partnership
 talk, however, demands correlative initiative.
       Web.  The linear sequence of weekly review activities
 - (a) reorient to principles, (b) invite talk, (c)
 experience synergism,72 (d) grow closer, and (e) "live

 ____________________
 
       71 If in a monogamous relationship, marriage
 included, one freezes the marketplace to the duality of the
 partnership.
 

 
 
 
 
 
 Focus                                          Theory W a302

 happily ever after" - even if remaining single.

 Resultant principles
       Four principles are apparent from the above thoughts.
 In knowing myself, the principles are prioritized as (1) sex
 which also bases on mental contact, (2) independent
 organization of both partners, (3) the synergism of
 correlative initiative, and (4) partnership which

 contributes to each other's growth and good feelings.

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       72 The experience of synergism cannot be controlled,
 it happens from correlative initiative.
 

 
 
 
 
 
 Focus                                          Theory W a303
 
 Table H51 - The attractiveness of individualsa ____________________________________________________________
 
          Physical attractedness (yes or no)
            Mental attractiveness
 Self         Comment
 ________ _ _ _______________________________________________
 
 Harv     y y needs to sharpen individualness and challenging
 Lois     n y searching for growth yet seems sharing-poor
 Irene    n y has loving time available
 Machelle y y "is not ready for relationship"
 Patricia y y wants a "sugar daddy"
 Donna    y n she hates narrow corporates and is one
 Marilyn  y n looking without giving a second chance
 April    y n intellect dulled by valium dependency
 Carla    y n recently oversized and still embroiled
 Jeanenne n n poor in her independence for growth
 Dori     n n somewhat timid yet challenging for sharing
 Jaunita  y n "relationship is retarded child"
 Coleen   n y demands commitment from a non-relationship
 Carlene  n n downsized and oversized, facilitates services
 Janice   n n lives in her dead husband's world
 CarolAnn n n never responded to written challenge
 Kathy    n y poor in life quality
 Roselea  n n job success was her whole life
 Ruby     n y chooses to be servant (controller?) of kids
 ____________________________________________________________
 Note: Attractiveness expressed in current yes or no
 feelings.  Based on 92-94 activity with Village Singles
 which also affords excellent educational opportunities.
       a The Theory W term of woo-viewing or woo-ing for
 short.
       Personal aim.  In afterthought, I am going about my
 business of running my self-organization, fulfilling all of
 its needs, and at the same time looking for partnership
 arrangements, not to codepend and thus interfere with my
 organization performance, but to facilitate mine and the
 other's growth.  The partner correlation describes better
 than goal congruence or cooperation.
 

 
 
 
 
 
 Focus                                          Theory W a304
       The impact of 64 biblical verses paraphrased under the
 category entitled "Another's spirit may not look after your
 spirit" has prompted the following section.
       The wisdom of one's spirit.  As facilitated by a
 Village Church educational opportunity, Harv proceeded to
 investigate the active essence of life as internalizing the
 Holy Spirit, making himself a wholly spirit - seeking to
 make that special imprint or soul of his, known to others,
 in ways which present mental vigor, animation, cheerfulness,
 liveliness, vivacity, independence for the parties, a bodily
 constitution that is a source of energy and strength,
 briskness, ardor, enthusiasm, courage, firmness,
 assertiveness, mettle, loyalty, and joyfulness.  Switching
 from the dictionary of our culture to some bible study.
       We enter and move through the bible by using a
 concordance.  The words spirit, spirits, spiritual, and
 spiritually provide 690 occurances for paraphrasing.
       A sentence-structure summary of the paraphrase
 categories follows.  The order represents the sequence of
 how a new category came to be when the next passage

 paraphrase didn't seem to fit the previous categories.
 

 
 
 
 
 
 Focus                                          Theory W a305
 
 Table H52 - Categories of the spirit
 ____________________________________________________________
 
 Categories for the 690 paraphrases of the root word spirit.
 ____________________________________________________________
 
 Humans know the joys of traveling and movement.
 The essence of human life is spirit.
 The spirit resides in all levels of human condition.
 The spirit of God is meant to be within each individual.
 The human spirit grows from past and present generations.
 The spirit is meant to represent individualism - choice.
 Mend a broken spirit first then the individual can listen.
 From an internalized spirit comes favorable attributes.
 Another's spirit may not look after your spirit.
 Spirited individuals have whollistic vision for their future.
 Spirited people are open, work hard, talk, and write.
 Spirited individuals are restless.
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 Note: The 690 paraphrases and their groupings are detailed
 in the CHURCHxx files of Theory C (disk H at this time).
       The paraphrase and categorization are highly
 personalized, reflecting how Harv sees his world and how he
 has taken the concepts of scientific case-study, life-time
 in whole-hours, spirited life, God, and spirit references in

 the Bible to enhance his way in life.