Adults need to gain a clearer
understanding of what is abusive to
children and of how devastating abuse can be.
A new understanding will result in improved choices, so our
children will then have a better chance to grow up
to live healthy and happy lives.
This photo suggests a child's view of the world.
The abusive experiences happened when I was very young. They happened while my parents were struggling with the responsibilities of a growing family and a new business. In their struggle, they failed to use common sense and to treat their children with respect.
After those difficult years, the lives of my parents settled down. I was lucky enough to gain strength as I grew up in a stable and positive atmosphere. In some ways, I got my life together as I became an adult. But those early abusive experiences remained in my mind, so as the years went by, I found that my life was full of constraints, limitations, and major emotional struggles.
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This is April 11, 2024, and I am shutting down this site.
My hope was that it could help people, and move society in the right direction.
Around 1992 I bought a book that described one individuals experiences in recovery
over a 30 year period. I found it helpful, so posted on this site, in an attempt to also be helpful.
Today, recovering from abuse is complex, different people require different experiences.
As well, our world has become extremely complex, so advice from the past can be misleading.
I am not an expert.
(Most of my experience is from the last century.)
I wish you luck in finding advice from an expert.This site should have an impact on people who generalize that:
For many children, these and other misconceptions can be brutal.
- small children have small emotions
- children are resilient, they can take anything
- children soon forget, so the impact of abuse is only temporary
Each child reacts differently to very difficult experiences. While some gain strength, others are weakened and damaged. Many children are simply not capable of coping well with difficult experiences.
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