June 1999
Issue 2
JA Hale, Editor
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> => Welcome
> => Feature Article:The Keys to
Landing the
Job You Want
> => Household Tip
> => Parenting Tip
> => Keeping Romance Alive
> => Pampering Yourself
> => How to be a Guest Columnist
=> Guest Column:
How Can I Become My Best?
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> FEATURE ARTICLE, THE KEYS TO LANDING THE JOB YOU
WANT
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by JA Hale
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PS: Although this is a bit unusual, I've decided to begin this
month's article, at the end with a post script. The more I've read back
over this in the weeks since it's completion, the more I've realized that
in reality much of what I've been talking about does not JUST pertain to
getting the job you want. No, much of what I have written so far
also relates to how to get just about ANYTHING you want. So next month,
the focus of my series will change slightly. The topic will be expanded
to How to achieve anything you want to achieve...Having said that, let's
begin!
Last month we began our series (I didn't know it was a series either; but, it is now!) of effective job strategies by discussing the importance of valuing yourself! Now that you have learned how truly incredible you are, it's time to figure out what it is you want to do. Some of you may be shocked that I'm even bringing this topic up. You KNOW what you want tod do. You may have always known what it is you want to do. You may just be trying to figure out a way to do it! If so, you are one of the lucky few.
More commonly, individuals really don't know what they want to do (are you breathing a sigh of relief yet to find out you're not the only one). Oh sure, they know what they've always DONE, but what they've done may not be what they WANT to do. And when what you've DONE is NOT what you WANT you continually feel as though you're swimming upstream. You probably won't ever be as successful as you'd like to be.
So the second step in our progression towards landing the job of your dreams is to determine what kind of job that is. Where do we begin?
To some, the question, "what is the job of your dreams?" can seem so overwhelming. Maybe you've never thought of it before. Maybe it's been so long since you've had dreams, you've forgotten what they were. Maybe you're so buried under all of your responsibilities that having the job of your dreams seems more like a fantasy. Maybe..But it's time to dream again!! Perhaps we can take the first steps together and work towards determining what it is you really want to do.
To start you're going to have to spend some time alone! I know that can be frightening for some of you but it's the only way. To determine what you really WANT to do, you've got to get back in touch with yourself. So find a quiet place or a quiet time to be alone. Okay, I know you moms are laughing at me right now. Quiet place? Quiet time? Right!! But it IS possible. You may have to wait until your children go to bed. You may have to put them to bed a half hour earlier. You may have to warn your spouse that you'll be wanting time alone. You may have to PLAN your time alone, but it CAN be done. DO IT and it will payoff in spades!
Now that you've found some time alone, make yourself comfortable. Do whatever it takes. Light some candles, play some soft music, fill the air with your favorite fragrance, relax and remember. What I want you to remember are the things you enjoyed doing as a child. Did you enjoy:
performing
writing photography
journalism
math history
physical ed
cooking sewing
gardening
animals drawing
painting
band business
Think back; really think and make a list. You might find there were a number of things you enjoyed. That's okay. Write them all down.
Now, think back to what you were good at. Maybe you were good at many of the same things you enjoyed. Maybe you were good at something else entirely. Take your time and remember. Then make another list.
By now you should have two lists: a list of activities you enjoyed as a child and a list of activities for which you displayed some talent. Look at where your lists intersect and make a third list of activities you enjoyed AND were good at.
Some of you may be wondering why I just didn't instruct you to make this third list to begin with. It's because had I suggested that you jump right into activities you enjoyed and were good at , you may have inadvertently left something out. And that something you may have left out could have been what it is you really want to do and what it is you realistically can do. I'm trying to encourage you to maximize your possibilities by creating lists that are as thorough as possible. So, if you cheated, go back and create those first two lists.
Your third and final list can be your starting point for determining what you WANT to do. Is there anything on there that you could make money at immediately. For example, if you liked writing, could you create greeting cards, or free lance for a number of magazines? If you liked math could you be an accountant or a bookkeeper or a math teacher? If you liked performing could you teach drama or an instrument? Could you teach at a music school. If you liked athletics could you be a personal trainer or a coach or a gym teacher? If you liked cooking, could you be a chef or a caterer? If you liked sewing, could you be a tailor or a seamstress or could you do alterations?
Brainstorm with your third list. Let the sky be the limit. This is NOT the time to tell yourself why this won't work or why that won't work, just brainstorm. Think outside the box. be creative like you were as a child and what you'll discover is a list of possibilities and a level of excitement you probably have not experienced in years. It's probably been a long time since you've even thought about your dreams let alone taken the first steps towards pursuing them!
Isolate a few possibilities that you BELIEVE are more realistic to achieve given your background and financial constraints. Focus on those; believe in those; vow to pursue those and next month, we'll explore how...
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HOUSEHOLD TIP OF THE MONTH:
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Replace expensive glass cleaner with a solution of ammonia and water.
Use it on your mirrors, glass surfaces, and any other areas you'd normally
clean with glass cleaner. You'll find ammonia and water streak less.
If you want an easy way to eliminate streaks completely, wipe off your
ammonia and water solution with old newspapers. Don't worry about
the newsprint. It won't come off. Surfaces dry clean and streak
free!
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PARENTING TIP OF THE MONTH
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Look for positive behavior in your children and reward it. Even
if and especially if it's something you may take for granted. For
example, if your child is playing nicely alone or with another child, compliment
him or her. If your child is being good in a restaurant, reward him
or her. And if you're in a discussion you don't want to interrupt
in order to compliment or reward your child, scratch their backs, pat them
on the shoulder or touch them in some appropriate way they enjoy that will
give them positive attention.
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ON KEEPING ROMANCE ALIVE
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Go to the library and check out a guidebook for the city or region
where you live. Visit someplace you've never seen before. Make
it even better and bring along a picnic complete with candles a table cloth
and a bottle of wine.
excerpted from, "1001 Ways to be Romantic" by
Gregory J.P. Godek copyright 1991
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ON PAMPERING YOURSELF
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Take a bath. Make it a truly pleasurable experience. Light
candles, read a book or magazine, use your favorite bubble bath or bath
fragrance. Sit and think. Take this time as your own.
Allow no interruptions. Be with yourself!
excerpted from: 77 Ways to Pamper Yourself, by JA
Hale, copyright 1999
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Guest Column: How Can I
Become My Best
BY: Bipin Bora
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My question to myself is:"How can I become my best?"
I must look into my five areas of my life and see if
each one of them are at their best...
1) Health:
Am I of the right weight?
Do I have the correct body fat percent?
Do I breathe well and deeply?
Do I eat always correctly?
Do I have good muscular strength?
Do I have "elasticity" in my muscles?
Have I eliminated all my bad habits, such as putting
the wrong "food" into my body, lungs, liver, etc.?
2) Family?
Do I have good relationships with all the members of my
family?
Have I resolved my relationships with my parents?
Have I placated" my siblings?
Am I a giver of life to my friends?
Do I really think about the best for my kids, if any?
Do I truly love my spouse/GF/BF/SO, if any?
Am I looking to meet the right people in the right persons, to
"romance"?
Do I truly care about all other relatives' welfare?
Do I have a "deep" relationship to let my children know their
roots?
Do I really know what is a family and how to be a part of it?
3) Finance?
Am I being the best that I can be in earning?
Am I in the right job?
Am I at my best at all times?Do I give 100% during the time I work?
Am I at the correct career path?
Do I love my job?
Do I enjoy being called X, where X is my title in my job?
Am I maximizing my income potential
Do I really get along with my employer/employees, if any?
Do I have a vision for myself in the next 3, 5, 10 years?
Shall I be happy with who I can become in ten years?
Do I have a great retirement plan?
4) Spiritual Life:
Do I have a great relationship with God?
Do I really know God?
If I am an atheist, how did I conclude that?
If I believe in God, am I doing all that can needs to be done as a
follower of God?
Am I the same when no one else sees me?
Am I really pure and honest in the eyes of my God?
5) Mental/Intellectual
Do I have a great learning plan?
Do I have good control over my emotions?
Can I always manage my emotions well?
Am I always at the best of my emotions?
Am I learning always something new?
Do I have an open mind?
Do I know the works of the greatest thinkers of all
time?
Do I always question my belief system to better it?
Do I have a support cast who can guide me in case I am
off track?
Do I learn something new everyday?
Do I have an intellectual curiosity?
Do I truly love life and learning?
Hopefully these questions will motivate us to be the
best that we can be and make the ones around us also better! Cheers
everyone!
Bipin Bora May 4, 1999 List Moderator of "Be Your Best" at onelist.com
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Copyright 1999, JA Hale
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