Wife not interested in intercourse
Question:
I've married 4 years ago, and I have a 3 years old
daughter. My wife is not interested in sex at all. We’ve tried
several doctors but [with] no progress. I do masturbate a lot, which
caused some bad effects but I can’t stop as we live in Canada, where you
can’t marry more than one wife. Is this a good reason to marry a second
wife, or is there any other solution to my problem?
Answer:
Praise be to Allaah, and peace
and blessings be upon His Messenger.
I ask Allaah to help you, my
brother, to cope with this problem which you are suffering from, and which has
to do with the mother of your daughter, the closest of people to you.
I would like to make three points
to you:
1. You are permitted to enjoy
your wife in any of the ways which Allaah has permitted to you. This includes
masturbation by her hand.
2. The reason you have mentioned
in your question is sufficient grounds for taking another wife.
3. If you can find no other
solution to this problem except divorcing this woman, between whom and you there
is no longer any relationship in the marital bed, and marrying another woman
afterwards, there is nothing wrong with that, in shaa’ Allaah. You should
consult the brothers around you who know your situation, and seek the guidance
of Allaah by praying istikhaarah. May Allaah guide you to the right way.
May Allaah bless our Prophet
Muhammad.
