I’ve been thinking lately about the admonishment to “love others as you love yourself” and about how if you don’t love yourself, you may not love others either; but with a new ponderance that similarly those who hate themselves, may hate others as well. In relation to that, I’ve been pondering about how many people who commit crimes against others, are people who hate themselves, so that they have a disregard for others. And where does that hate originate from? I believe it originates with how people are treated as children—damaged children grow up to be damaged adults.

Several years ago I used to watch Dr. Phil’s show regularly, and I recall some words he used to state, such as that it takes a thousand “atta-boys” to undo just one putdown. Dr. Phil also used to tell parents in regards to love, that children “need to hear the words.” I’ve heard it said it’s easier to “fix” a child than to “fix” an adult. All caregivers of children have an awesome responsibility as to the formation of those children into adults; however, even though it’s impossible to be a perfect parent or caregiver, it’s important to readily recognize when we’ve messed up and to apologize when we do—and—to always make sure children feel loved, not only with our words, but also with our actions.

I always say it’s important to understand the “why behind the who” when it comes to trying to understand people. Perhaps rather than seeing people as “bad people,” we could view them as “unloved people,” which gives a whole different perspective. May we be more mindful about the significance of love—loved people love others.

Turn hate into love. Love one another—Love Is The Answer.

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