The midwives in history have always played a role in helping moms not only with birth but with practical experience in everyday situation. The Bible teaches in Titus 2:3,4 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, So you can see that we have a responsibility to teach younger women how to love their children. I am sorry to say in a lot of situations the older women have not taught the younger women. Because of this we have a void in some young people's lives. Children have grown up hateful, without love, and I feel one of the reasons there is so much violence in this world is because there is a lack of understanding on what love is.
Love is having a concern about someone's well being. It can be expressed in a number of different ways. Caring for others, not because of money, is one way. The mother and father love their children not because they are going to receive money from them but because they have a concern about that child's well being.
Buying the child every new toy on the market is not a way of showing love. Why? Because then love is expressed in what they receive. (Do you understand what I mean?) In my household all the children have to learn to give love. I teach this by requiring that they give to the family without receiving something in return.
To love someone is to have a deep concern for their well being. It is really hard to be selfish if you are thinking about someone else's need. We do this as mother's by giving of ourself's in pregnancy, labor, birth and then on a day to day basics by breastfeeding, getting up at night, changing the baby,............as you can see having a baby changes your whole life. When you are not feeling good or when you are tired you still have to LOVE your baby; to give of yourself.
The rewards of mothering are tremendos. When you see your baby give you that first smile, or when you see how the baby needs you and wants you can be so rewarding. I fall in love with my baby while it is in utero, when I first see it and when I realize how much this baby needs me. There becomes a realization that this baby is mine and this baby needs me to nurse him/her. The satisfaction comes when the baby has grown, is happy and maturing. You come to realize that you were needed. There is nothing better.
The most common question I hear is I don't think I could have 12 children, and my usual reply is; well, children usually do not come in a litter, they come one at a time. God gives you the grace to have a large family, he prepares you.
The more children you have the more love you have to give. My children work together so they have a relationship of sharing and giving. The lessons taught are then reflected as they have children.
