Men's Responses to the Loss of a Baby

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Men's Grief...

• I feel like so much wieght is on my shoulders - everyone looks to me to be strong.
• I'm afraid I'll make my partner feel worse if I show my emotions, so I'll keep them to myself.
• All she does is cry. I'm tired of seeing her sad.
• I feel myself being turned off by my partner.
• My partner and I don't have sex as often as we did before the baby died. I'd like to have sex more often but she doesn't want to.
• I wonder if I did anything to cause the baby to die. Did I drink too much, have negative thoughts, or....?
• I find myself wishing we could be normal again. Will that ever be?
• Ir's not always logical, but I sometimes resent my partner since we lost the baby. She gets all the attention.
• My partner seems to have withdrawn love from me and dwells on the fact that the baby died.
• My partner seems to need more than I can give right now in terms of both affection and attention.
• My partner and I seem more distant since we lost the baby. We don't talk about important issues, we don't seem to have much in common anymore.
• I'm concerned whether or not we should become pregnant again....what will happen to us if we lose another baby?
• My attention needs are greater than they used to be. I feel I have to compete for attention.
• I don't think we were ready to have a baby. I worry that my thoughts caused the death.
• We can't agree on when to get pregnant again. It's starting to cause a conflict.
• I'm not able to concentrate on anything. I'm very forgetful. Is that normal?
• My dreams frighten me. They're so real...
• My partner and I seem to talk and talk, but we never get anything important resolved.
• I hate coming home from work and seeing her depressed again. Can't we be happy once in a while?
• Someone we know had a healthy baby at the same time our baby was due. How can I stand watching that child grow up?
• I've been sick a lot since the baby died. Does that have anything to do with grief?
• I find that I want to talk and talk about the loss - more than anything else, I need someone to listen.
• I am worried about how we're going to make out financially. There are so many bills to pay.
• I feel like such a failure. Other men have healthy babies - why couldn't I??