Suggestions For Dealing With Grief...

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Normal Grieving
Men's Reactions to Grief

Healing Suggestions...

• Talk about the baby and your feelings with your partner, family, and friends. It may sound trite, but it's an excellent way to release bottled up emotions.
• Try to resume old and start new as a couple and as individuals.
• Eat a balanced diet that includes milk, meat, vegetables, fruits and whole grains. (or alternatives to these for all you vegetarians out there!)
• Avoid junk and
• Drink 8 glasses of liquids a day.
• Don't drink caffiene because it can cause headaches, dehydration, and lower back pain.
• Do something active every day.
• Avoid tobacco because it depletes the body of vitamins, and causes other problems.
• Don't drink alcoholic beverages because they depress body function, natural emotional expression, and contribute to depression.
• Avoid increased work activity.
• Maintain rest patterns even if unable to sleep.
• Read books, articles, and poems that provide understanding, comfort and reassurance so you do not feel so alone.
• Avoid scare literature, such as technical medical information.
• Keep a diary of thoughts, memories, or mementos.
• Write letters, notes, poems to or about the baby.
• Schedule a physical exam about four months after the loss to assess your physical health as your body may demonstrate responses to grief, also.
• Avoid new or uncertain trips. Coping mechanisms and reflexes are impairedmaking judgments difficult.
• Don't put away baby clothes until you are ready.
• Don't let others make decisions for you.
• Admit to yourself and family when you need help. This can lessen your pain and lonliness.
• Accept help from others. Let others know specific things they can do for you.
• Allow family and friends to share your grief and let them offer their support.
• Attend a support group. People who have been there can provide a better understanding and support.
• Let yourself grieve the way you need to, and don't let others tell you to stop.