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9-8-06

 

I made my choice. Talk to work Monday and get the facts and time frame. Find out about hours modification. I will enter day treatment to see me through after Monday. I will be safe while going through this latest storm.

What do I need?

 

Antecedents

Beginning August 20th I had very little sleep. I felt tired everyday, feeling alone, and was afraid of the night. I felt like I was nowhere or standing still, but not moving in the right direction. Beginning August 21st I worked more hours than normal because there were a lot of therapist absences and kids beginning new programming. Beginning August 28th, I began to be required to be at The Center beginning at 8am, which then required me to leave my house at 6:30am and not return until about 6pm. During the week of the 20th I did cease to take Rozerem and for a week I used Melatonin which ran out on the 28th. I was without my daytime medication beginning in July and ending around August 15th. Thus, I was also suffering the effects of no daytime medication. Finally, my boss announced she was leaving around August 20th. I received a letter of reprimand on August 30th.

 

Behaviors

With the lack of sleep, I began to lose judgment. I began to fear irrationally which made me unable to discuss my job situation with my supervisor adequately. I was at a disadvantage. My head became cloudy and I became unclear about my future with the company and with life in general. I continued to sleep anywhere from three to no hours of sleep. My eating also decreased significantly to the point that I was only eating one meal a day, if that. I also relied heavily on caffeine and not water. I also did not use my support systems as I should and had difficulty asking for help. I began to feel energized, but very agitated and confused. Negative thoughts became my main thoughts and were pounding all day long to the point that I could not concentrate on any work. Devising a way to kill myself became the only option.

 

Consequences

As a result of the lack of sleep I became sleep deprived. In the mornings I would fall asleep at the wheel and almost get in an accident. At work, for the first few hours I did nothing but fall asleep and doodle on paper. I was essentially useless in the morning hours. In the afternoon hours I would work extremely hard to make up for the work in the morning. By evening I would then be exhausted after filling four hours with eight hours worth of work. I stopped really cooking dinner, doing laundry or other daily living activities. I isolated myself and did not talk very much on the phone or the internet. Most of my internet use in the last few days before hospitalization dealt with finding a feasible way to kill myself. I also began to only think of what killing myself might to do other people and if I cared. I also over-focused on work and the mistakes that were made and why I was being punished so harshly. I was ruminated a lot on this subject which made it unable for me to think about anything else.

The final consequence was finding a viable way to kill myself and then increasing the meds and the doses to make sure it was lethal. I bought all the medication and I bought blades. After deciding not to kill myself, I used the blades to harm both of my arms. Eventually a friend found her way to me and I was taken into the hospital.

 

Job Options

These are all of the possible options that may happen regarding my employment with the Matthews Center.

 

  1. The Center agrees to the modification of my hours and I report to work at 10:30am and work until 4pm, with two and a half hours of work done at home to round out eight hours.

 

  1. The Center decides to put me back to working for the in-home program from home with supervision with paperwork. I get to make my hours again.

 

  1. The Center decides to put me back to working for the in-home program from home, but they decide my hours every day, as long as the earliest I wake is 7:30am.

 

  1. The Center denies my appeal to modify my work schedule and want to keep me at 8am-4pm at the center.

 

As a consequence of my employment status at The Center, these will be my options:

 

  1. If my hours are modified with The Center, I will continue to work while I look for another job. I will take another job if it becomes available and I am not returned to the home program.

 

  1. I continue looking for a job and only switch jobs if I find another job of equal statue somewhere else.

 

  1. I will continue looking for a job and if I find another job that is close to the same pay, I will switch.

 

  1. I will have to terminate my employment with The Center, immediately look for another job and take any job that comes my way.

 

My living arrangements will be as follows depending upon employment:

 

  1. I will able to keep my apartment and living style, but make a clear budget and try to save money.

 

  1. I will be able to keep my apartment and full living style.

 

  1. I will be able to keep my apartment and full living style.

 

  1. My living status will be unknown and I will need to have a list of alternatives.

 

Since my living style is the same for the first three arrangements, I will provide options for the last arrangement.

 

Here are all the known living arrangements that I can make:

 

  1. No change

 

  1. Find a roommate or a cheaper apartment

 

  1. Live with mom with all my animals

 

  1. Live with mom with all animals but ferret

 

  1. Live with mom without cats and ferret

 

  1. Live with mom without all animals

 

  1. Live with dad with all animals

 

  1. Live with dad with all animals but ferret

 

  1. Live with dad without cats and ferret

 

  1. Live with dad without all animals

 

  1. Live with a friend without animals

 

  1. Live in a shelter without animals

 

Here are the arrangements I can make regarding my animals

 

  1. Linus lives with me

 

  1. Linus lives with my mom

 

  1. My cats can live with me

 

  1. My cats can live with Kai

 

  1. My cats can live with Laura

 

  1. My cats can be taken in by someone I can’t think of

 

  1. My ferret can live with me

 

  1. My ferret can be taken in by someone I can’t think of

 

  1. My ferret is given away

 

Here are the different money scenarios

 

  1. No change

 

  1. I have one month of money and rent left and then I will be broke without another job

 

  1. I have one month of money and rent left and then I will have about half of what I make now

 

Here are the consequences:

 

  1. Status quo

 

  1. I live in my apartment for one more month while I find alternative housing for myself and my animals

 

  1. I live in my apartment for one more mouth while I see about a roommate, cheaper apartment, I ask my parents for help or I choose to move in with someone

 

Best case scenario: No change to anything- hours work for me and so does the money

 

Worst case scenario: I lose my job and I am not able to get a new job within one month, I have to give my animals to others for safe keeping, and I lose my apartment and must decide to either live at a shelter or with one of my parents.

 

Do I lose everything? No: my animals will be okay living with someone else why I get on my feet and I will get them back one day; my apartment is lost, but I will have somewhere to go while I get back on my feet; my money is lost until I can get another job, but I will find another job and eventually have money again; insurance is lost, but I can apply for Cobra which is cheaper than going without insurance; counseling is lost if I have to move to Alabama for a while; psychiatrist is lost if I have to move to Alabama for a while; I can keep my medical team in place even if I have to move in with my mom or friend or shelter.

 

What do I lose? Apartment living for a few months, animals for a few months, counseling for a month, and money for a few months.

 

Every option pertains to only a few months. This is not long-term or even permanent. This is the reality of the situation. A far cry from losing everything.

 

Order of living preferences:

 

  1. No change.

 

  1. Cheaper apartment

 

  1. Roommate

 

  1. Talk to mom about moving back in with Linus, ask Kai or Laura to take my cats and find a new home for the ferret.

 

  1. Give Linus to my mom, cats to friends, ferret away and find a shelter.

 

  1. Talk to Dad about moving back in with all of my animals.

 

  1. Move in with Dad without all or some animals

 

Basic things to do:

 

  1. Find Cobra paperwork and get ready to submit the paperwork

 

  1. Do a budget and figure out how much money I will have in the next few months according to job status

 

  1. Begin to find alternative homes for my animals

 

  1. Make a treatment plan about what I must do to remain healthy

 

  1. Talk to parents or friends about living arrangements

 

  1. Find a new job- email, call, call in favors from contacts

 

  1. Get The Center stuff ready for return if necessary

 

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