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YOU DO WHAT I WANT YOU TO DO BEFORE YOU GET TO DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO.

               - First you work, then you play. -


To teach a child to carry out his/her responsibilities, 
require the less preferred activity to come before a more
preferred activity.


Activities a child likes to do can be used to REINFORCE 
doing things a child cares less about.

                Activities can be used as reinforcers.


The following are examples of Grandma's Rule:

   "You can play ball when you finish your homework."

   "When everybody is seated at the table and quiet, 
    father will say Grace and we can eat."

   "Eat your vegetables and then you can have some pie."

   "When your room is picked up, I've got a special treat 
    for you."


   "Take your bath and then you can have some cookies and 
    milk."

   "You can go out and play after you take out the trash."


The following are NOT examples of Grandma's Rule:

   "You can go and play if you'll do your homework later."
   "Sure, Mom."

   "You can go to the movies tonight, if you'll clean your 
    room tomorrow."

RULES ABOUT CONSEQUENCES

  1. Follow responses you wish to strengthen with 
     reinforcing events.

  2. Follow responses you wish to weaken punishing events.

  3. Withholding all forms of reinforcement for a 
     specified time period is a useful form of punishment. 

  4. Responses can be weakened by no longer reinforcing 
     them.


CAUTIONARY NOTE: Generally avoid the use of punishment. 
                 Problems can be created when punishment 
                 is used in the wrong way. We shall learn 
                 more about effective punishment later. 
                 For now, focus on the use of rewards to 
                 influence your child.


 

TECHNIQUES FOR CHANGE

  1. CLEAR SIGNALS - 
                     Make your rules clear so that your 
                     child knows what is expected of 
                     him/her. Repeat rules as necessary.


  2. IGNORE DISRUPTIVE BEHAVIORS - 
                     Do not attend to 
                     behaviors you wish to weaken. Get 
                     involved with other children showing 
                     behaviors you wish to strengthen. 
                     Praise a child showing behavior 
                     incompatible with disruptive behaviors.


  3. PRAISE YOUR CHILD FOR IMPROVEMENT IN BEHAVIOR - 
                     "Catch your child being good", 
                     rather than bad. Tell him/her 
                     what it is that you like that 
                     he/she is doing. Award privileges 
                     for showing good behavior.

GOALS OF DISCIPLINE

Definition: Discipline - Teaching and Training.

Goals of Discipline:

  1. To encourage appropriate behavior.

  2. To promote harmony among people.

  3. To help prevent problems from arising as the child
     grows older.

  4. To instill a lifelong sense of self-discipline.


Discipline is an ongoing process:

  1. It begins early in the child's life.

  2. It involves adaptation as the child matures.

  3. It continues until the child is an adult, and then 
     goes on as self-discipline.  

THE ROLE OF DISCIPLINE IN RAISING CHILDREN

Discilpine helps children:

           1. Develop Self-control

           2. Respect Others' Rights

           3. Express Emotions Appropriately

           4. Build Self-esteem

           5. Become Self-reliant

           6. Develop Orderliness


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