November 15, 2006 The Pace of Life

So as I am somewhat of an adult, I have learned one important lesson in life. People are full of shit, and there are the certain few that are not.

One of my friends was just telling me (well a lot of people really) how all her friends abandoned ship because she became pregnant. See that’s how it happens. You grow up faster than your friends and they can’t handle it. I think the thing people fear is not that the fear of death, but facing death alone.

It all begins when you are born. You are a baby. You have all these people gawking all over you because you are soooooo cute, and all that bullshit. Then you become a toddler, and you all of a sudden have all these friends you parents picked out for you. Some of the friendships carry on through preschool and kindergarten and some don’t.

Then you get into school, and you meet more people. You have acquaintances, and you have your “best friends.” Some of these friendships carry on through high school. Now when you get into high school, then you have more friends than you can shake a stick at. You go to college, and then you lose some of your high school friends, but you gain a whole new breed of friends in college. Hell, you might get lucky and meet your significant other in high school or college.

Then it hits you. It is time to grow up. No more crazy parties. No more beer or water bongs. No more falling into puddles of your own vomit. Yep, all that shit is over with. Yet, for some reason, a good majority of your friends can’t get over that. So they all think you’re the asshole because you are going onto the next stage in life. You know, not living with parents, getting your own place, getting married or having children, all that shit that makes you an adult.

My father always told me, you're lucky if you have 2 or 3 friends that stick with you after high school. Everyone disappears. And he was right. Many people that I knew in high school have their own lives now, and some of them are in the same place they were when I left.

As we go on into life, some of us get scared what the future holds for us. I see people in nursing homes and they seem to have nothing to live for. I hope when I grow old, I have lots of children to visit me and keep my sanity. Love is an important thing in this world. You have to have love for yourself, because you are going to be sticking by your own side everyday. Have to be tough and put up with all the phoniness in this world. Everyone pretends to be your friend, but they are there because it is convenient, they need something, or they are just bored. Just remember to always keep your head up, and the rest will soon follow. Is this the secret to life? Mostly not, but it can be an ingredient for happiness.

Take care.
JAE