WIN WITH
CLASS – LEARN FROM DEFEAT
Why athletes and fans benefit from a growth
mindset
SPORTSMANSHIP. The word is inscribed on our schoolÕs Walk
of Virtues. Everyone knows
sportsmanship has great value. We could take the idea of sportsmanship and
explore it using the Value Medals Table, but instead I want you stop and
think for a moment to come up with an example or two of good sportsmanship,
and poor sportsmanship. Keep your examples to yourself as we continue
reading.
Everyone knows what
sportsmanship is, but just for the record the dictionary defines it as:
ÒConduct and
attitude considered as befitting (suitable or proper) participants in
sports, especially fair play, courtesy, striving spirit, and grace in
losing.Ó – www.thefreedictionary.com
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There are plenty of
other messages about sportsmanship you can find around school. Take for
example the banner displayed on Mr. BrownÕs Web site: GO FORDS!
WIN WITH CLASS!
If you click on about
the Teacher and scroll to the bottom it reads:
ÒÉMr. Brown
believes the "Win with Class" concept is important for boys to
remember when representing themselves and the school. This goes for any
competition, sports or academic, but it also for boys in every social
encounter.
When you
respect others (including your opponents,) demonstrate teamwork, and use
good language and behavior, you can always hold your head high. That goes for
fans too! No one will ever fault you for cheering positively for your team.
Booing or shouting put-downs are not what Haverford is about. So cheer GO
FORDS! and be proud of your school!Ó
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Okay, so if everyone
knows that sportsmanship is important why do we have to take time to learn
about it in school? Raise your hand if you were able to think of at least one
example of poor sportsmanship when we read the first paragraph above. Chances
are pretty good that a number of students have their hands raised.
The fact is that
everyone knows sportsmanship is important but people sometimes fail to
display it, embarrassing themselves and others as a result. So why do
people display poor sportsmanship?
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Emotional
Intelligence
ÒEmotional Intelligence (EI) is the ability to
recognize your emotions, understand what they're telling you, and realize how
your emotions affect people around you. Emotional intelligence also involves
your perception of others: when you understand how they feel, this allows you
to manage relationships more effectively.Ó - Mindtools
Demonstrating EI
requires practicing a set of social skills and characteristics that help
people manage emotions and overcome adversity – which is a really
important part of sportsmanship. People with strong EI will use their Òmirror
toolÓ to see how well they
are doing, avoid over-reacting and keep their mindset focused on finding
solutions to problems. Strong EI people gladly accept coaching
advice because they understand there is always room for improvement, and they
look at mistakes as opportunities to learn how to do something better.
The good news is that
EI is an ability that everyone has and it can be strengthened. According to
psychologist Daniel Goleman there are five elements that define Emotional
Intelligence:
Self-awareness – Confidence and trust in ability to
understand emotions and think positively.
Self-regulation – Thinking before acting. Not letting
emotions control your actions.
Motivation – Accepts challenge. DoesnÕt dwell on
short-term and focuses on long-term goals.
Empathy – Recognizes the
feelings of others and responds appropriately.
Social Skills – Support teammates and manage disputes with
strong leadership. This requires motivation to focus on team goals, and the
use of good body-language and appropriate communication.
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The Mindtools Web
site has several suggestions to improve EI such as:
- Avoid pre-judging and stereotyping. Put
yourself in someone elseÕs shoes (like the ref) and be more open and
accepting of their perspectives.
- Practice humility and give others a
chance to shine.
- Have the courage to use your Òmirror
toolÓ to identify weaknesses for strengthening.
- Demonstrate leadership by taking
responsibility for your actions.
- Preview how your actions will affect
others. How will they feel based on your actions. Also consider how others
may view your action BEFORE you act.
EI PRACTICE
ACTIVITY
You may have
noticed that many of the many of the descriptions of EI and suggestions for
how to strengthen EI are related to the Six Thinking Hats, the Value
Medals, and the Community Toolbox. Review the sports scenarios in the table
below and indicate which thinking hats, value medals, and community tools
may be used to strengthen your EI.
INSTRUCTIONS:
- Open Word and type a proper header with
your name, date, and Character Education.
- Next copy and paste the table below into your Word
document.
- Save the document as EI.
- Complete the table below by typing the
names of the hats, medals, and tools that may be useful for strong
emotional intelligence.
- PRINT your work and complete and print
a self-evaluation
for this exercise.
Situations in Sports
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Six Thinking Hats
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Value Medals
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Community Toolbox Tools
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Your
friends and/or teammates are making negative comments about the other
team.
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A
player from the other team aggressively fouls your teammate.
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Your
teammate aggressively fouls a player from the other team.
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The
referee makes what appears to be a Òbad callÓ against your team.
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The
referee makes what appears to be a Òbad callÓ against the other team.
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A
player from the other team misses an opportunity to score.
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A
player from your team misses an opportunity to score.
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Your
team is ahead by one (or more) scores.
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Your
team is behind by one (or more) scores.
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Your
team wins by one (or more) scores.
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Your
team loses by one (or more) scores.
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A
few quotes worth keeping in mind:
ÒEvery defeat,
every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how
to improve your performance the next time.Ó - Og Mandino (Author).
ÒThose who do not
learn from history are doomed to repeat it.Ó
- George Santayana
(Philosopher).
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