November 8, 1999
Date: Mon, Nov 8th 1999 13:21:15 Filter sender
From: "drDrew.com"
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Subject: drDrew.com Newsletter -- November 8, 1999
THE OFFICIAL DRDREW.COM NEWSLETTER
November 8, 1999
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IN THIS WEEK'S NEWSLETTER:
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* What's New on drDrew.com
* Dave Navarro on the drDrew.com Show
* Bonus Q&A with Drew
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THIS WEEK WITH DR. DREW:
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* TONIGHT, (MONDAY, NOVEMBER 8, at 7:30 PM PST/10:30 PM EST)
special guest comedian DAVE NAVARRO will join Drew on the drDrew.com Show,
one of the first interactive shows on the web.
* Tune back in on WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 10 to watch the drDrew.com Show at
7:30PM PST/10:30PM EST.
* You can watch The drDrew.com Show live on the web from
http://www.drdrew.com/show/index.html.
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QUESTION OF THE DAY
ASK DR. DREW YOUR QUESTION at http://www.drdrew.com/office/askqotd.html
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* Today, Dr. Drew answers the question: Is it wrong for me to pretend a
person is unconscious during sex? (http://www.drdrew.com/office/qotd.html
).
Questions answered later this week:
* Tuesday: Why does my penis go limp during sex?
* Wednesday: What can I do about my depression and anxiety?
* Thursday: How do I regain the trust of my peers?
* Friday: My do my throat and stomach irritate me so much?
Scroll down for more Q & A!
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PERSONALITIES: STRAIGHT TALK FROM THE STARS
http://www.drdrew.com/profiles/index.html
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* Today, singer Dot Allison talks about the 20something rollercoaster
* Wednesday, Pavements Bob Nastanovich on horse racing, being in a band
and relationships
* Friday, Director Kevin Smith on his new movie Dogma
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HEALTHWISE: HEALTH AND LIFESTYLE ISSUES THAT MATTER
http://www.drdrew.com/office/index.html
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* Tuesday: If you've ever thought about running away, here's a dose of
reality.
* Thursday: Find out the facts behind all the talk on rave drugs.
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QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
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QUESTION 1:
I am female and a good male friend of mine has told me that he has "gay
tendencies". Although he considers us to be dating, he recently took me to
a gay bar. We do not have sex, but he does sleep with me and is very
affectionate. How do I know if he is really gay?
DR. DREW:
There's no clear-cut way to know whether he is just curious, confused
about his sexual identity or gay but having a difficult time coming out.
At least he is being honest by telling you about some "tendency" he
has
towards the same sex. He clearly also seems to be getting something out of
his relationship with you. I would advise you to be careful, as you could
potentially get hurt in this situation. It is important that you maintain
an open dialogue with him and give him an opportunity to be honest about
his feelings. You also need to remember to stay in reality and accept
whatever feelings he does express.
QUESTION 2:
I am a 25-year-old female who has been married for 3 years. I have an
18-month old daughter and am currently pregnant. My question concerns my
desire to fulfill my husband's fantasy of seeing me with another woman. I
myself would like to try it just out of curiosity, but I am also afraid
that if I do this for him, he will expect it again and again. Although my
husband doesn't continually ask me to do this, we do sometimes talk about
it. Do you think our marriage will suffer if we do this? Our relationship
is very good right now, but I have to admit that I do get jealous of women
I know he is attracted to. What do you think I should do?
DR. DREW:
It is very unusual for a marriage to withstand this sort of an encounter.
He already knows you have great difficulty with him expressing an
attraction to another female. Imagine how you will feel when you see him
responding to you involved with another woman. You have a child and a
child on the way. Focus on creating stability in your relationship, not
bringing in elements that are likely going to disrupt the situation. Your
husband's fantasy needs to remain a fantasy if your relationship is going
to survive.
Your instincts regarding whether he will want to experience this again are
probably well founded. My biggest concern is that your husband seems not
only to have difficulty understanding how his fantasies will affect you,
but he also seems unconcerned about how this will affect your children.
QUESTION 3:
Ever since the age of 12 or 13, I have had these "bumps" on my
testicles.
They look like pimples. I had these long before I was sexually active and
it appears as though they have not spread. They don't bother me in any
way, but I have no idea what might have caused them. What are they and is
there anything I can do to get rid of them?
DR. DREW:
These bumps are normal. They are usually caused by accumulations of sebum
or a waxy material produced by the glands that surround the hair follicle.
They are nothing to be concerned about or get rid of and they are
certainly not a sexually transmitted disease.
QUESTION 4:
I am currently 22 years old, but still in love with the girlfriend I had
when I was 16 years old. Since our break-up, I have had nothing but
unsuccessful relationships. I have tried to distance myself, but I still
think of her everyday. I have even gone so far as to look for her and
recently found out were she is going to college. I am extremely lonely and
want a relationship. But, why do I compare all women to her? What is my
problem and how do I get her out of my mind?
DR. DREW:
You get her out of your mind by being open to another relationship.
Unfortunately, it appears you have abandonment issues that make it
difficult for you to accept the departure of a loved one. Sometimes, a
loss like this triggers feelings of a similar experience that you had at
an age when a loss couldn't be dealt with in any satisfactory way. Some
people in particular, have this effect on us. By this time, you've likely
created a fantasy about what the relationship was like. Understand that
you're not going to be available to another person unless you let go of
your fantasy connection with your former girlfriend. The process will be
painful as well as terrifically unpleasant. Focus on yourself and continue
to work at getting close to another person. I would not recommend
contacting her since this could unnecessarily resurface all those painful
feelings.
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should seek the advice of a qualified health provider.
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