October 19,1999
Date: Tue, Oct 19th 1999 21:30:16
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Subject: drDrew.com Newsletter -- October 19, 1999
THE OFFICIAL DRDREW.COM NEWSLETTER
October 19, 1999
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THIS WEEK WITH DR. DREW:
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(http://www.drdrew.com/office/qotd.html ). This week, Dr. Drew
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therapy, groin itch and migraines.
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PERSONALITIES: STRAIGHT TALK FROM THE STARS
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Today, Mary J. Blige talks about relationships. Later this week, activist
Paul Loab and Frank Whaley (of the new film "Joe the King").
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HEALTHWISE: HEALTH AND FITNESS WEEK
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Today, look for the benefits of weight training. On Thursday, check out
our feature on sports nutrition.
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QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
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QUESTION 1: After I ejaculate, I can see and feel my testes moving around
in my scrotum. Is this normal?
DR. DREW: This is completely normal. There can be a lot of movement and
even a flipping-like sensation in the testes. Some men actually have the
testes pull back up and seemingly "disappear" into the abdomen. In
infancy, the testes are actually in the abdomen and eventually descend
along a tract as the child grows. This is why the constriction of the
muscles (called the cremasteric response) during ejaculation may actually
cause the testes to retract. Interestingly, usually only one side will do
this.
QUESTION 2: About a year ago I started going out with a girl who had been
with a lot of guys. Although I never had sex with her, for some reason I
began to worry that I might get an STD. With time I began to fear that I
might get some other disease from her, so I broke up with her. Ever since
then, I have had a general fear of getting a disease, especially some
sort of skin disease that will blemish my skin and make me look ugly. If
I am feeling happy, a voice in the back of my mind comes on and says,
"Yes, you're happy now, but any day now you might get some disease that
will make you ugly and you won't be able to interact with people." As a
result, avoiding germs and viruses has become a daily task for me. I feel
very depressed about this and would greatly appreciate any advice you
could give me.
DR. DREW: These intrusive thoughts and obsessive preoccupations strongly
suggest a mental-health issue. When depressed, some people get symptoms
such as these. Other times, this can be a symptom of primary
obsessive-compulsive disorder. This has nothing to do with reality, or
with the potential risk your ex-girlfriend might pose to you. These
feelings can become stronger and more difficult to control. Therefore, it
is extremely important that you seek some sort of medical attention
before these symptoms become disabling.
Check out the article "Force of Habit: Obsessive Compulsive Disorder"
in
the HealthWise archives of Dr. Drew's Office:
http://www.drdrew.com/publish/healthwise/A84.html.
QUESTION 3: I have this tendency to get really close to people only to
later push them away. It really bothers me that I do this, but I seem to
do it without even realizing. Other than having occasional arguments with
my dad, I have a great family. I don't know if this has anything to do
with it, but I also used to have a little stealing problem. Why would I
do this and what can I do to help myself not do it?
DR. DREW: These are very nonspecific symptoms. Quite commonly, young
people form very intense relationships that they have difficulty
sustaining. Based upon what you call your previous "stealing problem,"
you are managing some unpleasant feelings. It is great that you have
insights into these behaviors, and it is clear that you have some ability
to contain them. Keep an eye on this behavior as you get older. If it
becomes a serious problem, by all means seek some professional attention.
QUESTION 4: I have been dating my 22-year-old boyfriend for about a year.
Although I have had other sexual partners, I am the first girl he has
ever dated. When we have sex, he orgasms far too soon about 85 percent of
the time. The shortest time was literally four strokes and then he blew.
We have tried different positions, stopping, slowing down, but nothing
seems to work. One potential problem is that we both live at home and
need to sneak around our families. Another problem for me is that I am
used to long hours of sex with my ex-boyfriends, so ten minutes just
doesn't cut it. Other than being a little depressed, my boyfriend is very
healthy. Can you offer some advice?
DR. DREW: This is an incredibly common problem. I wonder if you've
discussed this openly with your partner. If you speak with him from a
caring perspective, it is very likely he will be interested in having you
help him with this.
The anxiety from sneaking around to have sex may be contributing to your
problem. Making your time together as relaxed as possible may help.
Believe it or not, there are medications that people can be prescribed
that would reduce the tendency for premature ejaculation to occur. Beyond
that involvement, I traditionally suggest just working with the person to
find techniques that diminish the likelihood of this happening. I've also
recommended that men with this problem masturbate earlier in the day, so
that they are not as prone to this problem.
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