October 25, 1999
Date: Mon, Oct 25th 1999 18:26:05
From: "drDrew.com"
To: "drDrew.com Newsletter"
Subject: drDrew.com Newsletter -- October 25, 1999
THE OFFICIAL DRDREW.COM NEWSLETTER
October 25, 1999
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THIS WEEK WITH DR. DREW:
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*THE DRDREW.COM SHOW GOES LIVE WITH ACTOR ANDY DICK AND THREE COLUMBINE
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special guest ANDY DICK (from "Newsradio" and "The Cable
Guy") will join
Drew. On WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 27, Drew's guests will be three juniors from
Columbine High School (8:30PM PST/11:30PM EST). You can watch The
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Today, Dr. Drew answers the question: is there a correlation between
genetics and suicide? (http://www.drdrew.com/office/qotd.html ). This
week, Dr. Drew discusses herbal ecstasy, infidelity and controlling
friendships.
Scroll down for more Q & A!
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PERSONALITIES: STRAIGHT TALK FROM THE STARS
http://www.drdrew.com/profiles/index.html
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Today, Natalie Portman (of "Star Wars" and "The
Professional") talks about
going back to school. Later this week, "Boys Don't Cry" director
Kimberly
Peirce and Blues Traveler John Popper.
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HEALTHWISE: HEALTH AND FITNESS WEEK
http://www.drdrew.com/office/index.html
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What's the future of HIV and why should you be tested? Find out in
HealthWise this week.
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QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
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QUESTION 1: I am a 21-year-old male with a 19-year-old virgin girlfriend.
I have had two sexual partners in the past and I am ready to be sexual
with my current girlfriend. Although we have "messed around," she
tells me
she is scared to have sex. She was really overweight when she was young
and is self conscious about a hearing aid in one ear. What is strange is
that she has shown interest in being dominated and talks to guys on the
Internet. We are in love with each other, so why won't she have sex with
me?
DR. DREW: You girlfriend generally seems uncomfortable about her
self-worth and I suspect that is making her uncomfortable in your
relationship. Her seemingly low self-worth also may have contributed to
the weight she maintained when she was younger, which perhaps was a way of
keeping people away from her. Only she knows the answers to these
questions.
Keep communicating with her. But also ask yourself why having sex is so
urgent. Sex and intimacy should be part of a natural progression in a
relationship. The decision should be mutual and one partner should not
feel pressured. In the end though, it is not unreasonable for a
19-year-old to abstain from sex.
QUESTION 2: I am a gay male. How do I go about asking one of my guy
friends out on a date without offending him and possibly losing him as a
friend?
DR. DREW: This is a difficult but common question. You do not say whether
or not your friend knows you are gay. If he does in fact know that you are
gay and he is supportive of you, then I don't think that an overture
towards him will be taken as anything extreme. If he responds to your
request, then you have achieved your goal. If he is a good friend but is
not interested, then he should be able to tell you this without changing
the relationship. This would certainly clarify the boundaries within the
relationship.
On the other hand, if your friend does not know that you are gay, this
could be a potentially unpleasant experience for you. I strongly urge you
to develop relationships with peers who are gay and have been through
similar experiences. Having a supportive network of peers to fall back is
important if your friend reacts poorly.
QUESTION 3: I am 24 years old and have recently started having a premature
ejaculation problem. I have never had this problem before. I currently
last for less than five minutes. I only have one partner and am very
attracted to her. What can I do to control or eliminate this problem?
DR. DREW: Premature ejaculation itself is not unusual. I find it rather
unusual, however, that this suddenly became a problem for you,
particularly when you have one partner with whom you have an intimate
history.
Most commonly, sexual dysfunctions are the result of disturbances of mood
or, even more commonly, high anxiety levels. Is there something else in
your life bothering you? Are you on any medication or taking other
substances? Has the frequency of sexual encounters been reduced? Is there
something else about this relationship? These are important questions to
consider. You should also consider talking with your health-care provider
about this issue.
QUESTION 4: Why do you think you chose to spend so much time on other
people's problems?
DR. DREW: I ask myself the same question. I can only tell you that it is a
very gratifying experience. To some extent, when one has had specialized
training, he or she feels somewhat of an obligation to use it,
particularly when a need arises. If I didn't use it, it would sort of be
like coming upon a car accident if you were a trained medical professional
and not getting involved.
For me, being a doctor is more than just dealing with problems. It is
connecting with people in important ways. In our country today there are
tremendous problems and there is a tremendous need for help. I feel very
fortunate to be able to offer my services, but I think what really compels
me day-to-day and night-to-night is to be able to connect with people
about issues that are important to them. That is a very gratifying
experience, and I am really grateful to have the opportunity to be of
service in this way.
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should seek the advice of a qualified health provider.
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