January 17, 2000
Date: Mon, 17 Jan 2000 11:36:13 -0800 (PST)
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QUESTION:
My boyfriend is a goalie for a lacrosse team. Recently, he has been hit
several times with lacrosse balls in his genital region. He now says
that he doesn't feel any sensation down there and that sex is no longer
enjoyable. Will the sensation come back or will it be like that
forever?
DR. DREW:
These are very significant symptoms and your boyfriend needs to be
checked out by a doctor, preferably a urologist. He may have damaged the
pudendal nerve, which is located in the area between the scrotum and anus. If
there has been any significant trauma to the testes themselves, they need to
be looked at carefully because they can fracture or bleed in such a way
that the pressure cuts off the incoming blood supply. Tell your boyfriend
not to panic about this--these are usually crush injuries that return to
normal functioning spontaneously. But any trauma to the testes should
be checked out, as well as the pudendal nerve--in your boyfriend's case.
QUESTION:
For the past six or seven years, I've had a tremendously pessimistic
outlook. I can't find any purpose or meaning to life, which makes me
really depressed. Although I feel my mental state has improved with
each passing year, I don't have many friends, I've never had a girlfriend
and I find it hard to socialize. I don't want to burden the few friends I
have with my problems, so I end up isolating myself. I feel very different
from other people and, in general, I can't seem to "get on track." What can
I do to improve my life? In my case, is therapy necessary?
DR. DREW:
From the sounds of your letter you're not only depressed, you're
disconnected from the world around you. This is one of those "which
came first?" situations where your depression and disengagement are feeding
off of each other, and you may need to treat both in order to improve your
quality of life. Therapy could help you reconnect with people and teach
you to tolerate intimacy, which in itself may alleviate some of your
depressive symptoms. Likewise, getting treatment for depression may
improve your mood state, which would make it easier for you to develop
more fulfilling relationships and get more engaged in life.
One thing is clear about humans: we need frequent, close connections
with other people to maintain our emotional *and* physical health. Just look
at the data on monogamous men. They live longer, suffer from fewer
diseases and actually live happier lives. In fact, increasing scientific
evidence suggests that the mood centers of our brain are activated and developed
through human connection. This is basically what therapy does:
reactivates the regions of the brain that may have been disconnected because of
childhood traumas or other problems. That doesn't mean that therapy is
absolutely necessary in your case. If you seek treatment for your
depression, maybe you can take it upon yourself to form new friendships
and reconnect with the world on your own. Your first step toward
achieving that intimacy must be letting go of this idea that you're "different
from other people." You are as human as anyone else and need the same sense
of connection and intimacy that we all need.
QUESTION:
I think a friend is using, and maybe even selling, marijuana. He has no
father and a poor family life, and I want to help him stop. What's the
best way for me to approach this?
DR. DREW:
This may sound cruel, but getting caught may be the best thing that
could happen to your friend. He needs to suffer the consequences of his
behavior. When he recognizes what he's doing to himself, and possibly
others, hopefully he'll realize that smoking marijuana isn't worth
damaging friendships or his future. The most important thing you can do
is tell him how his behavior affects you, how you see it changing him and
what your concerns are. Ultimately, you have to be willing to end this
relationship if he continues to use marijuana. It is only through these
cumulative consequences and losses that he'll make the connection
between marijuana and the negative impact it's having on his life. I encourage
you to be loving and supportive, and perhaps even help him find a drug
treatment program or support group, such as Marijuana Anonymous. You
could also alert an adult who has a significant influence on his life. But be
prepared to pull away from him if he continues to use or sell
drugs--anything short of that and you are continuing to enable his
disease.
QUESTION:
I'm 22 and just had a baby two months ago. My husband and I recently
starting making love again, but it is very uncomfortable and painful
for me. Is there something wrong or did we rush back into it too quickly?
DR. DREW:
Two months seems like an adequate recovery time after your delivery,
whether it was vaginally or by C-section. There could be many
explanations for the pain and discomfort you're experiencing, so your OB/GYN
definitely needs to investigate. There might be something left in your uterus that
should've been removed at delivery, which can cause pain, bleeding
and/or may lead to a serious infection. I also wonder if you had an
episiotomy, a cut or tear of the region between the vagina and the anus. Sometimes
the more serious tears can lead to scarring or narrowing of the opening of
the vagina. Or you may be experiencing the more typical causes of
discomfort during intercourse, such as ovarian cysts or endometriosis. You have to
see your doctor to rule out all of these possibilities.
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