Like everything I share with you it is just for you to know me better and to throw away any thoughts or notions that are NOT appropriate for YOUR life. I will briefly outline "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" that I talk of. 4 are internal Habits that we must learn before the last 3 outer ones become present. Habit1 - Be Proactive -- Don't "react" to any thing..think about every thought and deed before you act on them. Habit 2 - Begin with the end in mind. I talk of this always........see the end of the tunnel and begin making all paths line up to that end. (this is even posted over my desk at work now) Habit 3 - Put First Things First. That Expands Number 2 in such that you list what it takes to get the end of the tunnel and you review this often to make sure you are working towards that end in your decisions. Habit 4 - Think Win/Win It is not a matter of compromise both sides must feel they win..not one a winner one a loser. This new way of thinking makes your thoughts look to ways of everyone winning with no losers. Habit 5 - Seek first to Understand, then to be understood. It goes further than just pleasing someone ..it involves putting yourself in their shoes ..seeing things from their ways so that you can understand ....then with this you can help them understand you by relating to them in the way they can understand you. Habit 6 - Synergy (The sum of the parts is greater than the whole) Because we are not compromising and no one is loosing the possibilities become greater since no idea or person is overlooked , nothing dicounted but added on to not compromised. So ideas, hopes and dreams become bigger as they are added onto .....compromise means take away from each side to make a whole...synergize means take both and add them together creating a bigger and better end. Habit 7 - Sharpen the saw. Expand your circle of influence on others and spread these thoughts and continually sharpen them inside yourself. |