[26 Oct 2005 | Wednesday]

 

i was angry

Current mood: blah

last blog i was angry but that doesn't mean i didn't mean what i said. jens and i are going to talk tonight so hopefully all this will resolve. hopefully.

 

 

please read

Current mood: depressed

if everyone thinks i am the problem then they can get out of my life. i am tired of having people say one thing to my face and then acting another way when i am not around. (you know who you are) i have feelings and emotions like everyone else and if everyone thinks that jens would be better off without me they may get their wish. PAUL is NOT being a good person or friend he stole my life away from me and feels no remorse as a good person would. it is not right. JENS is selfish and i live with the fact that he didn't think i was good enough because i don’t have a dick every day of my life. (well i am good enough, in fact, better and i hope he dies knowing that i am the best he could ever get)  i hope the two of them have a very miserable life and get disowned like i am being disowned. i am tired of being "friends" with people who obviously like him better than me. I DON'T NEED YOU, ANY OF YOU I DESERVE MUCH BETTER. and jens you have broken your promises so many times... i don't know what to do anymore.... if everything else is more important to you i wish i would have killed myself when i had the chance.

hope i never see any of you ever again. have a nice day.

 

 

[24 Oct 2005 | Monday]

 

i told myself i wouldn't blog

Current mood: gloomy

i told myself i wouldn't blog, i would only check my messages because i am really behind on my reading for lit class and i missed about 2 days of school last week but i just have to get some of this out, i’m about to explode.

i don't know if i can handle living with jens anymore, in fact i don't know if i can even handle seeing his face. i am just so alone, so abandoned. no one seems to understand what it feels like to be left. if they did maybe i would be the one people wanted to hang out with and be friends with. iv'e just come to the realization that most people just thought of me a 'jens' girlfriend' and with the exception of a few people, almost singularly osty they haven’t talked to me since jens broke up with me.

i can't keep living in a world that is so unfair. i mean i can deal with my childhood, a lot of people have stuff like that happen to them and you just need to get over it and not worry so much because when you become an adult it doesn't do you any good to remember some of that stuff, no matter how messed up it is.

but then there is all the stuff that's happened since then, all the people who have hurt you and messed you up, and you don't have anywhere to go or anyone to depend on. my only release was hurting myself but when that doesn't work, what else can you do?

i could stand losing kyle, just barely. i could understand that he saved his sister... i accept that he had to die because he was a hero. i was so lonely after he left, he alone brought me out of the depths of depression when my mom spent the first half of that summer in the mental health ward-- leaving me all alone away from all my friends. even my boyfriend at the time, wes (ass) wouldn't keep me company or even talk to me.

then god swooped down and stole my good friend away... someone who fell asleep on the phone with me and would listen for hours and give me the best and most loving advice.

that's fine, that was, god over two years ago... almost over 3 years...

but then jens came into my life, and became a big part of my life. he told me he would never leave me, we would be together forever and i truly believed we were soul mates. he made me feel that my past was worth the pain and hurt because now i had him and he could kiss away any affliction, cast away any demon in my mind.

what happened? he trampled my soul, ripped out my heart and condemned me to the foulest pit of self-loathing and despair, utter and complete worthlessness all because i am a woman. because i would have given him children and a happy life, because my happiness was his happiness and my ignorance to his selfishness was bliss.

what is left for me now? watching him with someone else, most undeserving of the improvements i have made to jens. as he no longer lies, cheats or hurts, as to my knowledge and you can give that thanks to me, i have endured a lifetime of this boys "love" and now that he is so damn capable i am the one who gains nothing from it.

i thought for once i had found someone who loved me for who i am, or was. now i see little resemblance to the person i once saw in the mirror.

i hate this and i hate them. how dare they flaunt what i can never have what has always been taken from me. WHY AM I NEVER GOOD ENOUGH FOR ANYONE.

 

 

[13 Oct 2005 | Thursday]

 

today i ate a banana

Current mood: nerdy

seriously that's all that's in the house. we're out of food. i think we have a roman, and some tea and a banana and ... oh yeah like 5 bags of microwave popcorn lol. i hope i can come up with the money for saturday... i have to make at lease $40, enough to cover our admission for the haunted thingy and enough for gas and enough for some freaking food until tue when i get paid... oh crap make that $60 (which i won't make in a million years)

i skipped class today. i dont care i was tired.

bleh to you, blasted skewl with your blasted tests. and blast you home with your freaking banana's and coldness.

oh and get this... jens likes metaphorical banana's but won't freaking touch a real one. all the banana's i bought were bigger than jens and only like 49 cents a pound, that's a really good deal.

lol i am on crack... as usual. gotta study for test... one more left!!!

 

 

[11 Oct 2005 | Tuesday]

 

damn stress weasels

Current mood: crappy

yeah i said it, stress weasles, why did i say it? i have no idea. but yeah anyway. i just had my humanities test, pretty easy, i might have missed 3 or 4 and that would be more than i missed last time... i couldn't remember this obscure name from something we never talked about and there wasn't a dedication page in Frankenstein for the question about the dedication of the book lol. but yeah oh well. i have psych tomorrow, haven’t studied yet and i WORK today gwaaarrr. oh and a astronomy test on friday, super fun. i am studying with emilllaay before lab on wednesday for that one and i should... key word SHOULD do ok on both of those tests.

i try to keep myself busy so i don't think about anything i shouldn’t be thinking about. this morning i had a dream sort of about jens. i have a guilty feeling when i have them but they are just dreams, it's not as though i have sexual dreams or anything, they are usually obscure and weird like all of my dreams they just show me in a happier time, with jens. i mean actually with him.

it is hard to move on but i have some good news. i actually have in interest. though it is someone i could probably never get he at least knows i exist and flirts with me and actually called me last night. his name is robert, he is a manager at happy chef. it makes me happy to be around him because he distracts me from my problems... i mean its nice just to have someone outside of the situation who is just being a friend to me. which is a lot more than i can say for certain other people, well i won't go there and won't name names but the truth is, i just don't have a lot of friends. sami and kate are in iowa city, most of my other friends are busy with school or work and my exfiance was pretty much the only person i hung out with all the time anyway. ya know what? life freaking sucks sometimes.

i should be studying but i have too much on my mind. i'm planning on going to emily pieper's hallows eve party lol. it sounds like so much fun. i have a feeling jens may ditch me for other people but ya know what who cares i need to get used to that.

oh yeah we've been fighting. i just can't stand the way he treats me sometimes ya know. i have done everything for him, what do i ask for in return? not as much as a should, really.

to be honest i'm fed up with it but there is just nothing i can do, i have to wade it out and see what happens. maybe the prospect of new romance and and the end of this week and these blasted tests will make my outlook brighter.

p.s. sam wants gumby's gummy-rod. lol. take that suki!!! (just to make sure you're still reading)

 

 

[05 Oct 2005 | Wednesday]

 

Affirmation

Current mood: determined

i know i can do anything i want to. i know i return to the person i once was and wish to be again, i know it is not lost but hiding and hurt and my beauty overpowers all my pain.

i want to be a writer again, after not writing anything seriously for about a year or two. i was looking back at my poetry and my novel ideas and i thought, why not i need to do it.

my first new work in progress is a life work. so you can finally really know how messed up i am. it's entitled "worthy of love" because that's what my name means and that's what i hope to see myself as, someday soon.

it's going to go through my life in a scattered array of stories or memories ending with how i feel right now... and i promise there won't be some sappy retarded conclusion, just a sappy retarded title is enough for me.

i am dedicating my book to kyle and possibly a few other people i haven't decided on yet.

i hope for it to be my only auto-biographical work, for the rest of my books i would like to come up with a great series, maybe become the next j.k. rowling! oh god... i am going to be late for class, lol. i am going to be so busy the next week or two so i can't start on that yet. but hopefully soon i can outline it for you.

and sam, you better stop smoking ya tard, i will come to iowa city and kick your ass. WATCH YOUR BACK!!

 

 

[28 Sep 2005 | Wednesday]

 

alone again, naturally...

Current mood: crushed

well it's wednesday, no work, lab, school and possibly jensie time, all in all not a bad deal. i don't know the day started off kind of crappy (i can't park for one) i left my car door unlocked and it is rainy (i like rain just not for my long ass walk to class) well it's going better now...

i still don't know how to feel. i feel like every positive thing i do reaps negative connotations. nothing good ever seems to happen. i dedicate myself completely to someone, give them everything they could possibly want and *bam* i am left alone, again.

that's just me isn't it? alone again, naturally. *hums tune* but what can i do, i am stuck at a crossroads, if i don't support jens and his new, *deep breath* boyfriend i am pretty much shutting myself out of his life altogether. it's not like i can't handle him being with someone, eventually. i just can't completely handle it now, so soon, when i need him, when i don't have anyone else around. sami is in iowa city and most of my other friends are too busy or just don't care. i do find a little solace at work (what a funny place eh?) but i can talk to people there and do something to take my mind off of the situation.

school is going well, work is going well... my personal life is a piece of crap. that seems to be the way it is for me, if one or two things are going well, everything else is in the... well you know.

jens told me he wanted to go to a club the other night, and he wanted to go with me before he went with paul. i spent the better part of the time i've known and dated him trying to get him to go to a club with me. i have a feeling this is the first of many changes. i just don't want it to happen. why should i have had to put in all the work, why did he have to lie to me and ruin me before he gets to go on and be all happy when i am miserable?

a few people take my mind off of things, though. robert. ::sigh:: it is so high school of me to have a crush on someone like robert but him flirting with me makes me feel better, as though someone might find me at least a tiny bit attractive. (and good enough to date) as if. i know better, i'm not a great beauty but i've got class and personality ::shakes fist:: a hell of a lot more than most girls out there. i shouldn't have to be attractive to be respected and i shouldn't have to get hit on be eighty-year-old-men either!

there is absolutely nothing wrong with me. maybe for once everyone else is the problem! i can't help it that my fiance left me, he digs sausages-- that doesn't mean i wasn't dynamo in the sack!! gosh dang it!!!!!

 

 

[23 Sep 2005 | Friday]

 

generic ponderings 101

Current mood: calm

i can't wait to see corpse bride this weekend (hopefully saturday) it was supposed to be me and jens' date night but i guess now were all going with the group, i invited mooner so, yeah. i have a test today in lit... it should go alright and guess what? i got a 49/50 on my humanities test, super sexy. jens and i are going out to lunch after we stop in to see emily at jag's. so i guess it should be an alright day (until i go into work tonight at 5 lol) but i get off at 11 so that will be great. sleeeeep time =)

i'm blabbing on when i should be studying, oh well if i don't know it now, chances are good that i still won't know it 20 mins from now when i take my test. muhahaha.

i was sad the other day i was listening to me and kyle's song.... i think about him in the weirdest times.... if you didn't know kyle was my best buddy (and kind of .... er boyfriend thingy) a couple of summers ago but he is gone now, he saved his little sister dena from drowning in the river and the river took him under. i get sad when i think about him but also happy because i know he wants people to remember him. and i do, i miss him a lot.

 

 

[21 Sep 2005 | Wednesday]

 

yesterday

Current mood: apathetic

all my troubles seemed so far away, now i need a place to hide away. yeah im stealing a line from the greats but who cares, who reads this anyhow?

i guess things are alright, we all talked last night -- though i didn't get exactly what i wanted (well i never could have gotten that) i got a better understanding of the situation, and i am a kind of person that needs to know. i still feel that people may be tip-toeing around me, i guess the general idea is that i am very intimidating. now i don't know how i feel about people thinking of me as intimidating, crazy, and needy, but that is how they feel.

if anything was learned it's that i don't like dishonesty. i don't like people talking behind my back and i surely hate being laughed at.

i am still broken. i mean my life is still utterly torn apart from what it was, only three short agonizing months ago. i can move on, i can heal, to some capacity at least. having jens as my best friend truly helps, i don't think he knows how much strength he gives me.

i have realized that maybe i was miserable with jens, not me but my soul. i gave my whole self completely to jens but he hurt me, many times. maybe i was not the great person i let myself think i was but i did, and do love jens. it was killing me on the inside, no having jens completely there with me and the truth is, it wasn't my fault. no matter what it was jens who didn't want to or couldn't love me. maybe for once it wasn't my fault that someone didn't love me.

what does this mean for me now? i have no idea. i guess now jens is with paul. (yes that hurt a little even to admit it, i can't even say it out loud yet) and that leaves me alone. but this time i will like myself more, treat myself better and make sure that my abounding love is returned by some worthy person. for now, jens remains my best friend, ex, roommate, and yet the one person that tortures me the most.

all i want is for his happiness and to me that is the hardest thing to give him. if it means that i am not what makes him happy then i have to let him find it for himself. i just ask that he always remember -- everything and never let it get lost, for i won't ever forget him or -- us.

 

 

[19 Sep 2005 | Monday]

 

boredism, what the shiftless bums pay dues to...(?)

Current mood: crazy

i am on crack, ok not really that subject, no idea what part of my arse i pulled that gem from ::oooo a nickel!:: i find it funny, no make that HILLARIOUS that people blog about little old moi. jens honestly if you weren't so PMSy this weekend everyone would have had a goooood old time (not that we didn't have fun at sami's but jeeze) take some responsibly for being bitchy (cuz i always have to--- oh i forgot it's MY fault that people are jerks to me and dislike me-- my mistake)

honestly i'm not even upset, i'm not ticked or mildly provoked i am just tired of everything. for once i would like to be the one allowed a little insane behavior. whatever i want to get out little "talk" over with so i at least know if i should pack (if i'm going to be thrown out on my ass if i don't agree with or approve of or whatever everyone wants from me) i want to be treated like I matter. notice the capital I. i never do that, sometimes I AM important and my feelings matter too.

on the brighter side i got a b (near a on psychology test-- i wasn't worried, i wish i knew what i missed though, all i got was my student number and a number out of 50 on a chart-- college is so personally obscure and ::yawn:: sleepy not making sense.

oh well, if i die you'll be the one to burry me, at least i'll get flowers for once in my life (not wilty ones for my birthday-- either)

 

 

[15 Sep 2005 | Thursday]

 

stormy weather

Current mood: discontent

well first thing's first. my apartment is smelly and wet. yea that's right, my celing is about to fall WOOOOPPPIEEE. i guess it isn't that bad, jens and i were moved to a place down the hall (sexy) and it's a hell of a lot nicer than our apartment lol. but on the downside that meant that poor jensie has been moving crap and not sleeping well at all. i keep telling him to slow down and rest but it's just not in him, if something needs to be done, he's the person that will do it. i have been trying to help it's just been so hard, i have three tests this week (well i just had one and i have two tomorrow) humanitites, psychology and astronomy. bah. plus i am depressed kind of and i just don't feel like doing anything so by that baseline, i have been doing a lot. i think i did really well on my test though, yeah at least a b.

ho hum. i can't wait for this weekend, a little time to relax and spend time with people i like... no work until sunday *(that's really nice) and hopefully, no big problems until then either.

i should be studying for my next tests right now but this is just soooo much more fun. heh. i dunno i feel better and worse, i just can't stop thinking about how it used to be between jens and i. it makes me sad to know that we won't be like we were, ever again.

i wish that people would be nicer to me. i think just because i took things relatively well people think i don't need help or friendship, it's just the opposite. i mean i need empathy and compassion even more now that i'm down and vulnerable. people perceive me as this bitch who doesn't care about anyone but herself when in reality i may be a bitch but it's only because i have so long neglected my own feelings and needs. just look at my family, who else has had to watch their mother slowly spiral down and become unrecognizable as the person who raised you? who else has been moved around and unwanted so many times? who else just recently lost everything she wanted in the world after going through so much agony to hold onto it? i'm not saying i'm the only one going through things, i know a lot of people have it much worse, all i'm saying is no one takes the time to ask what's wrong or befriend me. i mean i should be the person people care about and feel sorry for right? not that i want pity, far from that, i just want people to notice me and notice that i don't let people in because they don't care and don't want to take the time to understand me. so if you are that person that still cares for me, please send me a hope, mine's flew away and gone...

 

 

[09 Sep 2005 | Friday]

 

nothing much

Current mood: content

life is good, alright, nothing to complain about. sami is coming down this weekend! yayness, someone to torture muahaha. i do work all freaking weekend but hey i'll have enough time for studying and fun and then next weekend, PARTY!!! woot woot. bah have to get to class....

 

 

[01 Sep 2005 | Thursday]

 

a quiz

Current mood: crazy

 

Stability results were low which suggests you are very worrying, insecure, emotional, and anxious.

Orderliness results were moderately high which suggests you are, at times, overly organized, reliable, neat, and hard working at the expense of flexibility, efficiency, spontaneity, and fun.

Extraversion results were moderately low which suggests you are reclusive, quiet, unassertive, and secretive.

trait snapshot:

depressed, introverted, neat, needs things to be extremely clean, observer, perfectionist, not self revealing, does not make friends easily, suspicious, irritable, hates large parties, follows the rules, worrying, does not like to stand out, fragile, phobic, submissive, dislikes leadership, cautious, takes precautions, focuses on hidden motives, good at saving money, solitary, familiar with the dark side of life, hard working, emotionally sensitive, prudent, altruistic, heart over mind, unadventurous

 

it sounds like me....

 

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