No one denies that the woman is the flower of our life, the second half of the man and the important part in his life. And as it is said "Every great man must have a good woman!"

Really the woman changes the life of the man and every man can compare his life before and after marriage except in very few cases where the relation between the two is not good.

No one can live without a woman, she is the part to whom man can tell his problems, to tell each hard thing he faces in his work or with his friends because she was created with the character of sentiment which is absent in the man, the man is characterized by the character of man-hood and strength.

She is the soil in which man sows his seeds to get the fruits! the children who are the fruit of both and who decorate their house.

Because of such importance of the woman to the man and after she realized this importance, she began to ask equal rights with the man and she really took more and more than she needs although she misunderstood the meaning of equal rights with the man.

She understood by equal rights that she behaves like a man in all situations without a difference or limits to her woman-hood. This rendered the man exploit her and in most cases laugh at her.

To exploit her I mean that the woman who was the dream of man in the past became now the easiest thing to which the man can reach and to take from her what he wants especially from the love and sexual wish. And after he takes enough what he wants, he leaves her and she can't say any word because she has no right or proof for such relation.

To be more clear, I mean what is called a friendship between a boy-friend and a girl-friend. Before I came here to Europe, I read a book to an Egyptian woman who studied here in Europe and after she had returned to Egypt, she wrote directly her book advising the youth to practise this friendship before intending to marry, and she said that this is very important when the two partners live together and go in bed together for a period of time till they find that they are able to continue the life together and then can marry at their Islamic or Christian religion. She wanted to change what the Creator selected for His creature as she knows better than His majesty.

For this reason and when I came here to Europe, I tried to enter among the people to discover the truth and advantage of going in bed together and examining each other before marriage and I`ll tell you about some of the relations which I remember.

In the first day when I arrived in the institute of German Language, students from different parts of the world and representing the six continents were gathering in the hall of the institute. Each two partners selected each other irrespective of the traditions and religions and they tried to examine each other by going in bed and living together.

A girl from Norway selected a man from Spain and they lived together a happy life. After two months, he had to travel back to his country to complete his university study. So he created a fight with her and said to her: our traditions are different! bye bye. The next course she found another boy-friend from Germany working in the institute and lived with him for two months and then they separated as he did with many students before her!

Another girl from Switzerland loved a man from Morocco and they practised all sorts of love either in front or behind the students. I asked him if he was going to marry her because he is Muslim (theoretical) and she is Christian (also theoretical) and his family will not accept this marriage. He replied that he told her that they are not allowed to marry unless she is also Muslim, but she said that she doesn't want to marry him, she wants only to love him and spend a happy time with him!

Another girl from Palestine lived with another Muslim from Egypt. And although they both know well that going in bed before a legal marriage is totally forbidden either in both religions or in the Arab traditions but why they don't enjoy their time especially no one watches them here. The next course he left her because he found another more beautiful girl and she was obliged to live with a man from Chile, a very far country in another continent!

A second girl from Palestine had a relation with a German who was working in the institute. She was dreaming of marrying him and so be able to stay in Germany and be far away from the terrible war in her country. But it was the hope of the Satan to enter the paradise! he left her as usual at the end of the course as he did with many girls before her!

From these relations, we can conclude that: the aim was not an introduction and examination before marriage but it was purely sexual and the winner at the end is the man.

Now we move to a long-term friendship which takes several months and sometimes years and if you asked the partners; they say: we examine each other!

One day I was introduced to a woman who has a son and a daughter. She said to me that her son works hard and earns a lot of money and he travels each year to visit different countries in the world. At the Christmas; she invited me to celebrate with her son and his girl-friend. When I went there, I was received with all sorts of welcome. He was a smart person and she was a friendly girl.

They seemed to love each other very much. I really envied them for that love and we took photos with each other. After two weeks, I asked the mother about the photos. She said that she is sorry because the film is with the girl-friend and she can't get it because the girl-friend and her son were separated. Separated! how? She replied that the girl wanted to marry legally in order to get a child because she likes the children but the son refused and left her at once. I asked her why her son refused to marry legally. She replied because he doesn't work and has no money!

My question is: what is the difference between this life and the life after marriage? And how much does a child coast? It is not a matter of money which prevents the man from marriage but it is the marriage which prevents him from cutting the relation if he found another more beautiful woman!

Another girl from Canada had a relation with a man from Italy. They lived together for three years and then left her suddenly. I asked her why? she replied that he met a girl in one of the night-clubs and loved her and so left me. And "what did you do?" she replied nothing! I couldn't do anything as there is no proof for our relation.

A girl from Korea, now on a relation with a man from Greece. I asked her: "Do you love him?" she replied that she doesn't know. And "Does he love you?" she replied that he also doesn't know. So why do you live together and practise the natural process without knowing your love-feeling towards each other? She replied that her parents in Korea warned her of living with a man without a legal marriage as the Christian religion orders. But she found all the girls in Europe do that irrespective of the order of the religion so she did like them.

I told her that this is forbidden in the religions. She said to me not to be middle-aged like her parents and she accused me of abnormality because I'm 28 years old and didn't go in bed with a girl till now as the others do!

She also said that the time has changed, and I`d like to ask what is meant by the change of time? Has it changed from the time the people have used the fats of animals to light their houses, to the time of using the electric lamps! The time of storing the data in big books to the storing in a small computer-disc. The time of travelling with the camels in months to the travelling with the airplanes in hours. The time of sending the letters and information in months to the time of using the Fax in seconds. All those show that the time changes to the best and is more regular than in the past except in the point of marriage which regulates life as we will later, all of us want to change it to the worst.

The last and most terrible friendship is that of a man who lived with a girl for about 13years. She stood beside him and helped him a lot till he could get the degree of Doctor (Ph.D.). Happointed in one of the universities and there he met a girl more educated than his girl-friend. He fell in love with her, so he left his first girl-friend at once after 13 years. When I asked her what she did with him, she replied nothing! because there is no proof for their relation. In spite of that; the new girl he loved has a boy-friend and so pay no attention to that man! what a fantastic world! and again the winner at the end is the man. He is the winner because he can find a woman at any time throughout his life but the woman when she is more than 35 years old, it is very rare for her to find a man who loves her. And we see a lot of examples of men who live with women 15 or 20 years younger than them but on the reverse it is rare or absent to find a woman having a man 15 or 20 years younger than her unless she is wealthy!

The result of this friendship-relations is that: a lot of women live in their houses without a family, without children and no one asks about them or no one thinks to love them because they are no longer suitable for love. What a pity! and the man is the winner.

The youth who practise this way of illegal friendship either Muslims or Christians are totally away from their religion but some of the Christians told me that the god Jesus forgave all the sins when he descended to the earth!

I understood later by the sentence "the time has changed" that the youth would like to differentiate between sex, love and marriage. The men say that they would like to practise sex with any woman they admire. In this case sex is totally devoid of love and is only a mere biological process. This process controls the mind of the man and should be done at once in order to pay attention to the other responsibilities of life like work, study an so on. If we consider sex as a biological process and we made it with any woman we meet and admire, then we creat a disturbance in the regular system of life. I mean the generations will not be able to recognize their fathers. The brother will not know who and where his sister is and probably they meet together and practise the sexual intercourse and so their child will not know either to consider him as his father or his uncle and her as his mother or his aunt. Our life will be complicated, no birth certificates, how can we register our names in schools or in the universities or in any place else. The result of that is a transfer from the regular system in the past to the irregular system in year 2000. And this is the modern life! and this is the time which has changed.

Someone says: we will not reach this degree because the woman takes the birth-control pills, so she doesn't get any children. The aim of all these pills which control the birth is to regulate the period between the children. But all the women misunderstood its use and used it to live their friendship life without having children and she is the only partner who pays the price because she is left by the man whenever he wants without any proof for the relation. She also pays the price by sitting alone at home in a dull life when she reaches the age of 35 and becomes unsuitable for love!

The man can select any girl he wants whatever his age is because the woman looks at the man on the basis of the good personality irrespective of his age. On the contrary; the man looks at the woman from the beauty view point. The first is independent on the age whereas the latter goes side by side with the age. For this reason the man is the winner at the end.

The turning away of youth from the legal marriage is due in fact to several factors: the first of these is that the life of friendship is very nice and full of joy and happiness. Second; it is a very easy life because the man carries no responsibility, on the other hand; he takes all what he wants of love from the woman without any difficulties and free of charge. Third; the absence of divorce in the Christian religion rendered all youth pessimistic and having a fear from the future. Probably some problems may arise between them and they want to be separated but this is forbidden. Although the last reason contradicts with the aim of the friendship because they say that they have to live together enough time before the legal marriage to be sure that they can start the life together on right bases. But the truth as we have seen in the previous stories is mainly for enjoying the time together without thinking at all of marriage.

The fourth reason is that the man can change more than five women throughout his life aiming in all cases that he is examining his relation with his girl-friend and then leaves her and looks for another more beautiful one and so on because this is our sexual-lust greed as men towards the women.

The fifth reason which is caused by a few women is that they say they can't combine between their study or their work and their responsibility for the house. In addition to that; they don't want to have children. This kind of women is the lazy kind because the active woman can regulate her time between work or study and housework. And I know women in Egypt who have two children or more and have a job, in spite of that they regulate their time between work, house and children. Besides; they help their children studying their lessons. To say also that she doesn't like to have children, there is no woman on the surface of the earth who doesn't like to have a child because children are the decoration of the house. And the woman who has this feeling must have a psychological illness.

The friendship was also exaggerated to the degree that the youth practise their romantic love in the streets, buses and the underground. During walking in the street or getting in a bus or an underground; it is normal to find each two pairs grasping each other and kissing each other as if no one is sitting or standing around them.

I ask: is the amount of love inside their hearts so great that they can't do it all in their houses, so they practise part in the house and the other in the street or that is the sedation of Satan?

I remember one day, I was walking in the street, a woman and her child were walking beside me. There were two friends grasping each other in a romantic sight to a degree that it was difficult to distinguish the man from the woman. The child asked his mother about what they were doing, the woman couldn't reply and looked at me and smiled. What happens if the child asked his mother to kiss her and do with her as he saw in the street!?

To come to the rights of woman in the last religion; the Islamic religion, I found out that a false and a very bad picture was transferred to the woman about her rights in Islam. She understands that she has no rights at all. Of these things: first; the marriage of the man with four women, in this case the woman will have only one fourth of the man's heart! Second; the divorce is in the hand of the man, so the woman will be divorced everyday and night as the man wants and be changed by another one either more beautiful or has more money. Third; she has no position in society because Islam orders the woman to sat home and bring up the children but only the men can work, produce and participate in the progress of the country. Fourth; she is treated aggressively by the man as Islam orders and she has to obey him as the slave to his king without any argument. Fifth; Islam differentiate between the man and the woman by ordering the people for example to make separate youth hostels for boys and others for girls.

The problem of the woman is that she believed what has been written to her without returning to the origin. I mean the translated copies of the Quran which are available now in all libraries. In this Book she will find the truth by herself. A complete chapter is written about her rights and how the man should deal with her. Besides; her rights are also mentioned in other dispersed parts in the Quran. I`ll try to speak about these rights exactly without any prejudice and each woman can select the best way that suits her.

For the first point which is the permission to the man to marry four women. The woman here in Europe imagines that each man in the ArWorld walks in the street with one woman in his right hand, the second woman in his left hand, the third in front and the fourth in the back! On the other hand; she considers this as a sort of inequality in rights. In this respect; a woman from Hungary asked me why the woman is not allowed to marry four like the man! Although this woman was a specialist in mathematics and computer which are the sciences of thinking, she forgot to deduce quickly that when a woman marries four men, the child will ask her later about his father from those four fathers. She will not be able to tell him exactly which one is his father unless this child accepted to have four fathers! The four fathers will also fight against each other for the paternity of this child and the final result is that the son will kill his mother and the four husbands will kill each other. The strongest of them will remain abut he may be killed later by the son because he is not his father and remains only the son without a family.

If this happened; by time we will hear about thousands of crimes each day and millions of children in the streets without families. In such a case the woman will say: "we don't want this sort of equality in rights with the men!" What is written in the Quran about this point is:

So because Allah knows well what is hidden in the hearts of men towards the women and because He knows well that the man may leave his wife and go in bed with another in secret without the knowledge of his wife, He gave him the permission to marry more than one till four in the condition that he must do with equal rights among them, if not; then only one is enough. Allah didn't give the woman this permission of marrying more than one for the reason I explained before which makes this impossible. Instead of that Allah has put the condition upon the man to do justice among the women. And if he found that he can't do justice and give equal rights in case of marrying more than one, he shouldn't think except in only one wife.

Allah knows well what is inside the man. He knows that it is impossible for the man to do justice and give equal rights to the women. The main reason for that is the variation in the relative degrees of beauty among the women. A small example for this is the relation between the men and the women in the field of work or in the universities. We find that the student in the university tends to offer his helps to the more beautiful girl and repel away from the less beautiful one although they are all his colleagues! The officials or the workers tend to offer daily thousands of helps to their more beautiful colleagues rather than the less beautiful ones although they are probably married. But this is the nature of life which renders the man tend to be attracted towards the more beautiful and repel away from the less beautiful.

In this respect and since the man will not be able to do justice among the women, he shouldn't think in more than one.

The final result is that: the good man will not think in more than one as he knows that he will not be able to do justice among the wives. He marries the second because she is more beautiful than the first and so will give her more love than the first and so on. If Allah said: only one woman is allowed to each man, we would find a lot of men turn away from their wives and go in bed in secret with another women. But Allah gave the man the permission with a very strong conditions in the favor of woman.

To marry a woman, it is not to go to her and say I`d like to marry you and then you marry her easily. And after a time when you get tired of her or found another more beautiful one, you leave her easily because you took her easily from the beginning. Allah protects the woman and lets her dearer and more desirable for the man and not an easy thing to turn away from. He (Allah) orders the man who thinks in marrying a woman to give her the dowry, to buy what she needs of jewelry or house equipment.

The woman is thus dear to the man as he hasn't married her easily. In such case he will never think in marrying the second or even in divorcing her, except in very rare cases when life between them is impossible and she can't live with him anymore and accepted (the woman) the divorce.

The second point is the divorce. This divorce as you read in the previous chapters was allowed for the Jews during the time of Moses since the hearts of people were hard as mentioned in the New Testament. In Christianity, it is forbidden as they pretend that Jesus had ordered; since the hearts of people are not so hard as during Moses. In Islam, Mohammed during his quotation of the Quran from both Old and New Testament preferred to follow the way of Moses as the hearts of Muslims are very hard like those of the Jews! Mohammed was also a dictator as he put the decision of divorce in the man's hand who by this way will marry and divorce any woman he likes or hates! In this case the woman has no value and no equal rights with the man and this is not a religion at all.

My dear woman, how do you find the Muslim man? Is he a stone who has no heart to love but only marries the woman to get rid of his biological sex force and after feeling quiet, he throws her in the street! Isn't he a human being who selects his second half that can help him throughout his life. To carry part of the burdens of life with him, to listen to him when he has a problem, to say to him a sweet word and activate him to do his work and be a good person in society. Isn't he a human being who wants to build a family on right bases and to see his children running around him in his house, amuse him and also carry his name in the future for the people to remember him. Isn't he a human being who wants to get children for life to continue in a regular manner as he exactly came to this life and not to stop at a certain point.

An equal right is necessary for you, I agree, but not all rights. For example: we can't say to the man to carry the fetus in his abdomen the woman, to suckle the baby from his breast not the woman! Also we can't say to the woman to go to the field of war and fight against the enemies but the men stay at homes! We can't say also to the woman to work in the mines of coal and iron but the men work in the offices. So Allah created certain characters in the man like strength for example, which is not present in the woman and also created characters in the woman like beauty and sentiment which are not present in the man. The man thinks and solves his social problems by mind whereas the woman thinks and solves her social problems by her sentiment!

The divorce is the worst of the allowed. The divorce means the destruction since the marriage from the beginning means the building of two families in one family. After the divorce; the two families are destroyed again. So it is not easy in the Islamic families to accept the divorce unless life between the couples is very difficult and impossible. The families try first by all possible ways to reform between the couples because as I said not only the couples are separated but also the individuals of the two families.

This shows that the man can't take decision of divorce himself without the opinion of his wife and the two families in order to marry another more beautiful girl!

When the decision of divorce is taken, the man doesn't gain but loses. He has to pay for the woman the rights of divorce. In addition to that and in case of the presence of children; he is responsible for all the coasts of bringing those children up. Finally the woman is the winner of this worst thing (the divorce).

The divorce must be allowed for the human beings because no one expects what will happen in the future. Today life is full of happiness between the husband and the wife but tomorrow no one knows except Allah! It is impossible to live without a law of divorce because how a man and a woman can live together with all kinds of hate and without any love between . This as I said before must lead to adultery, the place where everyone can find whom he or she loves but in illegal way (adultery).

If you (the woman) wanted to take the decision of divorce in your hand, we can say: you have to pay a dowry to the man during the marriage and after the divorce instead that he does. Do you accept this? or you want to take both decision and right of divorce together. In this case; you will take this chance to divorce the man everyday and take the right of divorce (money or the equivalent) and by this way you will be a rich woman!

Allah put the decision of divorce in the hand of the man because as I said he thinks by mind, so he will think tens of times before taking this decision. But the woman thinks by sentiment, I mean sentiment overcomes mind at the woman when she comes to take a decision concerning the social life and so she may take this decision easily without thinking in its disadvantages at all.

The third point which is concerned with the position of woman in society. The woman thinks that Islam orders the woman to raise cattle and sheep in the desert where men can't see her! The woman in the Islamic countries learns all fields of science. She represents now the majority and her numbers began to exceed the numbers of men. She is now a doctor in hospital, a professor in the university and a lawyer in the court. In addition to that, she occupies positions in the different ministries and shares in all sorts of progress of her country.

In spite of that; she doesn't forget a very important thing which is her relation to the man. She is not allowed to go in bed without a legal marriage. She is not allowed to have a boy-friend and live with him a very happy life and then after that he throws her in the street. These are the limits which the woman has to put in her mind and these limits are in her favor not in the favor of man. If she was loved from a man, he has to enter her house from its door and meet her family and ask to marry her legally. They can then sit and speak together one, two or more times and see if their traditions are similar or not and if they can live together or not. And by this way a good family is built and a regular life runs.

For the fourth point, how the man should deal with his wife. A woman from Norway told me that Islam orders the man to treat the woman aggressively. I don't know who gave this woman such false information. If Islam orders the man to deal with the woman by force, what are the men themselves? Aren't they human beings who want to live a happy life with their wives, the second half without her the man is not complete.

The woman is the key to the man's success but this doesn't prevent that she may be a destructive factor if she isn't a good woman! So how can the man be aggressive with her and he is in a great need to her to stand beside him!?

For the last point that the Islamic countries differentiate between the man and the woman for example: they build separate W.C. separate youth-hostels. I wonder why the woman asks this question although there is the same thing here in Europe. In all the world there are W.C. for men and others for women. There are some youth hostels (in Munich for example) which are only for girls. The people find this as a kind of middle-age thinking and doesn't run at all with the modern time and some say: "what happens if both sex lived together?"

Other problem is the clothes of the woman. A girl asked me why Islam prevents the woman from wearing tight clothes but wide ones which cover her body and don't show her female organs for the man in this case will not be attracted to her. This girl said also that all the women here in Europe wear tight clothes which are very short and their whole body can be seen, in spite of that no problems and nothing happens.

The wearing of tight clothes is here normal and nothing happens because the man is not excited the point of sexual lust as every man has his girl-friend, so there is no problem at all. But if you agreed with me to prevent what is called a friendship between a boy-friend and a gibecause it has many disadvantages upon the girl not upon the man and he must marry in a legal way in order to guarantee your rights so that he can't leave you whenever he wants and also to build a right society. In this case what can the youth who are still learning do at this moment which is not suitable for marriage until they finish their study first? We have to keep them. So your short and tight clothes will sedate them now but your wide clothes will decrease their degree of excitation. On the other hand; we keep you also because your short and tight clothes may lead the bad youth who are not religious to try to do with you by force and may think in killing you if you refused to respond to what they want. So in this case wide clothes will protect you both.

The separation of the two sexes in schools or youth hostels is better for them both as they are in the age of adolescence. The difficult period in the life of the boy or the girl, and both of them think in coming in touch with the other. But we have agreed on the disadvantages of friendship upon the girl in the future. So it is not logic to put the fire beside the petrol and say: this is normal and nothing will happen!

Because the woman is no longer now a dream for the man as he has taken from her enough what he wants a new phenomenon but in fact a very ancient phenomenon began to appear and increase in our societies. This phenomenon concerns the men who are called homosexual and who are interested in practising the sex process among each other without the need to the woman.

It is normal to find two men holding each other in the street. They can also marry each other and the society welcomes this marriage with great happiness. But it is advised that only one man for one man in order to avoid any diseases which may arise if a man practiced such process with more than one man!

If this indicated, it indicates that we returned back in time, far back before the birth of the Christ Jesus to the people of the prophet Lot. Those people had left their wives and practiced the sex process among them. The result as we know all from the Holy Books was that they had been severely punished by stones descended upon them from the heaven and their houses had been completely destroyed together with them inside. So the society must take care of this phenomenon before the chastisement comes to us from the heaven. Also it is totally forbidden to practise the sexual intercourse with the woman in her back opening.

So on one hand; the woman takes such birth-control pills in order not to give children and to live a free friendship life. The rate of men tendency to marriage and get children is decreasing rapidly. The start of appearance of men who are interested in doing sex with other men. More important also is the phenomenon of abortion, a lot of women have the wish to abortion nowadays and to kill their wombs fruit. All these factors will lead to the decrease of our population.

The prevention of girls to go in bed with boys before a legal marriage is to let them dear and more desirable for the men. Especially; the man always prefers the virgin rather than the woman who went in bed with many others before him! On the other hand; the main aim of the sexual intercourse is for the life to continue by getting children through the union of any two opposite sexes. The sex enjoyment is the impulse to get such children. Without such feeling to join the opposite, no one will think in coming near the other and so life would have stopped at a certain point in the past if the people had thought in the same way as we think now.

In these days a new disease appeared in our societies and is spreading very quickly among the people. That is what is called "AIDS" All medical investigations have proved now that the main cause of this disease is the illegal sexual intercourse which is followed now in all parts of the world without any respect of God's orders. The number of people carrying this disease has increased by five millions this year (1994) than the last year. One of the American dentists has stated in an article titled "WHY AIDS" published in one of the dental magazines that this new disease is a form of God's punishment for the illegal sexual intercourse practiced among the people in the form of test- friendship relation before marriage.

The greed of married men has extended now to look with a sexual lust at the wives of their friends. Some friends exchange their wives as if the woman was a toy everyone plays with it a moment! For those who make such a great sin; how can you be sure of your paternity to your children in case another man has shared you putting the seeds of your fruits?

Therefore; man has to put his sperms in the right place and also the woman has to receive sperms from a right source aiming both to build a regular life by getting children, the fruit of what they grew together. On the other hand; they enjoy their natural sex feeling but not only think in sex enjoyment as a biological process.

This is a short advice especially for the woman and also for the man in order that both may follow the regular rules which the Creator has selected for us. To try to avoid and minimize the mistakes we follow these days by disobeying His orders in the course of modern civilization because we will return to Him sooner or later after death and after enjoying such a very short life which runs very quickly. We have to do all what He ordered in order that He may put a mercy upon us and can guard us against the fire which He prepared for the disbelievers and bad-doers.