ALL BIRTHPARENTS, BIRTHSIBLINGS, BIRTHGRANDPARENTS,
ADOPTEES, & ADOPTIVE PARENTS ARE TRIAD MEMBERS ... you don't have to do
anything to become a triad member ... you ARE a member through your
relationship with someone who was separated from their birthfamily by
adoption.
COMMON BOND is a support group dedicated to providing support to all members of the triad who have the need and desire to meet with other birthmothers, adoptees, and adoptive parents. It was locally founded by three reunited birthmothers. It's membership is FREE to anyone who is interested. Please send us an e-mail if you are interested in learning more about our group.
If you are a triad member living in the PANAMA CITY, FLORIDA, FT. WALTON BEACH, CHIPLEY, CRESTVIEW, ETC. area please contact Mary for information on how to get together with other triad members in this area. I recently met with two wonderful birth mothers from this area who are offering their support to all members of the triad community, so if you're in that part of the state don't hesitate to drop Mary a line to learn more about joining forces with them.
If you are searching for someone as a result of a BIRTH IN PENSACOLA,
FLORIDA, MOBILE, AL, OR ANY OTHER CITY IN THE FLORIDA PANHANDLE (i.e. FT.
WALTON BEACH, MILTON, PANAMA CITY, EGLIN AIR FORCE BASE, NAS PENSACOLA,
BREWTON, AL, ... basically we're posting any births/adoptions that took
place anywhere in between Pensacola, FL and TALLAHASSEE, FL -- which we
realize is a very broad definition of the Florida Panhandle)
OR AN ADOPTION THAT TOOK PLACE IN ANY OF THESE AREAS,
WITH THE BIRTH HAVING TAKEN PLACE IN ANOTHER CITY I invite you to send your search
information to Common Bond. We
need to have at least your basic information: gender of adoptee,
relationship of person searching, date of birth, location of birth, plus
location of where adoption took place if you have knowledge of this. Please
include your e-mail address (which will not be posted on line) plus an
alternate means of contacting you in case your e-mail address changes or is
out of service. This is important, as we have no other way of contacting
you in case of a possible match. Anytime you write us regarding your search
please be sure to include the date of birth (dob) you are searching for in
the e-mail. You must be 18 years of age in order to post your search data.
If you are just beginning your search for a loved one lost to you through
adoption I urge you to first register with the International Soundex Reunion Registry. This registry is
FREE and is the largest in the United States. If you have already been
searching for awhile, but have not registered with ISRR you need to consider
doing so, for it is an important place to put your search information.
If you are a birthmother I urge you to consider joining the
Sunflower's Birthmom's
List. Members of this FREE list communicate via e-mail. There is an
unbelievable amount of support provided to members by other birthmoms on the
list, plus a regular ongoing exchange of knowlege and information between
members ... not to mention an occassional joke to lighten up the day.
If you are an adoptee I encourage you to visit the homepage of a
group of adoptees who are politically
active, working diligently to reform closed adoption laws.
The internet is the greatest tool birthparents and adoptees have to reconnect
with one another. I encourage you to post your information in as many
places as you can find. If you visit a website and they do not have a
registry ... or their registry is geared toward a specific state other than
the one you are searching in ... check to see if they have a guestbook, and
if they do POST your basic search information on it. BE SURE TO KEEP A
NOTEBOOK OF EVERYWHERE YOU POSTED, AND INCLUDE THE ADDRESS OF THE WEBSITE
YOU POSTED ON. This will be your roadmap, and will help you if you have
to go back and change an e-mail address. It is important that you keep
your e-mail address current, as this is the ONLY way people inquiring about
your posting have of getting in touch with you.
LIST OF SEARCHES FROM ADOPTEES/BIRTHFAMILIES FOR PENSACOLA, FLORIDA
CATHOLIC CHARITIES SEARCH REGISTRY for all states ... privately owned website not affiliated with CC or any other agency of the Catholic Church
COMMON BOND MEMBER'S PERSONAL SEARCHES ... searches from various parts of the U.S.