i was trying to give a friend of mine relationship advice and i came out with this profound self realization of the way that i behave in relationships...
the situation is that one perosn in a relationship kinda wants to break things off but doesnt wanna be the one to do it... here was my reply...


hmmm... well, im a guy... sorta... okay, so maybe not, but i do have the appropriate plumbing so im gonna chip in my 2 cents...
i, personally, dont really like to just let things flow... i either want to be in love with someone or not with anyone so i can find someone to be in love with... not saying that its actually that easy, but thats the way my brain works... i think love is a very rare thing, but if im not in it i wanna be looking for it...
breaking off a relationship is scary... its a hard thing to do if you still care about the person...
things get tricky when you are totally into someone and then things kinda get less (insert adjective here)...
the situation is that you still care about this person,
you dont want to hurt them,
you want somthing new or at least to look for what the relationship youre already in has lost,
and you know that once you break up with this person you are going to regret it horribly unless you find someone else...
im prolly going to loose what little man status i have left by telling you all that (theyll take away my membership card, parking space and change the secret password and handshake), but thats the way i work... i doubt its the way all guys or all girls or anyone other than myself works...
i dunno... i just know ive been in his situation many times and ive also been in yours... its not easy from either end... breaking things off is prolly the best option, but sometimes things do get better (ive been there too...)
its all horribly complicated and usually just stews until somthing sets it off...
dunno if that made any sense, but i think i learned more about myself typing it...
maybe it helps, maybe not...
do with it what you will...