Toothless Whore...

That’s what my co-workers at the retail store called Diane. They knew me longer then Andrea or Diane and when they saw what was going on they got pissed with me. Andrea wasn’t going to lunch with me anymore - only with Diana. This one girl, Nicole and I would talk about it and she saw what was happening. She said that Diane is a stupid bitch and no one likes her at the store. Only Andrea hung out with her and people thought that was weird because she used to hang with me and I am not like Diana. I was glad that people were noticing. They said Andrea changed too... she wasn’t like she was. They couldn’t pinpoint it - but she was different. And not in a great way. Every time Diane would walk by me or other people at work she wouldn’t say shit because she knew no one liked her stupid ass. They thought she was scum. I thought it was great. Andrea and I now weren’t talking anymore. We both were mad at each other and kept tight lipped. I started it but ignoring her at work. I was hurt. I know that wasn’t the best choice to handle the situation but I was really upset. Before I left the sporting goods store I was the head of customer service. Basically I was the most knowledgeable person on the registers, returns and questions. Plus I was quick. I refused to work customer service again when I came back for the holidays but one day I had no other option. The managers needed me and Diana was there by herself. Apparently she thought she was the store goddess and could handle it. When I got there she had a long ass line and the phone was ringing. I laughed and took control. Answering a phone and ringing people up isn’t that difficult. I ran circles around her ass. She was so mad and frustrated. Ha ha, that was funny. Okay back to my story... So there was a lot of tension going on. Finally I couldn’t take it anymore and I talked to Art. He had know both us a while and knew how close we were. As he stood there stringing a tennis racket we talked about everything. He understood how I felt and said that I should talk to her and tell her again how I feel and I think the whole situation sucks.

Shocker...

I decided it was time to act. I walked up to her and said we needed to go outside and talk. She agreed and we went out to the table and sat down. I started the conversation. I said that I was upset blah blah blah and explained how I felt. She did the same and we cried. I seriously thought things would be normal again. She said she wanted them to be and that we would work hard to fix the problems. I was so happy! This was wonderful, I felt like I had my best friend back. Then I got a shock. I asked her what she had been up to since we stopped talking and she didn’t say much. Then she blurted out, “I got a boyfriend”. I was taken back for a minute and my first reaction was happy. I thought about how cool it would be to double date and this would now open the door for us to spend more time together. I asked who it was and where she met him. This made my heart sink. His name is Dave. He is 23 (she was 19 at the time) and lived with his parents. He wasn’t going to school but he worked with his parents. He had a truck and was Diane’s best friend. He was one of the druggie kids hanging out in the scum apartment. He had told Diane that he liked Andrea so Andrea told her that Dave said that (doesn’t this sound like middle school?) because Dave was too shy to ask her himself etc. Andrea and him started talking and going out. I asked her how long this was going on and she said one week. I said cool and that night I was working at the tanning salon so Andrea said she would bring him by so I could meet him. Sounds good. Now the lies start.

Liar Liar Pants on Fire...

She came to the salon with him and I almost fainted. She always ragged on me for liked thick guys. I’ll admit it, a little tummy flab is cute. She never dug short guys either. Well, Dave is like 5’9 (I am almost as tall as him) and a chunk ball. He was ugly as fuck and looked like a person you would throw change at. The Jessica attitude kicked in. I looked at him right in the eye - to me that is symbol of strength. If you can’t look at me in the eye back then I will question you. He looked at the ground. I looked at Andrea with disapproval and again started to talk to Dave. I was being nice, but strong. I wanted him to know that she is my best friend and means the world to me. Fuck her over and you deal with me. I asked him how long they had been dating. Guess what he says? A MONTH!! What the fuck? I thought to myself, “She told me a week!” Lie number one. She never lied to me before... what was going on? When he said that she looked away from me because she knew she was busted. “A month huh?”, I said and started talking to him some more. I asked if they wanted to tan on the house and she yeah and he said no. She tried to coax him to but he still refused. Andrea asked me if I wanted to hang out with them at the bowling alley after work. I said maybe but I have to stop home and get my money. I said she and Dave should also come by since she hadn’t seen my mom in a while. The deal with Andrea and my mom is my mom treated her like a daughter. My mom doesn’t do that for anyone! She bent over backwards for this girl and tried to make her lifer better for her because of the shit Andrea dealt with at home. My mom knew what Andrea was doing and was scared for her too. Andrea knew that and I didn’t want to see my mom and get a lecture. I said okay and then they left. It was strange though because they left in her car with him driving. Whatever - I was just bummed she lied. I knew we would talk about that later though.

Limbo Period....

She was getting more involved in this guy and since we were fighting over Christmas we hadn’t given each other our presents. She came over one night in January and we traded gifts and talked. I could something was different. We started talking about boyfriend stuff and eventually the talk turned to sex. I decided to ask if they had sex yet. I mean, she and him were only going for three weeks or so and she hadn’t ever done anything with anyone. I figured she hadn’t. I asked her and she got embarrassed. My jaw dropped and she said they had. I almost died. Okay, calm down Jess.... I kept telling myself that. I asked dif she knew where he had been and she said no. Then I asked if she used protection and she he used a condom but she had the lights off so she didn’t see anything. That's smart. Lets sleep with a guy we barely know anything about in the dark and have no clue if he has a herpified dick or what. I couldn’t believe her ignorance. Giving up your virginity like that - I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. I told her she needed to get some kind of birth control going. She didn’t know where to go since she has no health insurance or anything. I said she could go to Planned Parenthood and they would help her out. As I was sitting there telling her this I was staring at her face. She didn’t look the same... she looked harder and worn. Its was weird. We talked about it some more and she went home. I cried that night after she left. I felt dirty for her. It was about a month later from when the sex thing came up and they were doing it unprotected and she still didn’t ask him who he was with prior or how many people he had slept with. By his looks I am guessing it wasn’t that many. Her and I talked and I learned that she was always driving down to that scum apartment and he would only go to her place to fuck. He also drank and smoked so he would go to the bars with his friends and Andrea would stay in the scum hole with Diana and the other girls playing with Diane’s kids. Since Andrea was the only one with a car out of the girls she would load up the car seats and her and Diane would go places. The night that me and my ex got in a huge fight and he kicked me out of his house in the rain I met up with Sara and her friends and we talked all night. I was thinking about calling Andrea and asking if I could crash at her house because if I came home at 3am my parents would freak out and know something was terribly wrong. I didn’t call her that night but I called her the next day when I was at the tanning salon. She and Dave got in a fight that night too and both of us cried on the phone. She told me that Dave went out with his friends all night at bars and she kept paging him and he wouldn’t call her back and that he wouldn’t usually call her back anyways. I got pissed for her. My and my ex broke up and then got back together again over our fight and Andrea said that she didn’t want to be with Dave anymore either. She found out he was doing and selling cocaine. He didn’t tell her and just said he smoked pot but that was the only drug he did. We talked about how he was using her for her car, credit and a piece of ass. She came over to my house and left him a voice mail saying she didn’t want to with him anymore. I was so proud of her. That same night though they got back together. I was sad, but I made the same mistake with my ex by getting back together. I was able to understand why she did. She and her mom were also moving to a new apartment during this time and I took her out and we looked for places for them to live.

Things Get Worse...

They got a place and she I stopped talking again. Not from fighting but we were busy in our lives and had different interests. She dropped out of college completely and I was trying to get enough units to get in SDSU. One day her brother came to the tanning salon to show me a car he bought. I asked him how Andrea was doing and he said he didn’t know. She never really talked to him anymore but he heard that she was living in some trailer park with her boyfriend and two other people. What!?! I called her and it was true. She said that Dave couldn’t stand living with his parents anymore and his friends Drew and Christina, rented a trailer for cheap. Dave started staying over their rent-free and Andrea did too. They slept on an extra mattress for months. She said that all her clothes and stuff was still at her mom’s apartment and she still played half the rent there. I asked why she would pay half the rent at a place she isn’t staying at. That doesn't make sense. She tried to get all her bills transferred to the mobile home park and her cell got turned off in the process. I called her at work and we talked. This Christina girl was one of Diane’s friends too and Dave was now saying he didn’t like Diane for causing Andrea’s break up with him. Please... they are all stupid. Anyways, I will still worried and thought it was pathetic that she was living in a broke down trailer with people who were scum. Dave’s truck broke down and how convienent to have your girlfriend’s car. He started to drive her to and from work while he would stay home in the trail and pick his ass. Andrea stopped by the tanning salon one night with Christina. She was an ex-gang member and pregnant. She had tears tattooed in-between her index finger and thumb. I was grossed out. Andrea’s make-up changed too. She was looking so different. She looked so much older and not in a matured way. Andrea let Christina drive her car too hen she wanted. I thought that was stupid. Dave ended up getting into a fight with Drew and Andrea told him he could move into her mom’s place with her. Keep in mind they have only been going out for 4 months at this point. Andrea told me to come and visit her at her apartment but I made it clear I didn’t like Dave and I felt her was using her and I was really scared for her well being. I said that I didn’t like who she was hanging out with and how she was dropped out of school to work for $6.50 an hour.

I Become Free...

My ex and I broke up for good and I was looking forward to reestablishing my social life. I called Andrea ad told her what happened. She was happy for me and we decided that we would try again to become close. I started to visit her at work and we would hang out for lunch. Everyday we would talk on the phone and keep in touch. It was weird though because it was only when she was at work that we would talk or hang out. When she was home it was Dave time. I didn’t want to be around him and she knew that. I felt he was a piece of shit. We still tried to hang out but it wasn’t really working. All she could talk about was Dave this and Dave that. I decided to have a bonfire and she said she would help me plan it and buy stuff for it. This would be a great way for us to do something again. I made flyers and gave her a huge stack to pass out to my old co-workers at the retail store. I was busing inviting people while I thought she was doing the same thing. Wrong. She ‘forgot’ to pass out the flyers and didn’t do anything for it. The of the bonfire her and I went out and bought snacks and the tiki touches. She said Dave was going to come and I said that was okay. Maybe he would be nice and I would end up liking him? I was open to the possibility. We got to the beach and saved a bonfire pit. Our other friends started showing up and Andrea kept calling her boyfriend. Like usual her had her car (by this time he only drove her car and put 10,000 miles on it in 6 months) and she wanted a jacket. She kept calling him and he said he was on his way. She kept calling him after that and he stopped answering. She was getting upset and about to cry when finally THREE hours later he shows up with his friend. He was drunk. Andrea didn’t even say anything to him and just clung to his side. I was disgusted. He would run off with his friend and smoke some pot then come back to the bonfire and announce it to everyone. Everyone though they were trashy and ignored them. Dave couldn’t stand up anymore so Andrea had to hold him up. I walked away and was talking to my other friends and Andrea asked me if I wanted to go for a walk on the pier with them. I didn’t want to but she was looking at me with that “Please come!” look so I said yeah and started searching for my sandals. I found ‘em and Dave’s friend asked me to hold him up to for the walk. I snapped, “Hell no, you did that to yourself and you can walk!” He looked at me and started saying shit so I snapped again, this time Andrea, “You can go by yourself. Have fun...” and I walked back to the bonfire. I was pissed. I started going off and people at the party could see what was happening. Some of them knew the old Andrea and were just a confused as I was. They left and didn’t come back for a long time. When they did come back Dave fell into the sand and Andrea came up to me and just stood there. I asked where her man was and she said he was lying down. Yeah right. Anyways she could tell I was pissed and she knew why. She didn’t know what to say though - I could tell. Finally I said, “Why don’t you leave and take his ass home?” She agreed and started to pick up her stuff. It was a lot for just her to carry so I started to help her and this guy I was hanging out with did too. Andrea said she had it and we said no and the guy I was with said he would help her to her car. Andrea freaked out and said no and I said, “Then get your piece of shit boy over here to help you!” She said it was okay and kept trying to carry everything. Dave got up and couldn’t even walk and Andrea held him up and balanced the stuff in her arms. It was so sad. Dave’s friend stumbled behind them into the darkness of the parking lot. I couldn’t believe what I seeing. This wasn’t the first time this had happened either. I could tell. I talked to Andrea the next day and it was pointless because Dave hadn’t done anything wrong according to her. He just drank too much and he said he was sorry. Okay, whatever. I didn’t like him anymore then I did. It was embarrassing.

My Birthday Gets Ruined...

This is what Sara wrote in her live journal about what happened: The next morning Jess's parents came up again with Jess's friend Andrea. (cuz Saturday was Jess's birthday) So we just hung out, floated in the poo, and sat in the spa. We ate a birthday lunch in the restaurant and then floated around some more (you can tell this place is SUPER exciting...) Anyways, Andrea started pulling this crap that she was sick, and ended up calling her boyfriend to take her home. So she left at 8:30 p.m. after only being there since 10 am... this REALLY upset Jessica since Andrea has been her conjoined twin pretty much for about 6 or 7 years. And now boys have come between them... Its tragic. Basically what happened is Andrea knows how much I hate her boyfriend and that I want nothing to do with him. While planning my birthday trip she said that maybe Dave could drop her off in Jacumba (that’s about an hour from where we live) and then he would pick her up that night and possibly come swimming in the spa water. I told her no. I said I didn’t want to even see Dave and it was my birthday! I can be selfish! I said I would drive her there and back or we would work something out. It’s kinda of sad when you have to work yourself around not having YOUR car because you boyfriend drives it. We decided that my parents would drive her up there and then she would stay the night and I would take her home. Sara and I went up and my parents brought Andrea the next day. I asked if her boyfriend took her car and she said no. Turned out to be a lie. As soon as Andrea got there she had to call him so she did and came back to the room. We swam and my parents bought us lunch. As soon as my parents took off Andrea made another phone call then started saying she was sick. I was concerned and she said her depo shot makes her sick and she had a headache. I told her I would get some aspirin for her and said no. Sara and I wanted to swim some more and Andrea kept bitching she was sick. She made another call and came back all happy. I was thinking maybe she was feeling better and we started to put our bathing suits on. As I was slipping mine on Andrea breaks the news that would forever change our friendship beyond repair. She said that she called Dave and he was coming along with his friends to get her around 10pm and asked if it was cool with me they swam and hung out for bit. I was about to explode and I said sure and as Andrea and Sara headed to the pool I went to call my parents. I told them what happened and they got upset with me because they feel Andrea is fucking up life too. They told me to lock the room door when they come. I was so mad. The one thing I asked her not to do she does. And it was kind of funny that she felt better all of a sudden. When I got back in the pool Andrea was all talkative and when it about 8pm she said that she wanted to sit in the jacuzzi. I knew why because that faces the parking lot and she could see when the trash mobile rolls up to get her like a glimmering chariot of white scum. I said no but gave in and we sat in there. Around 8:30pm they pulled up and when Sara and I saw they were there we jumped out and walked out of the spa area. Andrea called them in as we were leaving and she asked Dave if he wanted to swim. I guess he said hi to me but I ignored him. Sara and I went into the pool and before I could hop in I noticed Andrea and Sara were going into the room. I followed in and stood in the doorway. Sara left and Andrea got dressed. We didn’t say much. I asked where Dave was and she said he was in the bar with his friends. I asked if they were drinking and she yes and I said, “and you’re driving home with them?” She said yes and it was okay. I said later and she said bye and that was the end.

Final Goodbye...

After that incident I knew we were over. I was so hurt and couldn't believe she did that to me. We talked a little bit and Dave started to hate me because he realized I didn’t like him. I didn’t give a shit. I wrote her a 10 page letter about how I felt and that I know I did things to her that were fucked up but nothing like that. We got together and she read it and we talked. She cried but I didn’t. She didn’t talk that much but she said she wanted to be my best friend and that she would try and we would hang out more. But she said that she wants to be with Dave for the rest of her life (this is her first boyfriend) and she doesn’t care if he uses her. She said that we can’t go to the casino without him because he will show up and all this stupid crap. Basically I could tell she wasn't my best friend anymore. In face she isn't a friend. She called me about a week after that and we had nothing to talk about. I never returned her call and haven’t talked to her since. I have nothing to say.

The End....

I think it sucks that we ended this way and it’s hard. I don’t think her and I will ever talk again. I know that she won’t be my best friend again and I don’t even want her in my life. She has made her choice in life and it’s the opposite of what I want. I’ve learned that people change and there is nothing you can do about it. It’s just shitty when the change tears you apart. To all those who have best friends out there - value what you have while you have it. For me, I am sticking to my dogs. They don’t betray me. This isn't even close to explaining everything happened with our friendship. This is just a small glimpse at something that happened which caused it to end. There is so much more to the story...

I do think it's important that you get to see what HE looks like since he is a main part of this. This pic was taken the night of my bonfire when he came all drunk and acted really stupid. See for yourself - doesn't it look like she could get better?