Hey people. I decided that I'd put up an advice column on my web page. I doubt that I'm going to get anyone to send me anything on here, but if you need any advice, send me an e-mail at the address below, and I'll try to give you the best advice that I can. Sometimes I'll need your guys advice too, and when I do, I'll post a message, and then you can get back to me at my normal e-mail. Ok? PLEASE someone send me something! I want to help you guys! It doesn't matter what the topic is either. It could be guys/girls, problems with life, family problems, anything, I'm here for everyone, ok? Just remember that!
Yey! Some people actually sent me some things, so I'm going to try to give some people advice, ok? Oh, and if you (the readers) have any advice for them as well, send it in, and I'll post it, ok?
1. Dear Help Lady
Sometimes I feel like I have to fart all the time. Its not That I eat a lot of beans or anything its just that i have the feeling that I have extra air in me that must be let out of my butex. I feel very self-confident because of my situation,butt I mean but, I'm not sure what to do.
Please Help Me!!!!!!!!
From
Lots o' air
Dear Lots o' air
I only have one thing to say: Go see a doctor!! PLEASE go and see a doctor. Luv, D.
2. There's this guy that I like and he's really nice and everything and I know him pretty well. He just broke up with is girlfriend a little while ago, and he knows that I kinda like him. I was just wondering how long I should wait for him to get over his ex?? It was a mutal break up but I don't want him to go out with me because he's on the rebound! When do you think that he will be "over" her? Please help me!!! Thanks!
Dear "Blank", (lol)
This is a tough one. I've been in this situation before. There's really 2 answers. If you're friends with him, and know a lot about him, then, just follow your heart. If it's really ment to be, you should know when to "make a move". But, if you don't really know him, I'd say get to know him more first. Show him that he can trust you, become very goods friends. Then, as I already said, you should be able to tell. Just follow your heart. This is a difficult question to answer, because it really depends on you, and him. Do you kind of understand what I'm saying? I guess what I'm saying is follow your heart. Or, hint that you like him and see how he responds. I hope that I've been some help to you. I'm not sure if I have though. And remember, you don't have to listen to me. But, good luck!!:o) Luv, D.
3. Ok I've got this problem, there's this guy that I like and well he likes me I know that. The thing is well he's 28 and I'm only 15. I know the age difference is a lot, but I think we could make it work, I was just wondering how do I tell my parents that I'm in love with a guy that's 13 years older than me??? Oh yeah he has 2 kids, they're totally adorable!! He says he's willing to wait for me to turn 18, but I don't know if I can wait that long!! Please help me!!! Thanks!! Mia
Dear Mia
This is a VERY hard question. First of all, I personally think that that's WAY to big of an age difference, but that's just my opinion. How to tell your parents? Don't tell them! No, I'm just kidding. Anyways, when you tell them, don't tell them in a note or something like that. Tell them straight to their faces. Ok? That's very important. Maybe, you should just tell them that you have a boy friend, and tell them how much you like him, and a little bit about him, but, ignor the age for a little bit. Maybe even let them meet him, as long as he doesn't look like he's 28! I really don't know. This is another one where you just have to follow your heart. Oh, and about the whole marrage thing, I'd advise you to wait until you are 18. But, that's just me! Ok? Good luck! Please don't do anything.... stupid. K? Luv, D.
Thanks to Ann for sending this help for Mia! I appreciate it a lot! *POKE* Thanks a bunch girl!
Why does this guy want to marry her? I mean, she's so much younger than he is, it makes no sense he would even think about dating her. This relationship might be dangerous for her if he has some other reason to marry her than love, not to say he does but it's possible. I don't know this guy so I can't say he is or isn't trustworthy, but she should make completely sure before she does anything she might regret later on.
Ok, here's a message from Mia:
See I know that it sounds pretty pathetic that he would wait for me to turn 18, and that he might be after something other than love. But we've talked about that because I was worried about that myself, and he knows that I'm going to stay a virgin until I'm married, and I'm not really rich or anything, so it wouldn't be for money. And I know it seems like a dangerous relationship, but he's an amazing guy! He's a lot more mature than the guys my own age, they drive me crazy. It's nice to have someone that I can talk to about ANYTHING, we totally understand each other. And I will make sure that I won't do anything that I'll regret later, I'm not going to do anything stupid, that's why I asked for advice :) Thanks for the suggestions. Mia
4.There is this guy I really like he is 1 year and a half older then me. But the way we dress is totally diffrent, I mean he is a farm kinda boy which is totally cute, Cause well it means he strong but I am DEFENTLY NOT!! But Does it really matter? Any ways, I totally dig him, and wanna go for it, cause he loves chicks that like hockey, but how do I tell if he is intrested? Should I ask him out? PLEASE HELP SOON!!!! Thanks! Troubled about boys!
Dear Troubled about boys!;
First of all, i agree. The fact that you 2 dress differently doesn't matter at all! But, if you don't know him that well, you shouldn't make a move on him yet. Cause, I KNOW you, and no offence, but you sometimes screw things up by jumping in too fast. I've done that many times too. You have to think about what you're doing first. Get to know him more. I mean, you hardley know him. Really, when you think about it. Just relax, get to know him more, when you know him better, maybe get one of your friends to ask him if he likes you. But, I can probably garantee that right now, he'd probably say that he doesn't know, cause he doesn't know you that well. Ok? Trust me on this one. You don't have to take my advice, cause you usually don't, but that's my opinion. Take it SLOWLY. Don't jump in without realizing what you're getting into, ok? And you never know, if you give it enough time, he may ask you out, or majorly hint that he likes you. You never know. Good luck! Luv D.
5. hey, deena, i have a problem, this is it. Key, there's this girl that i like that lives a long way away, i don't know what to do. I'm pretty sure she likes me, i also know that i really want to go out with her. Please help me to figure out what to do. gerhard
Dear Gerhard;
Hey. This is a tough one. I know what you're going through, because almost all of my relationships have been long distance. It's very hard, and you have to be very commited. You also have to have complete trust in the person, which is sometimes hard to have. Not being able to see the person a lot is also very difficult. That's part of the reason that I've ended most of my relationships, because I need someone there for me. You know? Seriously, no matter how much you may like/love the person, that can be extremely hard. For example, my current b/f lives about 40 minutes away, and we've been "dating" for 2 months, and I've seen him once. Do you know how hard that is? It's very hard, and even though i care about him, I might have to end it soon, just because I can't stand never seeing him. I don't really know what you should do. Follow your heart, but don't ruin a friendship by making a drastic decision. She may like you, but she may not. You never know. And you'll probably never know until you see her, and you see a light in her eyes spark up when she see's you. Then you'll know. This is a though one. I guess just follow your heart. You're heart never lies. Good luck, I hope everything works out for you. Luv, D.
I would like to thank Diana for sending this next thing! I got all excited when I got it! This page is working out better than I thought it would! Thanks a bunch for getting back, and giving Gerhard some advice!
D, I'm writing this letter in regards to a letter written to you from Gerhard. I have experience with a long distance relationship. Maybe I can help. I met the guy at my school..but he switched schools and now we only get to see each other every other week or so..when we're lucky..every week. We have total and complete trust in each other and it is working out great! This is our second year in different schools. We have been going out since March 27/98 and still going strong. But like you said Gerhard will have to follow his heart and if they have trust in each other..go for it!! I hope this could help everyone and I hope you post it. Thanks. In Love
6. Hi! I have this problem. I like a guy. From Jose
Dear Jose;
Ok. so you're gay right? Well, I'm a Christian, so I don't really think that being gay's "right", but if the guy likes you back, why not go for it? I mean, just follow your heart, ok? That's about all I really have to say about this. Keep it real DuDe! Luv, D.
7.OK peoples, I have a problem! I really like this guy, and I think that he MIGHT like me back. Oh, and for those of you who know me, don't ask me who it is, cause I'm NOT going to tell you. Ok? So don't even try! Anyways, I'm not toally sure that he likes me, because he's REALLY shy, and I'm really shy in front of guys that I like, but he's always giving me this cute little smile....... sigh. He's SO hott!:o) But that's not the point. I really like him, and I really don't know what to do. I can't stop thinking about him! What should I do? I hardley talk to him though, cause I'm too shy to. Sigh. Please help me! I don't know what to do! Should I even do something, or just leave it alone? Please help me you guys! Thanks a bunch!:o) Luv, D.
Hey!~~~
This is what I think. Ok, I think you should start by talking to him. Become friends and find out what he is really like and then maybe you can see how he really feels. There, thats my advice.
Sheena
Thanks Sheena i think I might take that advice! lol.
8.Ok, my problem is this guy. I really like him and he knows I do. He's really flirty with me and that kind of thing, but I don't think that anything is going to happen with him. He's a really great guy too. And I know what you're going to say, get to know him better first. Well that's what I've been doing. I just really want him to ask me out, I'd ask him out but I think he'd say no and I don't think I could take that. So far every guy I've liked hasn't like me. How can I get him to see that dating isn't a bad thing? Help Me!
Dear Help Me;
First of all, i have to verify something. He thinks that dating is a bad thing? Cause your question kind of threw me off, cause you didn't say anything about him saying that dating was a bad thing. Ok, so he knows that you like him, and he's still all flirty, but doesn't like you? Ok, I'm sorry to do this to you girl. He's probably "flirty" with every girl. That's just the way some guys are. I have this one friend who has a girl friend, but is still flirty with everyone. That's just the way he is. If you didn't know this guy (my friend) and you had just met him, you would get the impression that he liked you, but in all reality he didn't. I have a feeling that this guy is like my friend. If you opened your eyes you'd probably see that he asted like that around everyone. I know that sounds harsh, but there's no other way to put it. Just hang in there, a keep the faith. You never know, something might happen further on down the road. I just don't want you to get a false hope right now, cause he's flirty. A lot of guys are like the, and he's probably one of them. You could talk to him about it. Ask him if he'd ever consider going out with you, or get one of your friends to. But, my advice would be to stay very good friends with him right now, and if he doesn't see how amazing you are (which I'm sure you are!) right now, he's sure to see it further down the road. Ok? If anything happens, update me! thanks! *hugs* Good luck! Luv, D.
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