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Introduction to Community

Feb. 23, 2003

Dave Johnston

 

 

1.  When did God begin to connect with you?1

 

Acts 7.54-8.3:  When they heard these things, they became enraged and ground their teeth at Stephen. 55 But filled with the Holy Spirit, he gazed into heaven and saw the glory of God and Jesus standing at the right hand of God. 56 "Look," he said, "I see the heavens opened and the Son of Man standing at the right hand of God!" 57 But they covered their ears, and with a loud shout all rushed together against him. 58 Then they dragged him out of the city and began to stone him; and the witnesses laid their coats at the feet of a young man named Saul. 59 While they were stoning Stephen, he prayed, "Lord Jesus, receive my spirit." 60 Then he knelt down and cried out in a loud voice, "Lord, do not hold this sin against them." When he had said this, he died. 1 And Saul approved of their killing him. 

   That day a severe persecution began against the church in Jerusalem, and all except the apostles were scattered throughout the countryside of Judea and Samaria. 2 Devout men buried Stephen and made loud lamentation over him. 3 But Saul was ravaging the church by entering house after house; dragging off both men and women, he committed them to prison.2

 

2.  What was Saul’s attitude about the death of Stephen?

 

3.  What else did Saul do against Christians?

 

4.  Do you know of any passages where Paul describes his

pre-conversion condition?

 

Phil 3.4-6;  even though I, too, have reason for confidence in the flesh.  If anyone else has reason to be confident in the flesh, I have more: 5 circumcised on the eighth day, a member of the people of Israel, of the tribe of Benjamin, a Hebrew born of Hebrews; as to the law, a Pharisee; 6 as to zeal, a persecutor of the church; as to righteousness under the law, blameless.

Gal 1.13-14;  You have heard, no doubt, of my earlier life in Judaism. I was violently persecuting the church of God and was trying to destroy it. 14 I advanced in Judaism beyond many among my people of the same age, for I was far more zealous for the traditions of my ancestors

Acts 22.1-5:  Brothers and fathers, listen to the defense that I now make before you." 

2 When they heard him addressing them in Hebrew, they became even quieter. Then he said:  3 "I am a Jew, born in Tarsus in Cilicia, but brought up in this city at the feet of Gamaliel, educated strictly according to our ancestral law, being zealous for God, just as all of you are today. 4 I persecuted this Way up to the point of death by binding both men and women and putting them in prison, 5 as the high priest and the whole council of elders can testify about me. From them I also received letters to the brothers in Damascus, and I went there in order to bind those who were there and to bring them back to Jerusalem for punishment.

 

 

5.  How did Paul’s conversion experience affect his view of

relationships & community?

 

Phil 4.1:  Therefore, my brothers and sisters, whom I love and long for, my joy and crown, stand firm in the Lord in this way, my beloved.

Col 2.1-5:  For I want you to know how much I am struggling for you, and for those in Laodicea, and for all who have not seen me face to face. 2 I want their hearts to be encouraged and united in love, so that they may have all the riches of assured understanding and have the knowledge of God's mystery, that is, Christ himself, 3 in whom are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge. 4 I am saying this so that no one may deceive you with plausible arguments. 5 For though I am absent in body, yet I am with you in spirit, and I rejoice to see your morale and the firmness of your faith in Christ.

1 Thess 2.7-8, 11-12, 17-20:  though we might have made demands as apostles of Christ. But we were gentle among you, like a nurse tenderly caring for her own children. 8 So deeply do we care for you that we are determined to share with you not only the gospel of God but also our own selves, because you have become very dear to us… As you know, we dealt with each one of you like a father with his children, 12 urging and encouraging you and pleading that you lead a life worthy of God, who calls you into his own kingdom and glory… As for us, brothers and sisters, when, for a short time, we were made orphans by being separated from you--in person, not in heart--we longed with great eagerness to see you face to face. 18 For we wanted to come to you--certainly I, Paul, wanted to again and again--but Satan blocked our way. 19 For what is our hope or joy or crown of boasting before our Lord Jesus at his coming? Is it not you? 20 Yes, you are our glory and joy!

Acts 20.36-38:  When he had finished speaking, he knelt down with them all and prayed. 37 There was much weeping among them all; they embraced Paul and kissed him, 38 grieving especially because of what he had said, that they would not see him again. Then they brought him to the ship.

 

 

 6.  How did Paul demonstrate that he possessed the grace to

give as well as the grace to receive in relationships?

 

Romans 1.11-12:  For I am longing to see you so that I may share with you some spiritual gift to strengthen you-- 12 or rather so that we may be mutually encouraged by each other's faith, both yours and mine.

Romans 15.24, 30-32:  when I go to Spain. For I do hope to see you on my journey and to be sent on by you, once I have enjoyed your company for a little while… I appeal to you, brothers and sisters, by our Lord Jesus Christ and by the love of the Spirit, to join me in earnest prayer to God on my behalf, 31 that I may be rescued from the unbelievers in Judea, and that my ministry to Jerusalem may be acceptable to the saints, 32 so that by God's will I may come to you with joy and be refreshed in your company.

Phil. 1.3-11:  I thank my God every time I remember you, 4 constantly praying with joy in every one of my prayers for all of you, 5 because of your sharing in the gospel from the first day until now. 6 I am confident of this, that the one who began a good work among you will bring it to completion by the day of Jesus Christ. 7 It is right for me to think this way about all of you, because you hold me in your heart, for all of you share in God's grace with me, both in my imprisonment and in the defense and confirmation of the gospel. 8 For God is my witness, how I long for all of you with the compassion of Christ Jesus. 9 And this is my prayer, that your love may overflow more and more with knowledge and full insight 10 to help you to determine what is best, so that in the day of Christ you may be pure and blameless, 11 having produced the harvest of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ for the glory and praise of God.

 

 

 7.  What kept Paul’s “want to” factor high even in the face of

disappointments?

 

2 Tim 4.9-16:  Do your best to come to me soon, for Demas, in love with this present world, has deserted me and gone to Thessalonica; Crescens has gone to Galatia, Titus to Dalmatia.  Only Luke is with me. Get Mark and bring him with you, for he is useful in my ministry.   I have sent Tychicus to Ephesus.  When you come, bring the cloak that I left with Carpus at Troas, also the books, and above all the parchments.   Alexander the coppersmith did me great harm; the Lord will pay him back for his deeds.  You also must beware of him, for he strongly opposed our message.  At my first defense no one came to my support, but all deserted me. May it not be counted against them!

 

  

8.  Paul also built relationships by pressing on and revealing his

heart and emotions—not just superficially.  How does he show his

openness and vulnerability? 

 

Romans 7.14-25:  For we know that the law is spiritual; but I am of the flesh, sold into slavery under sin.  I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate.  Now if I do what I do not want, I agree that the law is good. 17 But in fact it is no longer I that do it, but sin that dwells within me.  For I know that nothing good dwells within me, that is, in my flesh. I can will what is right, but I cannot do it.  For I do not do the good I want, but the evil I do not want is what I do.   Now if I do what I do not want, it is no longer I that do it, but sin that dwells within me.

21 So I find it to be a law that when I want to do what is good, evil lies close at hand.  For I delight in the law of God in my inmost self,  but I see in my members another law at war with the law of my mind, making me captive to the law of sin that dwells in my members.  Wretched man that I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death?   Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord! 

2 Cor 6.11-13:  We have spoken frankly to you Corinthians; our heart is wide open to you.  There is no restriction in our affections, but only in yours.  In return--I speak as to children--open wide your hearts also.

1 Tim 1.12-17:  I am grateful to Christ Jesus our Lord, who has strengthened me, because he judged me faithful and appointed me to his service,  even though I was formerly a blasphemer, a persecutor, and a man of violence. But I received mercy because I had acted ignorantly in unbelief, and the grace of our Lord overflowed for me with the faith and love that are in Christ Jesus. 15 The saying is sure and worthy of full acceptance, that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners--of whom I am the foremost.  But for that very reason I received mercy, so that in me, as the foremost, Jesus Christ might display the utmost patience, making me an example to those who would come to believe in him for eternal life.  To the King of the ages, immortal, invisible, the only God, be honor and glory forever and ever. Amen. 

 

 

9.  Have there been any defining moments when you changed from

zealously pursing your own private agenda to zealously pursuing

relationships and Christian community?

 

 

 

 NOTE: A small group is a wonderful place for life-change and, outside of a family, perhaps the most optimal setting for per­sonal transformation. But groups are imperfect, as are the people in them. This reality, if not recognized, can set a person up for deep disappointment because we often hope our small group will be the place where we finally find this wonderful thing called community, yet our experience can fall short. It is important not to put too much pressure on any one group­--or on the members of your group (including the leader)-to meet every need relationally or spiritually.

Each group you are a part of will contribute to your growth. Over the years, you'll build many good memories. But every person in your group is not going to become a friend for life. That doesn't mean you can't love each other and meaning­fully contribute to each other while you are together, but it does mean it's important to accept the limitations' of each group, and recognize there is an ebb and flow to relationships.

Also, we each bring our own "baggage" to the group. Part of why God wants us in groups is so that we can deal with these problems. Of course, no group is going to solve everything for us. Similarly, a 'small group can be the place where you move toward a person with whom you wouldn't normally associ­ate- someone different than you, or who has different interests, and with whom you have to work to make the group go. A challenging relationship can be as powerfully transforming as a relationship that happens almost without effort-maybe more so.

As you look to your expectations for this group, go ahead and plan for great things, but realize that it's community over a lifetime that helps make us like Jesus. Be ready at times give more than you receive. And don't place on any one per­son or group the expectation for community that is possible only from years of group life.

 

1  All questions were adapted from Doing Life Together: Fellowship by Saddleback Resources

2  All Scripture References taken from the New Revised Standard Version.