It should be emphasized that no two people with fibromyalgia will experience the same symptoms to exactly the same degree. Symptoms include:
18 tender points which are painful when pressed
Pain will be found in 11 of 18 specified tender points
When we are in pain, our muscles tighten up, causing muscle tensions. This can be caused by job or family stress. Stress can lead to fatigue which can lead to limited activities, whether work, hobbies, social, or family. This leads to depression and more muscle stiffness and pain... and the cycle continues.
It is necessary to break this cycle sometime in your life. Make an inventory of your life and find ways to minimize your routines. Figure out What has to be done such as paying bills and Dr. appointments; What should be done like vacuuming and washing windows; What can wait such as dusting, cleaning closets and cupboards. Enlist the help of family members or hire someone to help with the laundry, cleaning, grocery shopping, and the like, until you feel up to it again.
You must learn to handle your stress better. If family dinners are too stressful, don't do them. For holidays, I have everyone bring a dish and then I fix the meat. It helps and I still have the family gatherings with much less stress.
I have explained this condition to them and they are very understanding.
DO NOT ISOLATE YOURSELF. If you find yourself down in the dumps for an extended period of time, seek professional help. Keep in contact with someone by phone or visit. We do a better job of recovering when we reach out to others through support groups and other social activities.