A short letter to
someone having trouble forgiving his girlfriend who confessed a grave sin in
her past…
Ultimately, the solution, I think, would come primarily from prayer and from the general process of trying to get what you KNOW into what you FEEL... sorta like believing that, in spite of your worst sins, God HAS forgiven you...(it's really quite the same thing, except now you have to 'apply' it to some one else...)
Practically, you could try taking ACTIVE STEPS to love your girlfriend...it's the good 'ol "If you don't FEEL in love, ALL the more you better act AS IF you are!" thinggy...the best way to fight back the brooding and melancholy is to counter-ACT against them by, e.g. taking her for a nice romantic holiday, nice dinner place, more regular outings as sweet hang-outs, etc. Ask yourself what you’d do ASSUMING you were just madly in love with her (minus the complications), and do it.
Rationally, it may help if you would recognise
the situation as a challenge to RECIPROCATE (and thus STRENGTHEN) the daring
love shown by your girlfriend, in spite of BOTH your and
her weaknesses. Also, do take pride
in the fact that your girlfriend was strong/bold/loving enough to confess it to
you...it takes a
Hope this helps...if it's ok, do let me know how you (both) are doing from time to time...;>)
Al