And after you suffer for a short time, Angel Melissa's Story - lived July 23, 1981 - Jan. 4, 1997. Melissa came to our home in 1981. Let me tell you about Melissa! In January 1981 a friend told me of a young woman who was pregnant and unwed. She asked me to join her in praying for her situation in the coming months. The woman was a very capable person but was not ready for a child. As the months went by I was kept informed of the latest happenings. Denial seemed to hinder her from making plans for herself and her baby. We were becoming more and more concerned. As the time drew near for delivery plans were made to place the baby for adoption. We were thankful for the decision that was made.
When she was 15 months old we petitioned the court to adopt her.
By the time she was two years old she began to have favorite WE HAVE A MIRACLE! Melissa is 13 years old. She is still like a 3-6 month old baby in her development but she is a social, beautiful, and sensitive little girl. There are some very hard days. She has grown to a near normal size (the doctors say that is impossible). She is a delightful baby. She rarely cries and nearly always has a smile. She delights in piano, flute, Christian and classical music. Many hours are spent listening to music. Even at night when she would rather play than sleep. She continues to be the joy of our family and anyone who knows her. She loves people but 'checks out new voices'. Many people have been touched by her life. We have had several unwed young ladies that are pregnant live with us. They tell me about re-evaluating what is really important in their lives. Are drugs and drinking worth it? Melissa can give insight to anyone willing to learn. Loving her is such a privilege. We cannot expect anything in return. Our love must be unconditional, but she freely smiles and coos to express herself. I remember one young mother that had placed her baby for adoption that told me she was so glad that her baby was a boy because if it had been a girl she might not have been able to place her baby as she wanted to have a mother/daughter relationship like Melissa and I had. Does that mean that Melissa was responding to me. We feel we have been right in the middle of a miracle that started three years before her birth. Our family learned when we lost Michael that we could survive with God's help. We are totally dependent on Him for our very existence. The lessons learned with our experiences with Michael prepared us for the opportunity of caring for Melissa. We might not have been as willing to open ourselves up in such a seemingly hopeless situation if we had not learned our lessons well. You are blessed when you focus on others and lift them up in prayer. Melissa became our baby with that initial decision to become involved. God knew all along what was to happen. I was being prepared to receive a very special gift. Melissa has served a very real purpose in our lives. Our family has learned so much about the worth of every living soul....not every living genius,....every living soul! We have been able to care for numerous babies that were severely disabled or dying. January 1997, Ron and I are living with mixed emotions at this time. Our precious Melissa died suddenly January 4th at 10 pm. She was quiet, happy and doing well. Even smiling at her very last breath. It seems her heart gave out. It could have been stressed from the obstructive breathing she had expe and the struggle of trying to breathe without a vent. As for me, I can not imagine a day without her, so much time and energy was given to her. But then that’s what it is all about isn't it. I cannot explain the peace I feel about her. We had her for 15 1/2 years more than medically possible and they were good years. Ron says that he would do it again in a moment. Neither of us have any regrets. We lost a beautiful, loving, fun little girl that now has a perfect body in Heaven. We were both there when she died. She was not suffering. God took care of us again! Terry Bernard from North Anderson Church of God had the memorial service and it seemed like, as Ron put it, that Melissa had been promoted. The service was beautiful with lots of music and Terry reminded us all about the value of every life. Melissa had touched many lives. He said that planning her service had made such an impact on him that he would never be the same. God continued to use Melissa even in her death. We have no cause for sadness. We mourn and there's an emptiness in our home 'her absence is everywhere' but God has promised that for the Christian all things work together for good, and as I look back over the last almost 16 years it is very clear that God had a plan from the day Melissa was conceived and He continues to be in control. Melissa's life will always be an influence in our lives. Nothing will ever be the same. Forgive me for going on so, but we wanted to share some of our feelings with you at this time of great loss. Melissa is now with Jesus Himself in her perfected body. We have a miracle! Melissa has a complete healing! Hydranencephaly National Institute of Neurological Disorders: What is Hydranencephaly Suport Group for Patients with Hydranencephaly
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