How great is Your goodness
that You have stored up for those who fear you,
that you have given to those who trust you.
You do this for all to see.
You protect them by your presence
from what people plan against them.
You shelter them from evil words.
Psalm 31:19-20
Patricia Jeanne Ginder was born April 22,1986 and was adopted. Tricia came to live with us in 1997 and her placement was very timely. We had pursued her adoption so that there would be someone else to holler and laugh with Melissa. They would be good company for one another. As it happened Melissa died in January and Tricia came in April. Think about it. Right when we needed someone to invest our time and love in, as we had done for many years with Melissa.
Tricia was a joy and a comfort to us. She continues to be a joy and sometimes I think she may understand more than she can express. She was a 'shaken baby' when she was 3 weeks old. She was placed in an institutional setting when she was still an infant and continued in that type placement until she was 9.5 years old when she was placed in a foster home. She was in 2 different homes before we brought her home in an adoptive placement right after her 11th birthday.
Tricia loves music, especially guitar and Christian. Tricia is fed through a G-button and is blind and infant-like in developement. She is a beautiful girl with THICK curly auburn hair. When we pull her hair to the sides she looks just like Dorothy of Oz. ("Where's TOTO?")
Tricia went to public school special education classes for the 1998 spring term but found it to be too much for her to tolerate although she enjoyed the socialization. Patricia has a royal blue wheel chair. She continues to need total care 24 hour a day. As of this 2000-2001 school year she is attending 2 days a week in an 8th grade special class.
July 2001, we are planning toward the fall as to when and if Tricia will attend school away from home. She was 'promoted' to 9th grade in high school and it will be all the way across town. She continues to do well.
June 2002, Patricia is such a young lady. We have cut her beautiful long hair as it was getting so hard to keep clean and nice. She has a 'shag' cut and it is short and curly on the top. She loves to get pretty clothes on even though she doesn't 'see' them. I know she feels our excitment and loves it.
March 2001,
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On May 28, 2003
Tricia woke up looking very pale and not her happy self. I took one look and knew there was something very wrong. She was starting to breathe heavily so we called 911. Upon getting to the ER her blood pressure was dropping and she was anxious. She looked at me and seemed to listened when I talked to her. She had blood work, x rays, and was given Roceflin and another antibiotic through IV's as her lab work showed infection.
Tricia took part of my heart with her. There is a gentle spirit missing in our home.
After 2 hours it was decided to send her to the children's hospital 45 minutes away. By the time the ambulance got her there she needed incubated and was no longer recognizing her dad and I. After only 13 hours after her waking up that morning she took her last breath. She was bleeding in her abdomen, but was not stable enough for surgery.
The scripture for Tricia's service was taken from Genesis 50....It tells the story of Jacob's death and about his son's. Joseph was one of his many sons and if you recall Joseph was sold into slavery by his brothers and as his story continues, Joseph forgives his brothers. What they meant for evil God turned into good...Joseph was able to send his family food and necessary things because of the position he held.
Jim Lyon, our pastor compared this to Patricia as she was a shaken baby at the age of 3 weeks....What she was robbed of was terrible and unnecessary but it did not take her spirit from her. She was a joy and made a difference in many lives. Thank God she did not suffer after the initial violence at 3 weeks of age healed as best it could. She was always smiling and unassuming. She loved to be talked to ...loved music...we only saw her cry 3 times...yes only 3 times did we see a tear come from her eyes. Of course we could hardly stand that ...it broke our hearts for it was so pathetic. She was a victim and yet she had joy and shared it freely. Something like the Joseph of the Bible story. He was a victim but continued to display the love of God. He became a ruler and served his country..including his brothers that sold him....and even decided to remain anonymous to them until the very end. I hope this is as clear to you as it was to me in the comparison of Joseph and Tricia. We...well I, must forgive the perpetrator of the terrible crime that was committed against Tricia, as hard as this is to do, as God is the judge and will have the final word. Thank God we know Him and how much he loves our children....Besides the fact that she is most likely running and playing now she is probably getting held and cuddled by Jesus Himself. That is better than anything we could do for her could do here. Thanks again for your expressions of love and remember all the joy Tricia brought to those around her. God is in control and He will deal with each one of us according to our acceptance or rejection of Him. God bless. Rachael
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