June 30, 1997: Forgive your enemies, but never forget their names.
Attributed to John F. Kennedy.
June 29, 1997: Error of opinion may be tolerated where reason is left free to combat it.
Thomas Jefferson
First Inaugural Address
1801
June 28, 1997: I have learned in the great University of Hard Knocks a philosophy that no woman who has had an easy life ever acquires.
I have learned to live each day as it comes, and not to borrow trouble by dreading tomaorrow. It is the dark menace of the future that makes cowards of us.
Dorothy Dix, Her Book, 1926.
June 27, 1997: Sanity is a madness put to good use.
George Santayana, Little Essays, 1920.
June 26, 1997: I have come to feel that the only learning which significantly influences behavior is self-discovered, self-appropriated learning.
Carl R. Rogers, On Becoming a Person, 1961.
June 25, 1997: Listen to the sound of your soul.
June 24, 1997: Married. It was like a dream come true for Donna. Just think, soon her little girl would have unpaid bills, unplanned babies, calls from the bank and sub-standard housing. All the things a mother dreams of for her child.
Erma Bombeck, Motherhood: The Second Oldest Profession, 1983.
June 23, 1997: Marriage always demands the greatest understanding of the art of insincerity possible between two human beings.
Vicki Baum, And Life Goes On, 1932.
June 22, 1997: Concern should drive us into action and not into a depression.
Karen Horney, Self-Analysis, 1942.
June 21, 1997: Fortunately psychoanalysis is not the only way to resolve our inner conflicts. Life itself will still remain a very effective therapist.
Karen Horney, Our Inner Conflicts, 1945.
June 20, 1997: Love can be it's own reward.
Arnold Lobel
June 19, 1997: The body is the soul's house. Shouldn't we therefore take care of our house so that it doesn't fall into ruin?
Philo Judaeus
June 18, 1997: A richer more fulfilling, and more peaceful masculine spirituality will depend in no small measure upon new ways of learning to be sexual.
James B. Nelson
June 17, 1997: Listen to your heart.
June 16, 1997: Self-realization is not a matter of withdrawal from a corrupt world or narcissistic comtemplation of oneself.
An individual becomes a person by enjoying the world and contributing to it.
Francine Klagsbrun
June 15, 1997: Communication leads to community - that is, to understanding, intimacy, and mutual valuing.
Rollo May
June 14, 1997: All truth is an achievement. If you would have truth at its full value, go win it.
Munger
June 13, 1997: True Love Heals.
June 12, 1997: Wherever I found the living, there I found the will to power.
Friedrich Nietzsche
June 11, 1997: In Wildness is the preservation of the world.
Henry David Thoreau
June 10, 1997: To be happy one must risk unhappiness; to live fully one must risk death and accept its ultimate decision.
Judd Marmor
June 9, 1997: When you can't stand criticism, you learn to be a perfectionist.
June 8, 1997: Hatred is never anything but fear - if you feared no one, you would hate no one.
Hugh Downs
June 7, 1997: Victory is won not in miles but in inches.
Win a little now, hold your ground, and later win a little more.
Louis L'Amour
June 6, 1997: D-Day. The First Duty is to Remember. . .
June 5, 1997: A person who is looking for something doesn't travel very fast.
June 4, 1997: He who runs the fastest, walks alone.
June 3, 1997: Confront Indecision. It's just NOW, the Present. They aren't going to criticize you anymore. So be Decisive even if it means you'll sometimes be wrong.
June 2, 1997: Be bold and couragious. When you look back on your life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the ones you did.
June 1, 1997: Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life.
May 31, 1997: The only intrinsic evil is lack of love.
John Robinson
May 30, 1997: Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart - And try to love the questions themselves.
Rainer Maria Rilke
May 29, 1997: I like a man with faults, especially when he knows it. To err is human - I'm uncomfortable around gods.
Hugh Prather
May 28, 1997: True Love doesn't hurt.
May 27, 1997: Women make a mistake when they don't use their femininity, their sexuality when they relate to men in the workplace. Gals, don't discount what you have, be proud of yourself, present yourself proudly and if ya got it, flaunt it + get as much education as you can to advance yourself. Men are men, women are women. I'm not talking about sleeping with the boss, I'm talking about using what you have to get what you want.
May 26, 1997: The first Duty is to Remember.
May 25, 1997: Thirst for Knowledge, Hunger for Skills.
May 24, 1997: The scars left from the child's defeat in the fight against irrational authority are to be found at the bottom of every neurosis.
Erich Fromm, Man for Himself, 1947.
May 23, 1997:
Be glad of life because
It gives you the chance
To love and to
work and
To play and to look up
at the stars.
Henry Van Dyke
May 22, 1997: Resolve to make more mistakes, then forgive yourself.
May 21, 1997: The Hiku: Now that my house has burned down, I have a much better view of the moon.
Talk about the power of positive thinking!
May 20, 1997: A woman should be able to be both independent and dependent, active and passive, relaxed and serious, practical and romantic, tender and tough minded, thinking and feeling, dominant and submissive. So, obviously, should a man!
Pierre Mornell
May 19, 1997: Self-knowledge and self-improvement are very difficult for most people. It usually needs great courage and long struggle.
Abraham Maslow
May 18, 1997: Sometimes it's easier to learn about gratitude outside under the stars.
May 17, 1997: This above all: to thine Own Self be True,
And it must follow, as night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.
William Shakespeare
May 16, 1997: One of the highest forms of healthy self-love is demonstrated in our self-disciplined commitment to balance.
May 15, 1997: Fine friendship requires duration rather than fitful intensity. Aristotle
May 14, 1997: In my friend, I find a second self. Isabel Norton
May 13, 1997: Control is a Bigge and it's not all that's it's cracked up to be: "As long as you keep a person down, some part of you has to be down there to hold him down, so it means you cannot soar as you otherwise might." Marion Anderson
May 12, 1997: If you can't fight em' and you can't flee, go with the flow - for now - then regroup and do a new selfsitrep.
May 11, 1997: Set aside your fears and experience the pleasure of intimacy.
May 10, 1997: Imagine
May 9, 1997: Originality is unexplored territory. You get there by carrying a conoe - you can't take a taxi. - Alan Alda
May 8, 1997: You are unique, and you have a unique contribution to make to this world.
May 7, 1997: No one is more important than you are, and no one is less important.
May 6, 1997: Attempt to live in peace with the things you cannot change, have the courage to change the things you can change, and have the wisdom to know the difference.
May 5, 1997: More perls on Stress Mangement: Learn from the past, plan for the future, and live in the present. The moment you feel physical or mental distress, take action to relieve it, so that the small stresses - molehills - don't become mountains. Try and see finish lines, rather than deadlines. As I continue to practice psychiatry, I am more convinced that Life is 10% what happens to us, and 90% how we react to it.
May 4, 1997: Some perls on Stress Management: Pace Yo' Self - by the hour, by the month, by the year. Look for ways to remove the unnecessary stressors in your life - at work, at home. Use your head instead of your back - think things through and plan ahead in order to conserve your physical energy. Look at a stack of work and tackle one thing at a time calmly.
May 3, 1997: Create a "Dreams List." Stuff you've always kinda wanted to do, see, explore, fun stuff, serious stuff. You'll be surprised what you come up with!
May 2, 1997: Think beyond your first thought, especially if you're prone to react to your first thought, your first impression.
May 1, 1997: Happy May Day. Respect Freedom.
April 30, 1997: Respect your clock but never worship it.
April 29, 1997: Meditation is the art of looking within - and finding peace.
April 28, 1997: "He that can take rest is greater than he that can take cities." Benjamin Franklin
April 27, 1997: Obey your bodies signals, confront denial, and focus on Prevention. Early denial confrontation, early detection and treatment are the keys to Health + Ongoing Preventive Medicine. Our body is a wonderful physical plant through which we experience life - take care of it - learn about basic preventive medicine, nutrition, exercise and take care a yo' bod, and remember, yo' mind [ brain] is part of yo' bod.
April 26, 1997: "Better bend than break." Scottish Proverb
April 25, 1997: "The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes." Marcel Proust
April 24, 1997: He who waltzes with herd dances with fools.
April 23, 1997: The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.
April 22, 1997: We haven't inherited the Earth from our parents, we've borrowed it from our children.
April 21, 1997: You can always give Kindness, treasure it, know it.
April 20, 1997: What you don't see with your eyes, don't invent with your mouth.
April 19, 1997: If we don't Remember, We're Doomed to Forget.
April 18, 1997: As You Think, So You Become.
April 17, 1997: Insist on yourself and creativity will come. Imitation takes away from your creative juices.
April 16, 1997: When the going gets hotter, don't us "power statements" such as "Get Out", "I quit", "Sleep on the Couch", or "You're killing me."
April 15, 1997: When the going gets hot, don't start name calling or losing your temper. Take 5 and start over.
April 14, 1997: Smile and speak to people. There is nothing so nice as a cheerful word of greeting. Remember, it takes 72 muscles to frown, and only 14 to Smile! So smiling is like laughter, the best medicine.
April 13, 1997: Be generous with praise, cautious with criticism.
April 12, 1997: If you have a conflict with someone, strive to Resolve the conflict then and there. You want to Both feel good about the solution or outcome of the conflict/argument.
April 11, 1997: When you're having a Conflict with someone, clarify what the actual conflict is, then stick to the issue at hand. Don't bring up past garbage.
April 10, 1997: Be gentle in all that you do. This elicits Calm in yourself and others.
April 9, 1997: Open yourself to Love, and you will soon find yourself experiencing a Joy, Fullness and Power heretofore unknown.
April 8, 1997: People who lie about the small things Will lie about the big things.
April 7, 1997: Think beyond the first thought, the first obvious choice - pause, and Question - and Think some more.
April 6, 1997: Clean your mind and speech of the fourletterwords - remember, What we think affects how we feel.
April 5, 1997: Only You are Responsible for your Choices-Behavior. Period.
April 4, 1997: Medical Sidebar: PMS is helped with Vitamin B6, 50mg b.i.d. p.c.[twice a day after meals][take B6 1 week before and during period], Vitamin E, 400 I.U.[International Units] daily - all the time, Multivitamin With Minerals, like Theragram M, Optilets M[or storebrand MultiviteM] - make sure it's the M - ya want the minerals - especially Magnesium as Magnesium helps PMS. Take the Multivit M daily + one b.i.d.p.c. one week before and during the period. + keep intake of Sugar, Salt, red meat, caffeine and chocalate down before and during period. Yikes!
April 3, 1997: When in Doubt, say Nothing - - - and Think. . .
April 2, 1997: Listen when you listen.
April 1, 1997: To be Determined by Others is to be a Fool.
March 31, 1997: Identify ur Major Sources of Stress, en' Fix Em'!
March 30, 1997: Happy Easter!
March 29, 1997: What are my plans? To get things done, first, Identify Your Concerns! Sounds simple, but I mean to really identify my Specific Concerns. Then, set a Goal, Form a Plan, a Specific Plan, then ACT, just Do It. Iceing on the Cake is to do a "Followup" to evaluate how the process went.
March 28, 1997: Know that those you react to Strongly, whether you love them or hate them, are reflections of yourself. Use this Mirror of relationsip to guide your own spiritual evolution.
March 27, 1997: Shed the burden of judgment.
March 26, 1997: Don't be so hard on yourself.
March 25, 1997: Relinquish your need for approval. There is great freedom in that choice.
March 24, 1997: How we think, What we think Affects how we Feel, both physically and mentally. Every thought affects every Cell in our bodies, including our Brain cells. Interesting, huh? So start every day with, "I'm going to have a Fantastic Day", even if ur draggin'. Pessimism begets inertia. You get the drift.
March 23, 1997: Replace fear-motivated behavior with Love-motivated behavior.
March 22, 1997: Take time to be silent, to "quieten" ur internal dialogue, so you can feel your Intuition.
March 21, 1997: Don't contaminate ur mind en' body with Poisons, either through food, drink, toxic emotions or toxic people.
March 20, 1997: Beware of people who exhibit No Conscience.
March 19, 1997: Always have Hope. It's a Positive Force and affects our brain chemistry in Healthy Ways.
March 18, 1997: Truth always wins when talking with your Significant Other.
March 16, 1997: Dreams are lotsa things. A few perls are: Wish Fulfillment and I might be Any of the people in the dream.
March 15, 1997: Taking care of yourself is okay, huh? Therefore, Selfishness is a Virtue. Look it up. When you're selfish, you're Not hurting anyone. Self - ish. Selfish has a bad rap cuz how we learned it.
March 14, 1997: Look at Old Tapes from childhood and adolescense - Learned stuff from parents, school, church, society - Various "shoulds", rules, and sources of guilt. Anything learned, introjected, incorporated, indentified with that produces any Automatic Response - Hey, You're an adult now, so take a look at 'em and Don't be Tyranized by Shoulds or other old tapes. I'm not saying rebel and do the opposite, I'm saying Think - and make the healthy choice for Yourself NOW!
March 13, 1997: We're Thinking and Feeling all of the time.
March 12, 1997: Feelings are not like a faucet you can turn off and on. . .
March 11, 1997: Tis True: 60% of what we Hear when a significant other is talking to me is Voice Tone, Posture, Inflection and Facial Expression. Yup, only The Words get 40%. SO, given this 60% thing + what I just said below, Work On Em' and start Really Connecting!!
March 10,1997: Avoid the "Why" and the "You" and "?" when trying to have a serious conversation with someone, especially Significant Someones. Avoid "Why Didn't chu do that like I told ya?", "Why do you treat me like that?". All this is kind of like asking George Washington, "Why did you chop the Cherry Tree down?" When we heard that when We we're kids we feel what? "I'm in Trouble! I did something wrong!" When we're adults and we here it, we feel Accused of Something + I'm in trouble, so we respond with both barrels - One for the current significant other and One for the Significant Other from the past that we didn't talk back to. SO, use "I Statements" when you want to get some real communicatin done + other add ons: "I need to clarify something with you[ plus helps you calm down], "When you said, I felt . . .", So, "I" + "the stuff I'm gonna say", and "." period! No questions [we all get defensive when we hear That Tone + the question, don't We?].
March 9, 1997: The Ten Commandments are Not Multiple Choice!
March 8, 1997: All Behavior is Communicative!
March 7, 1997: Is it Worth It? and/or What are the consequences? All Behavior has Consequences.
March 6, 1997: When in Doubt say Nothing. [Think about this one.]
March 4th, 1997: "I'm in trouble. What'ded she Mean by that?". Thus begins Guessing, Mind Reading, Assumption, Imagining the Worst Case Scenario. Perl: STOP and Don't Guess, Don't Imagine the Worst, Don't Extrapolate a scenario regarding her motives, i.e. "What she REALLY Means IS . . .! Take 5, 5 Seconds that is, and Clarify - Don't interupt - Ya'll Wait Now, Ya Hear? - and Clarify! "When you said . . . I heard. . . Please clarify for me". Or, "It seem Like you're saying . . . please clarify". Otherwise, if I respond to MindReadGuessedMess, No Wonder she says, "Now Just What do you mean by That!" or "You're didn't hear a word I said", or "You're not Listening to Me!" or the "Why Don't You. . . Listen. . . Love Me. . . Care. . . Understand". The List goes on and they're off to the races. It's BigFightCity with each response based on more Assumptions, Mind Reading, Guessing. So CLARIFY, CLARIFY, and CLARIFY Somemore. Hands up, Use the Ole' Jock Time Out sign and Say "Time Out - Clarify - Clarification - When you Said. . . I heard. . ." Another Perl, CLARIFY EARLY. As you can see, the Chances of a ClusterMiscommunication Increase Exponentially as the NonClarified Discussion Continues. Is this Math, or What? Don't gimme that, You get the Drift. SO, Clarify you Buns off, You'll save a lot of Fighting, and Maybe a relationship or two. . .
March 5th, 1997: What do ya look for in a marriage partner? A Companion! Someone yer comfortable with, wanna be with, look forward to seeing, someone you Trust! Someone you can talk to. The rest kinda falls into place.
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