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June 28, 2006
For Brides Whose
Grooms Don't Help
by Abra Whidden
You've got the ring, you've set the
date, and now the two of you are headed towards happily wedded bliss.
Everything's perfect, right? Not always. While there certainly are
exceptions, some brides find that their grooms aren't interested in
planning the wedding itself. As I've heard one groom say, "I don’t
want a wedding. I just want to be married!" If your groom isn't
helping like you feel he should, these are some tips for dealing with his
lack of interest.
Dealing
with Your Emotions
Our wedding day is the most important day of our new life together, but
he doesn't care! Does this mean he doesn't love me?
Not at all! It's natural for you to wonder if your fiancé's lack of
interest in the wedding means he doesn't care about the marriage, but
there are many reasons why he may not be interested in the planning.
In our current society, men are not encouraged to help with the planning.
Wedding magazines are focused on the brides, with only the occasional
short article on how the groom can help. Weddings may seem like a private
girls' club for brides, their mothers, and their bridesmaids. It may be
hard for your fiancé to get past this stereotype and become involved.
He may also be afraid of ruining the wedding day by making a mistake in
the planning. If he thinks that it's important to you to have a perfect
fairy-tale wedding, he may assume that you can make the better decisions.
As my husband said, "most guys don't think about their weddings as
children . . . and come in with a feeling of guilt/alienation and would
rather let the bride do it her way and stay out of the way."
Changing the Girls' Club into the Couple's Club
I can't do all the work on my own. How can I get him to help me, even a
little bit?
If you would like your future husband to be more involved in the wedding
planning, there are some approaches you can take. The most effective way
to get him involved is to talk to him. Find out his reasons for not
wanting to participate, and see if you can come up with your own strategy
for planning the wedding together. These are some ideas to start that
process:
- Get him to help with the things that interest him. Find out which
aspects of the wedding intrigue and interest your fiancé. If he's not
interested in an activity like choosing the bridesmaid dresses, he may be
interested in something else like researching DJs, writing the vows, or
choosing the ceremony readings.
- Try to make the tasks less intimidating for your fiancé by narrowing
down the options. For example, go to several stores looking at all the
invitations, and decide on three or four that you really like. Then, bring
him in to help with the final decision. Once you get him in the store, he
may surprise you and want another option entirely, but the main thing is
that you have made the planning process less overwhelming.
- Once the
two of you have decided how he's going to be involved in the planning
process, make a physical list of things your fiancé is responsible for
doing. On this list, include which tasks should be priorities, and when
certain things need to be done. For example, indicate that he needs to get
his friends' addresses for the invitations by May 1, while he can wait
until June to buy the groomsmen's gifts. This list will remove the
pressure of remembering details, and you can always turn to it in the case
of a dispute.
- Above all, show your fiancé that his opinions matter. You may need to
compromise on your own vision of the day, but weddings celebrate couples,
not just brides. If his sole opinion is that he doesn't want to help with
the planning, you may need to accept this. Just remember that there isn't
one specific way to plan a wedding, so however you negotiate this issue
will be right for you.
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Recipe
courtesy Paula Deen
Ingredients
2 dozen Krispy Kreme donuts
1 (14-ounce) can sweetened condensed milk (not evaporated)
2 (4.5-ounce) cans fruit cocktail (undrained)
2 eggs, beaten
1 (9-ounce) box raisins
1 pinch salt
1 or 2 teaspoons ground cinnamon
Butter Rum Sauce, recipe follows
Instructions
Preheat oven to 350 degrees F.
Cube donuts into a large bowl. Pour other ingredients on top of donuts and
let soak for a few minutes. Mix all
ingredients together until donuts have soaked up the liquid as much as
possible.
Bake for about 1 hour until center has
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Butter Rum Sauce:
1 stick butter
1 pound box confectioners' sugar
Rum, to taste
Melt butter and slowly stir in confectioners' sugar. Add rum and heat
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And if you
don't feel guilty enough already . . .
Calories
in Krispy Kreme Donuts
Dancing with the donuts. How many
calories in Krispy Kreme Donuts? Find out by locating your favorite
Krispy Kreme Donut below.
TYPE OF DONUT
|
CALORIES
|
CARBS
|
FAT GRAMS
|
Calories in Krispy Kreme
original glazed donut
|
200
|
22
|
12
|
Calories in Krispy Kreme
chocolate iced glazed donut
|
250
|
33
|
12
|
Calories in Krispy Kreme
chocolate iced with sprinkles
|
260
|
38
|
12
|
Calories in Krispy Kreme
chocolate iced cream filled donut
|
350
|
38
|
20
|
Calories in Krispy Kreme
chocolate iced custard filled donut
|
300
|
35
|
17
|
Calories in Krispy Kreme key
lime pie donut
|
320
|
40
|
17
|
Calories in Krispy Kreme glazed
lemon filled donut
|
290
|
35
|
16
|
Calories in Krispy Kreme glazed
raspberry filled donut
|
300
|
39
|
16
|
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