God's Plan For Marriage
I think we need some refresher courses on
marriage, because more and more Christians are getting divorced - more than I
have seen in many years.
I have
tried to figure out what the problem could be, and I come up with so many
possibilities, that it is hard to zero in on any one thing. I think that the inability to be committed
is a very big problem; the inability to communicate is another big problem. So,
what happens is, there is a wall put up between partners who, during courtship,
showed everyone what a wonderful relationship they had, but now, married, the
honeymoon goes away, and soon it is repulsive to be near their spouse.
The examples set before us as we were
growing up, plays a part in a big way.
Men, especially, have quite a time with
this. They saw demanding fathers,
Never saw displays of affection, because,
after all, it isn't macho to show affection.
Other factors that have an effect on marriage is, No longer do people
want to spend time with each other. A
quiet dinner away from the kids, not remembering anniversary dates and
birthdays, not bringing home flowers or another special gift, because: "He/she has too much already. It is expected that they do what I
want," and it goes on from there.
When was the last time you looked at your spouse and said,
sincerely, "I love you." When
was the last time you made your spouse feel Needed and wanted? Like they were the most important person in
your life. Did you get married for all
the wrong reasons?
What was it about your spouse that made
you want more than anything in the world, to spend the rest of your life with
them? And what was it that caused the
fire to go out, so that now your marriage is more like a deep freeze, than a
sparkling fire.
Don't yell at each other. Don't decide, that you don't like to go home
anymore, and plan ways to stay away as long as you can.
Is your marriage in Panic Stage? Have you forgotten how to say I love you?
If I had the means to do so, I would love
to hold small group seminars on marriage I think it is beneficial. While we may know who we are, and what we
are about, many of our mates haven't a clue as to who we are, because we have
changed so.
Determine in 2008 that you are going to
have the best time of your lives, and instead of having a marriage last six
months to a year, join the group that can say… “We are proud to announce
that we have been happily married, Sixty years”.
God bless your marriage.
If you are contemplating a wedding this
year, communicate your feelings, and your goals, etc. so that you can both be
on the same plateau. Remember, God is
the author of love, and marriage. If He isn't the head of your home and your
life, you have wasted your time and
energy.
God Bless you.
I Love you all,
