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Dear Aly-
I have a hard time saying no to people. Everyone just thinks I really nice. I feel that if I tell someone no, I'm letting them down, and then I feel low too. How can I let someone else down without letting myself down too?-Blue in TX
Dear Blue-
Before you give anyone a definate answer, you have to know exactly how you feel on the subject. Basically, you're really dealing with your self-esteem, and learning to be honest with yourself and others (especially when you don't want to do something) is part of building up that great self-esteem. If you aren't sure whether or not you want to help that person, say to them "I need to think about that first" or something to that effect, and then think about it and get back to them! Start saying "NO" to people you feel most comfortable with, and then work your way up from there. -Aly
Dear Aly-
I just got a new job working at a little cafe in a large town. The problem is, that the job is very demanding and the tips are often very little. I have a 2 month old baby which I am raising on my own and I can't support my child with that kind of an income. What should I do? -In Need of $ in North Dakota
Dear in Need-
It sounds to me like you do indeed have a problem on your hands, but I think that you have quite a few options. You might want to consider looking for a job at possibly fancier restaurant where the tip is included in the bill. (Ex: The include 15% or 20% in the bill, this way you will not be cheated out of money you deserve for such hard work. Waitressing is a very demanding job as it is. Another option is that you, depending on how much schooling you've completed, might want to consider completing a resume and submitting it to different companies involved in a certain lineof work which interests you. Once you get out of waitressing and into a more office-like atmosphere, or whatever it is you want, you'll find, in most cases, that you'll have a steady income, and being payed as you should. -Aly
