Love Problems- Solved!
Dear Aly-
Ever since my
friend moved to another town, I’ve become close to her
boyfriend….too close. Now I’m totally in love
with him and I think he likes me too. My friend and him are
still technically together, and I want to tell them both.
What should I do?
-In Love in Illinois
Dear In Love-
Just because your
friend has moved to a different town, doesn’t mean that his
feelings for her have faded and now he likes you. You did
say that You THINK that he likes you, you don’t know that
for sure, right? If he hasn’t done anything to lead
you to believe that he wants more than just friends and you tell
your friend and him how you feel, you could lose both
friendships, and it sounds to me like that is what is the most
important. I would suggest you wait and see what happens
down the road.
-Aly
Dear Aly-
I've been dating a guy for about a month now, and it's been going great. Well… going great until now, that is. I've just figured out that he's addicted to drugs. How do I get him to quit without having him dump me?
-In a rut in New Hampshire
Dear In a rut-
I think that it is best to confront your guy and see what's up. But before you do so, it's important to know that he might not want to hear of your concerns- a major part of drug abuse is denial. When you do confront him, don't accuse him of anything, but instead try to figure out exactly what's been going on and why he's turning to drugs. If he refuses to accept your help, let him know that as much as you do care for him, you can't continue to date him until he is ready to make some changes. There are also some listings for drug abuse hotlines in your local area, check the phone book!
-Aly
Dear Aly-
There's this girl named Summer that I really, really like. I met her over Spring Break this past year and towards the end of the vacation she told me that she really like me. I wasn't interested in her at the time, but now I can't stop thinking of her. Is there anyway that I can let her know that I'm really interested in her, or should I just quit wishing and move on? Have a blown my chance?-Mad Man in MI
Dear Mad Man-
Hehe, sounds like you are pretty confused. I doubt that you have blown your chance with her. After all, wouldn't you rather take the chance by dropping her an email, letter or phone call, and tell her how you feel and be rejected, than to never say anything and never know how she felt now? You should tell her NOW! Don't wait, because who knows what might happen. By saying something, at least you'll know where things stand. Give it a shot! -Aly
Dear Aly-
Well I like this guy. I want to ask him out. We are friends and talk online all the time. But before I ask him out I want to tell him that I like him. I have heard that it is not good to send your friends to tell him. I won't do that. But I need some advice on how to go up to him and tell him that I like him and to ask him out. Also if I see him somwhere should I flirt with him? How should I start flirting? Just go up to him or what? Please help!
Dear Amanda-
You are definitly right about not having your friends go up to him. Guys think that is a real turn off. Your best bet would be to watch for signs that show he likes you back. If you can't tell or if you don't think he does, maybe you could ask him. Most guys like girls that are up front with them. As far as the flirting goes, you can do things like laugh at his jokes or playfully hit him or whatever. But don't do anything too drastic. I hope everything turns out good :-)Love, Aly
Dear Aly-
Ever since my boyfriend I have loved so dearly cheated on me I feel like I am insignificant to other people and I dont feel attractive. HELP!
Dear Chicka-
It sounds to me that before you can get involved and feel attractive to other guys, you need to feel "worth it" to yourself. It seems to me that you're dealing with more of a self'esteem problem than anything. For starters, you're going to have to be willing to realize that your boyfriend was dishonest, and went behind your back, but the reason was not because he wasn't satisfied with you, but himself instead. I think it would be best if you moved on and away from this "boyfriend" and sorted out your feelings towards yourself, before someone else is let into the picture. You need to be happy with yourself before you can share that happiness with some other person. Good luck!
