-Child
-Emotional (e.g. called negative "words)
-Domestic, spousal, marriage (e.g. in marriage or any type of relationships)
-Physical (e.g. beaten)
-Sexual
-Spiritual (e.g. offended/hurt by the church)
-Verbal
Whatever it is, call out to Jesus to have Him come to heal you-it's a timely process!
Isaiah 55=> "9 Confuse the wicked, O Lord, confound their speech,
for I see violence and strife in the city.
10 Day and night they prowl about on its walls;
malice and abuse are within it.
11 Destructive forces are at work in the city;
threats and lies never leave its streets.
12 If an enemy were insulting me,
I could endure it;
if a foe were raising himself against me,
I could hide from him.
13 But it is you, a man like myself,
my companion, my close friend,
14 with whom I once enjoyed sweet fellowship
as we walked with the throng at the house of God.
15 Let death take my enemies by surprise;
let them go down alive to the grave, [2]
for evil finds lodging among them.
16 But I call to God,
and the LORD saves me.
17 Evening, morning and noon
I cry out in distress,
and he hears my voice.
18 He ransoms me unharmed
from the battle waged against me,
even though many oppose me.
19 God, who is enthroned forever,
will hear them and afflict them-
Selah
men who never change their ways
and have no fear of God.
20 My companion attacks his friends;
he violates his covenant.
21 His speech is smooth as butter,
yet war is in his heart;
his words are more soothing than oil,
yet they are drawn swords.
22 Cast your cares on the LORD
and he will sustain you;
he will never let the righteous fall.
23 But you, O God, will bring down the wicked
into the pit of corruption;
bloodthirsty and deceitful men
will not live out half their days.
But as for me, I trust in you.
Domestic Abuse
I grew-up in a loving family. Like all families, there are hard-times and problems. My parents had their disagreements, which fighting is normal-verbally! However, physically-that isn't acceptable! I didn't know what I could do our supposed to do when my dad would lose his temper and hit my mom. He didn't beat her up like you see in the movies, but enough to leave bruises on my mom's shoulders or chest. It wasn't a pretty sight to watch or hear growing-up a little kids. As I write this now (30 years old), I look back and wish my parents' knew God-personal relationship! I guess the circumstances growing-up led me to Him, which I want to help others like me when I was kid find Him.
I've learned about the power of forgivenss, which I pray that my dad will understand what he did was wrong and that he gets help from anger. More importantly that he comes to know God, which all the above will follow. I somewhat inherited that anger inside of me and caught myself doing what my dad did growing-up. I've gotten better to this day and continue pray to do so with His help!
"In September 1995, a group of women in the western suburbs of Chicago, Illinois began meeting once a month to encourage each other and provide a forum for sharing personal needs. Soon after, FOCUS Ministries was organized by two women from that original group, Brenda Branson and Paula Silva. Both women are single parents who have experienced the horror of spousal abuse, separation, and divorce."
"While sex offenders constitute a large and increasing population of prison inmates, most are eventually released to the community. Some 60% of those 265,000 convicted sex offenders noted above were supervised in the community, whether directly following sentencing or after a term of incarceration in jail or prison. Short of incarceration, supervision allows the criminal justice system the best means to maintain control over offenders, monitor their residence, and require them to work and participate in treatment. As a result, there is a growing interest in providing community supervision for this population as an effective means of reducing the threat of future victimization."
"While many homosexuals may not seek young sexual partners, the evidence indicates that disproportionate numbers of gay men seek adolescent males or boys as sexual partners."
less than three percent of the population are homosexuals. Thus, a tiny percentage of the population (homosexual men), commit one-third or more of the cases of child sexual molestation.
"It is estimated that children with disabilities are 4 to 10 times more vulnerable to sexual abuse than their non-disabled peers (National Resource Center on Child Sexual Abuse, 1992)
"Sexual Offenses
Bonner had serious difficulties throughout his childhood. He received psychological counseling and was on a regimen of medication to control his behavior. At the age of 17 he finally finished ninth grade, and quit school. He had no significant work experience thereafter.
When Bonner was (apparently) 18, he met a 14 year old girl from another town who told him she was 17. After the girl returned home, she called him every day for a week urging him to come to her town so that they could be boyfriend and girlfriend. "Enraptured, Bonner hastily borrowed money from a friend for a bus ticket," 577 N.W. 2d at 577, and traveled to the girl's town. There he stopped taking his medication, and spent several weeks drinking and partying. During this period he allegedly had sexual intercourse on two occasions with the girl in question.
The police also investigated Bonner with regard to possible sexual contacts with four other girls. There was a rape charge filed with regard to a 13 year old girl, but the only facts in the record consisted of a statement by the girls denying any sexual contact other than a few "hickeys." 577 N.W. 2d at 578.
Although it is unclear how much police knew at the time, the events in this case illustrate how police understanding of FAS/FAE could be important in preventing criminal offenses.
Should individuals be held accountable for their actions?, from the ARC
http://www.thearc.org/faqs/sexoffender.htm
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Absolutely. This may be the only opportunity they have ever had to learn about appropriate sexual behavior. Creative sentencing options can be used to encourage actual behavior change, which is preferable to a jail or prison sentence. Those who serve time in jail or prison face a high chance of reoffending since quality sex education and related services are not offered though the present day criminal justice system.
Sentencing options can be created through a pre-sentence plan. These can be developed by a case manager or advocate from a chapter of The Arc along with the district attorney's office and the probation department. The plan is then presented by the district attorney to the judge. Options may include 24-48 hour incarceration in a safe environment along with sex/relationship training, restitution for damages, confinement to a residential facility for a specific period of time or required treatment (Valesco, 1993). This type of "personalized justice plan" or PJP is being used successfully in some chapters of The Arc that conduct criminal justice programs. For information on one such program, contact The Arc of New Jersey at 732-246-2525 or http://www.arcnj.org/html/ddop.html or ARC New Jersey
Public Policy "The goal of this approach is to enable the offenders to understand their behavior, take responsibility for the behavior, increase motivation to change their harmful behavior and learn the skills necessary to control their deviancy. With training in relapse prevention techniques, offenders learn to identify the chain of thoughts and behaviors that, if uninterrupted, could culminate in the commission of a sex offense. In addition to learning to identify the chain, the offender masters alternative non-harmful techniques to intervene and stop the progression of behaviors"
Biblical Verses
Genesis 19:5-9, 31-38-Sodom & Gomorrah
2 Peter 2:10-22-Perverting truth
Book References:
Secular:
The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse,
Featuring "Honoring the Truth: A Response to the Backlash"
Ellen Bass,Preface by Laura Davis / Paperback / HarperTrade / January 1994
The Courage to Heal Workbook: For Women and Men Survivors of Child
Sexual Abuse
Laura Davis / Paperback / HarperTrade / January 1990
Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child
Laura Davis,Designed by Laura Hough / Paperback / HarperTrade / January 1991
The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse
Wendy Maltz,Carol Arian (Illustrator) / Paperback / HarperCollins Publishers, Incorporated / January 1991
NOTE: These are just some of many books I found in www.bn.com through Search: Sexual Abuse
Dave Pelzer A Child Called "It":
One Child's Courage to Survive
*this was referred to a friend of mine, who was abused by his parents and others in different ways
-Speakers' Forum, topics from Pelzer speaks on, who is a "walking testimony" of an abused foster child turned "sucessful" in life!
Drama
"Bring Me To Life" - Youth Drama
”Human video acted out to Evanescence song "Bring Me To Life". Contains a graphic acting out of generational abuse. This drama was performed numerous times in a six month period. This is a compilation of four seperate performances edited together. It's been at least four years ago. It still moves me. Search remixthenoise for more info. Pt wrote it. There have been many requests for copies and downloads. Send a message through godtube. We'll try to accommodate all”
