Web of Lies and Deceit, that is.

This is Our Story.  We met  May of 2001. Jeff was living with another woman named Peggy in Apple Valley.  As you can see by the e-mail below, Jeff was seeing more than just me.  As he told this story, he and Gay Lynne set a date.  Peggy found the email with the details and showed up at his date and made a big scene.  So you can see why Gay Lynne can no longer trust him. 

 Peggy did not know about me.   Jeff was staying with Peggy, continuing his charade of being a couple together until he could find another place to live.  Jeff went on vacation with Peggy over the 4th of July to Greenville, SC. He called me when he got back and came over after work on Friday and never went back to Peggy's.  .  In August of 2001, Jeff started chatting with another woman he had had sexual relations with named Donna.  Their conversations and emails got very hot and heavy.  He took pictures with his web cam  and e-mailed them to her.  I'll spare you the visuals, but he did work himself for his photo shoot.

  He sent her an email confirming their "meeting to do the horizontal bop" for Tuesday night after work.  Although to Jeff's misfortune, he sent it to me also.  When I called him at work about it, he said he didn't care if I knew, but he wouldn't go. He came home after work that night.  His story was that he was just going to go and tell her in person that he couldn't see her anymore..  YEAH RIGHT!  He had all day to think about it. That's one of his many  "QUALITIES" he will walk away when confronted and he doesn't know what lie to tell, but he'll return shortly with a really good line and explanation.  He even told me that he thought he had a problem with sex and that maybe he should go see a Doctor.  But, of course he never did and won't ever. He even shed tears for this performance.

Jeff then started up conversations with yet another woman he'd had sexual relations with named Eva. Now Eva lived in Mankato, but that would not stop him.  My son was going to be playing with his band there, so he arranged to have Eva go there as well and that he could "ditch" me for a few hours so they could grab some time together for old times sake.  Eva actually sent the email to our joint e-mail account and I called the trip off.  Jeff still kept on having his intimate conversations with Eva, she even messaged him on Thanksgiving Day while his family was here for dinner and his nephew was using his computer.  But nothing was wrong with his conversations, they were always perfectly innocent, even though they were always sexual and he was planning his next affair.

Jeff carried on with Eva for over a year, until September of 2002.  I had taken all I thought I could take from him and told him to leave, He emailed Eva that night saying "I'M FREE" and he'd be coming for a visit on Friday and he made a date with Eva for September 13th, he was going to Mankato to see her. Jeff returned here around 7 pm that night saying that he had not gone to Eva's, but instead rode to Sioux Falls and back on his bike. Sioux Falls???? Jeff got off work at noon on Friday's and Sioux Falls is a little further than that for his time table.  Sioux Falls is 269 miles and a 3-4 hour trip one way. He needed to think.  If I was to forgive him, again, he would have to end it with Eva.  So he sent her this e-mail.   

Just what did Jeff mean when he says he has to apologize for the e-mails and STUFF?  As far as I know they did not speak or chat to one another again until maybe now, although I do know that he always tried to keep the lines open by sending her jokes, to which she'd reply to our joint email account with..."Why are you sending me stuff".  Jeff also kept the same lines open with Gay Lynne and Donna.  Donna and Gay Lynne are local, so it would be convenient. It's very important to Jeff to keep those connections...one never knows when one will just have to have sex. 

Sometime along the way Jeff decided to post a  profile on Adultfrienders.com looking for some DISCREET or GROUP SEX.  I wasn't supposed to be upset about this either. Jeff's response, he was looking for a pen pal and I was so mean I wouldn't let him have one because I was too jealous and just didn't get it.  He wanted to be pen pals with women that lived here locally.   Some pen pal. I thought that pen pal was someone that lived far away from you.  I guess I made a mistake.  Silly me! How stupid of me.

And then in April of 2003, Grandson Tyler was born.  Somehow we ended up at the daughters house just in time to see his ex-wife #1, also named Peggy.  Peggy had just had her stomach stapled and was pretty hot to trot with her new body.  She and Jeff exchanged e-mail address'  and began chatting on line.  Now I realize Peggy lives in Texas but once again the chats always got very sexual.  Jeff would HIDE his chats when I came by his computer and would be pretending to play solitaire. He also made sure the volume was turned off on his speakers.  But occasionally Peggy could not wait for a reply from him.  Jeff always made it clear to her if I was nearby, so that the conversations would look innocent.  He would tell me that they were talking about their daughter.  

By September 2003, the conversations were getting more frequent, Jeff couldn't wait to find her on line. She was sending him pictures of herself in sexy lingerie. He would even send off line messages to her.  Friday September 5th at 11:27 pm (I had gone to bed and Jeff promptly let Peggy know this.  They then had one of their little parental chats where Jeff was wondering about a picture she sent him of her in a lacy red nighty and was it her nipples he could see in the picture. (I do have the transcript on this conversation, but will spare you the images, since the best are yet to come and this is already getting to be a big page to load, so stayed tuned) Go grab another cup of coffee and sit back and enjoy the rest of the story. 

Ok, on with the story, Jeff then asked her to show him her breasts, which she obliged and he wanted to see MORE. Then he told her his cock was hard and that he wanted to suck on her tits.  Am I missing something here....I thought their conversations were about their daughter! I couldn't sleep and got back up and Jeff abruptly ended the conversation.  But, as soon as I'd leave the room, he'd be right back. We had a huge fight that night. I just didn't understand his innocent chats because I was jealous and he hates jealousy and I just can't trust anyone. The next day, Saturday September 6, 2003, I went out shopping.  I was still mad at Jeff for the night before, because I knew what he was doing.  He messaged Peggy before she appeared on line and sent her an email telling her he was waiting on line waiting for her, she obliged and signed on at 3:03 pm. And they had another parental conversation that went like this.....Aren't web cams great? Notice we was working himself up with the porn sites before she came on line. I know the images are poor quality, but you'll get the gist of it, just click on the next button at the bottom to view the next part of the conversation, there are something like 47 images in all.  The best images are #14-#16

Start Over

I especially like the beginning...."Diane is away" .. "so it's time to play" and then the part when Peggy say's "Diane would get in the way" of them having sex to which Jeff replies "FUCK HER". And you know, when I came home, he was just sitting at his computer playing solitaire. He pulled me to his lap and told me he loved me very much.  Now that's a guilty man.

Jeff, then subscribed to AmericanSingles.com  on October 31st 2003. That night Jeff and I had gone out to see our favorite band perform.  We had a great time. Didn't get home until the wee hours of the morning. The next day Jeff decided to use his new subscription and respond to e-mail he'd sent the night before from several women trying to start up a relationship.  One woman, Laurie, he had sent several messages to. And she responded. He then replied once again, he told her  "I'm sorry that it took so long to get back to you. I had a great time last night with my friends." So I am more than one person?.  I walked by to do some laundry, and he pulled me into his lap and told me he loved me once again. That was 2 minutes after he sent the e-mail.  I questioned him about his subscription to Americansingles.com and he logged in and cancelled it, BUT, it was still good for a month, after all he paid for it and by George he was going to use it. When I found out about the e-mails, I told him, that he made me sick and he was pathetic and a liar.  He apologized once again and told me he loved me. He's pretty good at those apologies and uses the word love pretty freely.  Don't you think?  I'm beginning to see a pattern here, are you?

He found out his parents were going to be going on vacation for a week. There he would have some privacy to use his new account and actually have a place to bring his dates. He picked a fight so he could leave and move into his parents house just before they left. The following weekend Jeff had plans to celebrate his daughters birthdays with the all the kids and ex-wife #2. Although, WE had made plans for supper for between 5 & 6  and I had it in the oven, Jeff didn't show up. I called his son at 5 and he'd been home for quite some time now.  Next, his parents computer logged on to the internet and since they were gone, it had to be him, so I sent a message asking about dinner, I got no reply.  I called the parents house at 8 pm and he answered the phone, he and ex-wife #2 were there visiting and talking since 4 pm. Again I was not supposed to be upset. Jeff got here about 9:30 that night. Jeff spent the night here and when he got up in the morning he said he was going to his parent's house after work, but he'd be back on Tuesday night. 

On Tuesday, November 11th, neither one of us went to work and Jeff came to my house and we spent the day together and the night.  Jeff said he wanted to live apart for a little while and try our relationship again and we would date exclusively, he was not going to be looking on the personal ad websites anymore.  But, Lo and behold....he subscribed to Match.com and then YahooPersonals . That's $65 from someone who is NOT going to use the services. 

You can view his profile on www.match.com his ID is j1956kel and www.americansingles.com with a profile name of Moby56.  Jeff also has ads on www.udate.com www.singleme.com and www.imatchup.com 

On November 13th, Jeff sent me this mail.

The Wednesday before Thanksgiving he came over and we went out to dinner and he spent the night again. I asked him how this dating thing was going to work, to which he replied "I thought I'd come over on Friday night and go back to my parents on Sunday night, I thought we'd do things together on the weekends"  

Jeff came by on Thanksgiving weekend to get his stuff out of the house.  I of course, was a bitch because I would not let him keep it here.  On December 4th, Jeff came by after work to pick up some mail. We went out for a bite to eat and afterward, Jeff came in the house and told me he missed me, loved me and cares about me.  We did end up in bed together.  I do love him. He asked me to spend Saturday with him. Helping him move into his brothers house.  But, we are still going to see each other and he wants to take his personals ads down because he doesn't really want anyone else.  

Friday, I got a huge shock, the water bill came for the period of Sept & Oct, $400, I  messaged him to call me. He called me and because MOM & DAD & SISTER were there he had to continue his charade of being the victim to all of them and was really being a jerk.  I asked him if he would help pay the bill since he was living here also at the time. To which, his reply was, "I suppose I used some of the water for my showers." Again, that was for Mom & Dad's benefit.  And, I'm sure he was upset, I more than likely interrupted a chat with Peggy, you remember her, ex-wife #1, who lives in Texas and he is planning on visiting next summer.  They already have their affair planned for next 4th of July.  Remember from the conversation, Peggy's husband Bob works all day and Jeff and her will have all day to play and she'll even let him taste her again.  I'll bet he can't wait. 

Jeff told me once that he can convince his parents or anybody else for that matter of just about anything and that they always believe him, because he can turn on the sad eyes.  He can also shed some tears on demand. He also admitted to me that he cheated on Peggy, ex #1 when they were married too many time to count. He cheated on ex-wife #2 with ONLY about 6 women but many, many times with each of them. Two of his friends recalled an incident that happened years ago when he was married to ex #2, Jeff and family had been out visiting for the day and then went home.  Later that night, they saw Jeff coming out of the neighbor ladies house.  No wife, no 3 kids....just Jeff.  They didn't know Jeff even knew her. They told me that Jeff has always done stuff like that.  BUT, remember, Jeff  is always the victim and he HATES jealousy.  All these women are either dumb (ex#2), crazy (ex#1 and Peggy the old girlfriend) or any other demeaning adjective he can find. I was self centered and thought the universe revolved around me and I was materialistic because I had a house and a new vehicle and wanted to take care of them.  And I was just too jealous and I can not be trusted.  Now that's a good one, who can't be trusted here. He can call it jealousy all he wants....He is a liar and a cheat and someday, he will have to look himself in the mirror and I hope for his sake he can forgive himself for hurting, abusing and using so many people in his life. Then again, people like that, it doesn't phase in the least. He will continue his quest for a new love in his life, He'll move in with her, until he gets bored again and starts whoring around and cheating on her as well. Jeff left here, without paying for his vacation over the 4th of July (all on my credit card, it's around $500-$600) A new helmet, headset and raingear  ($389 also on my credit card) and now the $400 water bill.  Remember, I am materialistic and things like cars and homes mean nothing to him, he has lost two homes, because they mean nothing to him, it's just a roof over his head. He is happy with himself. 

Hey Jeff, your computer and cable internet is materialistic.  Throw them away or better yet let your temper take care of them and smash them, like you did my son's toolbox...oh that's right, then you wouldn't be able to chat or jack off or cheat on your partner with other women, you'd have no way to meet them.  You say your family is what's most important to you. You use your kid's and family and the women in your life when it's convenient for you or to try to cover another lie.  And we ALL KNOW you are a man of honor, integrity and your word. You gave me your word about many things.  You also will cover that statement by adding the words "I'll try, I can't promise that, because if I innocently forget or something happens, then I will not have kept my word" to the end of it.  That makes it pretty safe for you when you don't keep your word, doesn't it. 

Jeff, here is Webster's definition of that word .... HONOR, you should pay special attention to entry #'s 7 & 8 and then look up the meanings to Chastity, Purity and Integrity, also.

Main Entry: ¹hon·or
Pronunciation: 'ä-n&r
Function: noun
Etymology: Middle English, from Old French honor, from Latin honos, honor
Date: 13th century
1 a : good name or public esteem : REPUTATION b : a showing of usually merited respect : RECOGNITION <pay honor to our founder>
2 : PRIVILEGE
3 : a person of superior standing -- now used especially as a title for a holder of high office <if Your Honor please>
4 : one whose worth brings respect or fame : CREDIT <an honor to the profession>
5 : the center point of the upper half of an armorial escutcheon
6 : an evidence or symbol of distinction: as a : an exalted title or rank b (1) : BADGE, DECORATION (2) : a ceremonial rite or observance <buried with full military honors> c : an award in a contest or field of competition d archaic : a gesture of deference : BOW e plural (1) : an academic distinction conferred on a superior student (2) : a course of study for superior students supplementing or replacing a regular course
7 : CHASTITY, PURITY <fought fiercely for her honor and her life -- Barton Black>
8 a : a keen sense of ethical conduct : INTEGRITY b : one's word given as a guarantee of performance
9 plural : social courtesies or civilities extended by a host <did the honors at the table>
10 a (1) : an ace, king, queen, jack, or ten especially of the trump suit in bridge (2) : the scoring value of honors held in bridge -- usually used in plural b : the privilege of playing first from the tee in golf
synonyms HONOR, HOMAGE, REVERENCE, DEFERENCE mean respect and esteem shown to another. HONOR may apply to the recognition of one's right to great respect or to any expression of such recognition <the nomination is an honor>. HOMAGE adds the implication of accompanying praise <paying homage to Shakespeare>. REVERENCE implies profound respect mingled with love, devotion, or awe <great reverence for my father>. DEFERENCE implies a yielding or submitting to another's judgment or preference out of respect or reverence <showed no deference to their elders>. synonym see in addition HONESTY