grodenbarg (1:46:33 PM): Krystal I have a couple of questions... grodenbarg (1:46:41 PM): for you.. lunar_rose21 (1:53:11 PM): ask grodenbarg (1:53:29 PM): krystal I know u are busy, but. grodenbarg (1:54:24 PM): How important is my friendship t you? I am not mad, but I just need some time to just socialize with you. grodenbarg (1:54:53 PM): I can call you if u have time lunar_rose21 (1:55:11 PM): geoff, you put my head into a whirl everytime i talk to you lunar_rose21 (1:55:20 PM): and when i say something you don't like lunar_rose21 (1:55:39 PM): you chalk it up to miscommunication or that i am not understanding you grodenbarg (1:56:04 PM): calling grodenbarg (1:57:15 PM): fine krystal grodenbarg (1:57:45 PM): :(( grodenbarg (1:58:19 PM): everone hates me now. lunar_rose21 (1:59:00 PM): i don't think everyone hates you so don't say things like that grodenbarg (1:59:59 PM): I am trying to say that I feel my friendship with you has been damaged, so I am just trying to let this heal, grodenbarg (2:00:21 PM): I really enjoy your friendship, I am trying to heal damage lunar_rose21 (2:00:28 PM): you have crossed the line so many times, and you keep doing it grodenbarg (2:00:34 PM): soory lunar_rose21 (2:00:35 PM): i try to talk to you about it lunar_rose21 (2:00:43 PM): butyou won't listen lunar_rose21 (2:00:52 PM): or you listen but you keep doing it grodenbarg (2:01:08 PM): ok, I am open for suggestions. grodenbarg (2:01:20 PM): I GIVE lunar_rose21 (2:01:30 PM): you have said this before lunar_rose21 (2:01:39 PM): and you can't sit there and blame me lunar_rose21 (2:01:48 PM): and your mother certainly can't lunar_rose21 (2:01:54 PM): she doesn't know me period grodenbarg (2:02:30 PM): ok grodenbarg (2:03:25 PM): I realize my communcation style is very different, this is why I am what I am. grodenbarg (2:03:39 PM): I am trying very hard to change, lunar_rose21 (2:03:41 PM): that doesn't matter grodenbarg (2:03:55 PM): i know lunar_rose21 (2:04:08 PM): you have the ability to communicate, you are just chosing not to, or trying to use that as an excuse lunar_rose21 (2:04:22 PM): you are extremely well written in your e-mails lunar_rose21 (2:04:35 PM): take the time to say what you need to say lunar_rose21 (2:04:41 PM): breathe while you are doing it lunar_rose21 (2:04:48 PM): but take your time grodenbarg (2:05:11 PM): yes lunar_rose21 (2:06:10 PM): people are not mind readers lunar_rose21 (2:06:17 PM): you are the only that lives in your head grodenbarg (2:06:25 PM): I am just trying to socialize and be nice to you. lunar_rose21 (2:06:28 PM): if you have something you need to express then do it lunar_rose21 (2:06:32 PM): don't leave hints grodenbarg (2:06:42 PM): I stopped doing that. lunar_rose21 (2:06:49 PM): right geoff, but how you are doing it is killing me grodenbarg (2:07:19 PM): I just need a friend, now, thank you for answering lunar_rose21 (2:07:31 PM): you show up to my work agitated and bugged people until you got to a manager lunar_rose21 (2:07:37 PM): that was a new manager lunar_rose21 (2:07:41 PM): the next time i came in lunar_rose21 (2:07:52 PM): she talked to me and wanted to know what was going on lunar_rose21 (2:08:07 PM): i got in trouble with her for having drama in the workplace lunar_rose21 (2:08:13 PM): you did this to me before lunar_rose21 (2:08:26 PM): you try to control the things that you do lunar_rose21 (2:08:30 PM): i mean that i do lunar_rose21 (2:08:33 PM): it is my life lunar_rose21 (2:08:40 PM): and i am the only one that lives it grodenbarg (2:09:00 PM): I just wanted to say hi. lunar_rose21 (2:09:10 PM): this what you are doing now grodenbarg (2:09:20 PM): I did not mean to get you into trouble lunar_rose21 (2:09:21 PM): you screamed for my attention and now that you have it lunar_rose21 (2:09:24 PM): you don't want it grodenbarg (2:09:34 PM): I want it. grodenbarg (2:09:49 PM): ok krystal can we chat? lunar_rose21 (2:10:00 PM): i can't talk anymore lunar_rose21 (2:10:05 PM): you won't let me finish grodenbarg (2:10:08 PM): ok lunar_rose21 (2:10:08 PM): so i can't do this anymore grodenbarg (2:10:39 PM): I was going to tell you about my job hunts. grodenbarg (2:11:50 PM): Krystal I hope to chat with you in the future when things calm down. lunar_rose21 (2:12:04 PM): things are not going to calm down geoff lunar_rose21 (2:12:06 PM): i am mad grodenbarg (2:12:14 PM): give it time. lunar_rose21 (2:12:15 PM): and i have been too nice for a long time lunar_rose21 (2:12:19 PM): no lunar_rose21 (2:12:23 PM): that is not the answer grodenbarg (2:12:37 PM): ok grodenbarg (2:13:34 PM): krys.. lunar_rose21 (2:13:58 PM): what? grodenbarg (2:14:27 PM): i am sorry to make you mad, i did not mean it. grodenbarg (2:16:10 PM): I need to be confronted about problems soon after they happen, I am this way with everyone grodenbarg (2:16:45 PM): I really had no idea that you are really mad at me now. lunar_rose21 (2:16:58 PM): because i have tried to deal with it lunar_rose21 (2:17:16 PM): i haven't said anything because i don't want to be mean lunar_rose21 (2:17:27 PM): but you won't even hear out what i have to say lunar_rose21 (2:17:32 PM): so i don't know what to do grodenbarg (2:17:44 PM): it is ok krystal friends fight, nothing wrong with that grodenbarg (2:18:03 PM): problems do NOT get solved by botteling them up lunar_rose21 (2:18:04 PM): no geoff, this is not a healthy friends fight lunar_rose21 (2:18:13 PM): this is not a healthy friendship grodenbarg (2:18:33 PM): I know I want to work with you on fixing that. lunar_rose21 (2:18:48 PM): you are working in the absolute wrong direction lunar_rose21 (2:18:54 PM): and i don't think that you realize that grodenbarg (2:18:56 PM): i know now grodenbarg (2:19:24 PM): we are now on the path to healing lunar_rose21 (2:19:32 PM): no we aren't geoff lunar_rose21 (2:19:36 PM): for the 3rd time lunar_rose21 (2:19:44 PM): you haven't let me finish lunar_rose21 (2:19:57 PM): you want to talk to me and tell me about your probelms lunar_rose21 (2:20:08 PM): but when it comes to what i have to say the subject is changed lunar_rose21 (2:20:16 PM): it is a two way street lunar_rose21 (2:20:23 PM): not a one way grodenbarg (2:20:54 PM): ok grodenbarg (2:21:36 PM): I understand lunar_rose21 (2:21:51 PM): i don't think you do grodenbarg (2:22:08 PM): krystal? lunar_rose21 (2:22:22 PM): what? grodenbarg (2:22:51 PM): you assume I don't understand now, but I do. lunar_rose21 (2:23:29 PM): that is right lunar_rose21 (2:23:34 PM): but i am not really assuming lunar_rose21 (2:23:40 PM): i told 4 times now lunar_rose21 (2:23:46 PM): that is 4 times lunar_rose21 (2:23:56 PM): that i still had things to talk abouit lunar_rose21 (2:24:02 PM): and you won't do it lunar_rose21 (2:24:07 PM): 4 times geoff grodenbarg (2:24:10 PM): I AM lunar_rose21 (2:24:14 PM): to me that is not understanding grodenbarg (2:25:01 PM): krystal go ahead and talk i am always listening. lunar_rose21 (2:25:19 PM): i can't do it now grodenbarg (2:26:36 PM): Kystal to me you have a "chip" on your shoulder. you are looping this to me. lunar_rose21 (2:27:03 PM): i have a problem with you lunar_rose21 (2:27:09 PM): i know exactly what it is grodenbarg (2:27:11 PM): Let me fix it lunar_rose21 (2:27:22 PM): but i am so damned angry right now, i am not going to do it grodenbarg (2:28:14 PM): I will let you talk this out with me when you are calmed down. grodenbarg (2:28:29 PM): I sense extreme anger lunar_rose21 (2:28:33 PM): yes lunar_rose21 (2:28:42 PM): i was telling you everything earlier lunar_rose21 (2:28:44 PM): everytrhing lunar_rose21 (2:28:54 PM): but you kept changing that subject lunar_rose21 (2:28:59 PM): and you always do that lunar_rose21 (2:29:10 PM): that was important geoff grodenbarg (2:29:39 PM): i was just replieing, that is all lunar_rose21 (2:29:53 PM): no you weren't lunar_rose21 (2:30:08 PM): what you spoke about had nothing to do with what i was saying grodenbarg (2:31:38 PM): say it krystal, stop holding it grodenbarg (2:32:33 PM): still. ther? grodenbarg (2:33:12 PM): hello. grodenbarg (2:35:35 PM): Krystal I read every word you typed, don't get me wrong. I WILL save this session as a reminder, so I will back off. grodenbarg (2:36:04 PM): bye. :(