Friend vs. Girlfriend

I'm an 18 year old girl and i have a guy as my best friend, we only became this close 10 months ago when he broke up with his girlfriend. We're really close and we've gone through alot, his girlfriend was my friend too, but not as close as he is. three months ago, they came back together again, and at first it was really cool, but then she started becoming really obssessive and annoying, she asked him not to do things with me alone and she refuses the idea of us being this close, she even suggested that i'm trying to break them up. The point is that i don't like her anymore but my best friend loves her. She keeps on hurting him but he keeps on coming back to her, and now i can't even give him advice without being partil and selfish. I don't want to lose him and we've become distant, i feel like i'm not there for him.. how can i help him and help myself?

ADVISOR REPLIES: Thank you for coming to us with your problem. OK, this is a toughie:) I will try to help you out as best as I can, Wait until your best friend is away from his girlfriend, and sit him down , or call him, tell him the way you feel about him, and his girlfriend, and the way she treats him, He may not realize the way she treats him, and once you point that out he probably will........... I hope this helps good luck!- *~Jenni~*

What I would do is to have a talk with your guy friend. Tell him that you really don't want to see him get hurt. Tell him what his girlfriend is doing to you, also. He might be a little angry at you for pointing this out...but soon enough he'll open up his eyes and see what you mean. For now, being that he is your closest friend, you have the job of supporting him with this girl (this will be very hard for you...but hey...you would want the same if the scenario was switched, wouldn't you?) Just keep your fingers crossed and hope that he will realize that his chick isn't so hot after all. Good luck. Modern Teen Advisor,- Em

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