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~FOOTPRINTS MINISTRY, INC.~
(BRINGING HOPE TO BEREAVED FAMILIES)
Skip & Jerry Mudge
6605 Mallard Park Dr
Charlotte, NC 28269
704 509-6603

 


 

~THE TRAGIC EFFECTS OF ALCOHOL ON FAMILIES - PART 1~
Part 1: Drinking & Driving
Skip & Jerry Mudge

 Proverbs 20:1 - "Wine is a mocker, strong drink a brawler,
And whoever is intoxicated by it is not wise

Ephesians 5:18 - "And do not get drunk with wine, for that is dissipation, 
but be filled with Spirit."

INTRODUCTION

Both my wife Jerry and I come from families where drinking was prevalent, causing tragedy in both families.  Both our first spouses drank heavily, their fathers drank heavily, other family members drank heavily and I drank heavily until I accepted Christ as Savior.  My father drank and blew three marriages as a result.  When I was a kid, sometimes I would have to pick him up out of a flower bed and carry him inside.  Whenever my family would visit him, we never knew if he would be sober or not - more often he was not.  In Jerry's case, her only two sons died in a car crash because they had been drinking.
At least 10% of the families on our mailing list have losses directly attributed to drunk drivers.  In case some of you did not know it, we have been doing preventive ministry in schools, churches & for convicted felons.  In fact, Jerry began with MADD as early as 1993.  We are hoping to prevent the deaths of other young people who are making wrong choices,  None of us bereaved parents want to see others lose a child for any reason.  Our daughter, Dr. Anne York, has arranged for us to speak at Elon College and Meredith College on the effects of binge drinking.  We attend the annual Governors Conference on Underage Drinking here in NC.  In Charlotte, there are over 200 AA classes weekly, so this is  definitely a problem. 

In this issue of our Newsletter, we want to explore the effect of drinking while driving, efforts to stop underage drinking and suggest ideas of how readers can deal with this in their community.
 
 


 

ALCOHOLIC DRINKS ARE DANGEROUS

"Alcohol, or ethanol, is a poison with direct toxic effects on nerve and muscle cells...alcohol can have far reaching effects on different parts of the brain, peripheral nerves and muscles, with symptoms of memory loss, incoordination, seizures, weakness and sensory deficits...Alcohol related neurological disease include Wernicke-Korsakoff disease, alcoholic cerebella degeneration, alcoholic myopathy, alcoholic neuropathy, alcohol withdrawal syndrome with seizures and delirium tremens." (www.genesishealth.com)
Excess intake of alcohol can cause intoxication or even death, for example, by binge drinking.  Other damage can include:
Changes in blood chemistry, resulting in loss of myelin coating around nerves

Cirrhosis of the liver, impairing the liver's ability to cleanse the blood of waste products

Respiratory depression & low blood pressure

Memory impairment & unable to learn new information

Suppresses immune system, making alcoholics susceptible to pneumonia & tuberculosis

Increased risk of bladder, prostate and colon cancer

Withdrawal symptoms: DTs, extreme body shaking, insomnia, confusion, hallucinations, seizures etc.
 


 

MADD'S 2003 SUMMARY OF STATISTICS

In 2002, an estimated 17,417 people died in alcohol-related traffic crashes - an average of one every 30 minutes.

In 2001, more than half a million people were injured in crashes where police reported that alcohol was present - an average of one person injured almost every minute.

For fatal crashes occurring from midnight to 3:00 AM, 79% involved alcohol.

About three in every ten Americans will be involved in an alcohol-related crash at some time in their lives.

The impact on alcohol involvement increase with injury severity.  Alcohol-involved crashes accounted for 10% of property damage only crash costs, 21% of nonfatal injury costs and 46% of fatal injury crash costs.

Drunk driving is the nation's most frequently committed violent crime, killing someone every 30 minutes.
 

There is a wealth of information on the MADD web site: ww.madd.org.  The 2003 summary includes information on Alcohol Advertising, Arrests & Convictions for Driving Under the Influence, Occupant Protection, Young Drivers (15-20 years old), Youth Drinking (Under 21), Minimum Drinking Age Laws, Costs of Alcohol Related Crashes plus several pages of resources.
 


 

JACQUELINE SABURIDO

Early one morning in September 1999, Jacqui - then 20 years old - and four friends were on their way home from a birthday party, Reggie Stephey, an 18-year-old high school student, was on his way home from drinking beer with some buddies.  On the dark road on the outskirts of Austin, Texas, Reggie's SUV veered into the Oldsmobile carrying Jacqui and the others.  Two passengers in the car were killed and two were rescued.

Within minutes, the car caught fire, Jacqui was pinned in the front seat on the passenger side.  She was burned over 60% of her body; no one thought she would survive.  But Jacqui lived.  Her hands were so badly burned that all of her fingers had to be amputated.  She lost her hair, her ears, her nose, her left eyelid and much of her vision.  She has had more than 50 operations since the crash and has many more to go.

In June 2001, Reggie Stephey was convicted of two counts of intoxication manslaughter for the deaths of Jacqui's two friends.  He was sentenced to seven years in prison and fined $20,000. 

Jacqui has courageously lent her story and her face to a statewide anit-DWI campaign in Texas in hopes that her experience will deter people from drinking and driving.  She is featured in TV public service announcements etc. produced by the Texas Department of Transportation.

Jacqui's medical bills are staggering and she has no health insurance.  A special account has been established to help defray some of her living expenses and medical bills.  If you would like to help you can send a donation to: 

Help Jacqui
PO Box 27667
Austin, TX  78755 


Jacqui ~ 09/19/99
Jacqui Now!

Jacqui's story can be found on any website search.  We used http://www.helpjacqui.com.  We use a PowerPoint presentation of Jacqui's tragedy to show that sometimes, a car accident can result in your being almost worse off than dying. 
 


NORTH CAROLINA & LOCAL STATISTICS


State
2000 Total Traffic Deaths
2000 Alcohol Related Deaths
Percent Alcohol Related
North Carolina
1,557
614
39
Source: (www.madd.com) 
National Highway Traffic Safety Administration
The above will give you the numbers for your state by year.

MOTOR VEHICLE INJURIES 
MECKLENBURG COUNTY - 2000
Race/Sex Total Infant 6-9 10-14 15-19 20-24 25-29 30-35
White
Male
18
0
0
0
1
7
7
3
White
Female
7
0
0
0
5
0
0
2
Minority
Male
13
0
2
0
2
3
3
3
Minority 
Female
6
0
0
0
0
0
3
3
Total
44
0
2
0
8
10
13
11

The above is from the NC State Center for Health Statistics for the year 2000 in Mecklenburg County, which is where Charlotte is located.  If you live in NC, you can obtain the same type statistics for your county.  Statistics can give you the scope of the problem, but they don't convey the personal emotions of the loss.  Let's look at a story that does. 
 


 

THE STORY OF JERRY'S SONS

My only two sons were killed October 26, 1990 in a car accident.  I was unable to sleep after the policeman came at 3:00 AM to let us know officially that the accident we saw on the 11 PM News was our sons: Leon Jonas Jr. & Wayne Jonas.  I got up at 6:00 AM and called the Medical Examiner's office to find out if they were going to do an autopsy like the TV news report said.

The main question that kept playing over and over in my mind was, "Why did Leon Jr. make a U-turn on Interstate 77 on a busy Friday night?"  We had just seen our sons two hours before at home and they had been drinking.

Earlier we were on our way home from eating out when we saw an accident but we did not know it was our sons until later.  We also didn't know they had picked up a friend who wanted some pot.  Wayne drove over to get the friend and the pot; Leon Jr. drove back.  On the way back, for some unknown reason, Leon Jr. made a U-turn, skidded as he crossed the muddy median and a truck hit them from behind, killing all three.

Thank God the newspaper did not say anything the next day about the possibility of alcohol involvement.  I really felt ashamed that my son was a drunk driver.  I did not want anyone to know.  An autopsy wasn't done, just test for blood alcohol.  Leon Jr's was 0.17%, Wayne's was 0.11% and their friend's was 0.23%.  The report came months after the car crash.

Besides feeling ashamed, I also felt a lot of guilt over their deaths for a long time.  I felt responsible since I did not stay home that night and keep them talking.  I felt I should have taken Leon Jr's keys away from him.  Because of the quilt I was feeling, I decided to work with MADD in the hopes of at least saving another child's life.  In 1994, me the mother of a drunk driver, received the MADD Volunteer of the Year Award.

I also became angry at Leon Jr. for causing not only his death but the death of his brother and their friend.  I finally had to use a therapy I had heard about.  I put Leon Jr's picture in a chair and told him why I was angry at him and then I forgave him.  I knew that I had to let go of the anger or it would 'eat me up.'

But I also had anger at God for allowing it to happen, especially to me.  I was faithfully serving Him and this crash made me feel like a bad mother.  I felt people would judge me by my sons car crash.  I stayed in church but had a hard time going because if I had tears, I though people would think my children were in hell.  I had raised them in church their whole lives and both has accepted Christ as Savior.

I finally realized that my thoughts about being a bad mother, my anger with God for not taking care of my family were coming from the devil.  He knows we are in grief and uses that to draw us away from God.  One thought I had often was sorrow over the fact that Leon Jr. had never married and had children.  I realized the devil was using this thought to bring me down further.

I finally forgave God and asked for His forgiveness; I've even grown closer to Him than ever before.  I forgave myself because I know God forgave me.  I know I can trust my sons to His care and some day I will see them again. 
 


 

UNDERAGE DRINKING

One of the curses on our American culture is the ease with which young people start drinking, many times encouraged by their parents.  Both are unaware or ignore the consequences.  According to REDUCING UNDERAGE DRINKING: A Collective Responsibility, published by the Institute of Medicine/National Research Council (www.nap.edu), "Alcohol use by young people is dangerous, not only because of the risks associated with acute impairment, but also because of the threat to their long-term development and well being.  Traffic crashes are perhaps the most visible of these dangers, with alcohol being implicated in nearly 1/3 of youth traffic fatalities.  Underage alcohol use is also associated with violence, suicide, educational failure...All of these problems are magnified by early onset of teen drinking: the younger the drinker the worse the problem.  Moreover, frequent heavy drinking by young adolescents can lead to mild brain damage. 

One of MADD's pass outs says: "The easiest place for kids to get beer...is right next to the milk."  This was surely true in my case.  I (Skip) began drinking when I was 16 years old and was a heavy drinker by the time I reached the legal age of 21 years old.  When my three oldest kids were in the 6th, 4th & 2nd grades, I taught them how to make & drink Manhattans, Martinis etc.  After I became a Christian, I tried to undo this.  My wife Jerry relates that in her first marriage her husband began her sons drinking beer when they were 17 years old.  A few weeks ago, we were on our way to a Sunday Schook gathering & realized we were too early.  We pulled into a shopping center & happened to park in front of a liquor store.  We cringed & wanted to tell parents: "You don't know what you're doing."

In our county, A Substance Abuse Indicators Action Team was formed by the County Commissioners to determine the extent of alcohol and drug abuse in the Charlotte-Mecklenburg area.  We will focus only on the alcohol portions.  Roughly 30% of those arrested for driving while impaired are under 21 years of age.  28% of fatal crashes are alcohol related.  They also found: 

% STUDENTS THAT DRINK IN MECKLENBURG COUNTY

GRADE
% STUDENTS
8
46
10
56
12
67

What can be done or is being done?  Nationally, SAMHSA (Subtance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) and MADD have teamed up to help children and adolescents reject underage drinkink, with the TOO SMART to START program.  As part of this, the Nashville (TN) Prevention Partnership offers a Facilitators Guide For Faith-Based Parent Training on Underage Drinking on their website.  MADD has an online course aimed at high school students, new drivers and youth alcohol offenders; it's found at: www.outsidetheclassroom.com/MADD

Jerry & I participate in the PARTNERS to Reduce Underage Drinking in North Carolina (www.initiative.org).  At the Annual meeting, there were presentations by MADD, the NC Alcohol Law Enforcement, college campus groups and high school groups.

In small group discussions, it was asked: What have you found effective in persuading young people to choose not to drink alcoholic drinks?  Some of the anwers were:

Kids do better delivering the message to each other

Scaring them only works for awhile

Have kids voluntarily sign a pledge not to drink.

High Schoolers in Kinston NC, with the help of local merchants, came up with a 12-page newspaper for distribution in their county; it covers almost everything.  For a free copy, go to www.kinston.com and click on Education/NIE. 
 


 

WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY

After my conversion to Christ, I (Skip) became a teetotaler.  When associating with Christians from Euorpe, I was shocked when I found most drank a glass of wine frequently.  After doing some research, I found that the Bible doesn't absolutely forbid alcohol.  The Bible:

1) allows Christians to drink for medicinal purposes
(1 Tim. 5:23)

2) Sometimes portrays alcohol as something good and enjoyable (PS 104)

3) Forbids drunkeness (Eph 5:6)

4) Forbids drinking if it offends fellow believers 
(Rom. 14:15-21)

5)  forbids drinking if it hinders the gospel (1 Cor. 9:19-23)

6) Warns that drinking is often dangerous and unwise (Proverbs 23:31; 31:4-5)

Because of the destructive effects on our families, Jerry and I still do not drink.  We've witnessed in our families: death by car accident, broken marriages, loss of businesses and homes, car wrecks, jail sentences, broken health, loss of mental abilities, loss of health (perhaps cancer), homelessness, etc.  AA has helped a few.  Others have quit by turning their lives over to Christ.

We are now available to speak at schools, colleges and church youth groups on our CHOICES program.  If any of you would like to see our program, we have it on PowerPoint.
 


 

COMMENTS FROM OUR PRESENTATIONS

"I would like my children to see your presentation; it will teach them before it happens." 

"This program made me realize the importance of not drinking and driving.  I won't anymore."

"I will try my best to never let this happen again; it had a very strong impact on me."

"This program needs to be included in the driver's ed program!"
 


~POWER~

~TRAGIC EFFECT OF ALCOHOL -PART2~

 
 

 
 

 


 


 


 

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