LIFE
We should treasure all life because it can be gone in the blink of an eye..
Life is something sometimes hard to appreicate. We often take things for granted, and I think this is a big mistake. We always assume that things will never happen to us. We tend to think bad things usually happen to others until that moment it falls upon us. Life is precious we should treasure it. We should be grateful for our loved ones and respect and treasure what we have. So many people have it far worse then we ourselves do. The pain of losing someone you love can be so intense that we feel we can not endure the loss, we may even feel as if no one else can understand our pain, and sometimes it feels as if no one in the world could be hurting as much as we are from grief.
There are many kinds of pain in this world, we always seem to notice our own, and sometimes fail to see other peoples pain. We do however live through the grief process, and must continue on. The important thing to remember is that is is better to have had that love we had for someone then to have never known the joy of that someone... the pain can be so intense with the death of a loved one that at the time we almost wish in a weird sort of way that we had not loved that someone so deeply that we have to hurt so much when they leave us. Yet, it seems even through all the pain we still know deep down inside that our lives were touched in such a special way by that someone special we lost, that it was better to have known them then to have not shared their life with them. We think if I had not known that special someone then we would not have to feel the pain. We need to not hold back and let our grief out. Sometimes people try to be strong for others and sometimes men feel it is not manly to cry.
Men have feelings and should not hold back emotions which men are often taught as children to do. The old saying that men should not cry, they have to be strong ect. I never really liked that way of thinking at all. I believe it takes more of a man to be sensative and to shed that image often given to boys as they are growing up. I think we all need to show and share our grief, it is natural, and aids in the healing process. So let go and cry if you feel like it, others will surely understand this. In time pain eases up and is replaced by fond memories. We do go on. Sometimes we hurt and relive the pain of the loss over and over again. Or we relive the day of the tragic event when we knew for the first time our loved one was taken away from us.
Life is so very special and love is very special--so treasure every moment of it..treat all people the best that you can, as we never know when it is the last time we may ever see them again. I have heard of people having cross words, then one passes on and the other person always feels so bad that the last time they had spent time together it was in anger. How awful to carry such a burden as this. Try to make ammends and work things out instead of going through such an ordeal. Life is so precious, often so short lived. Live it to its fullist, and be as happy as you can. Make the lives of those around you as rich and full as possible. Mary, COPYRIGHT 1999
PEACE AND HARMONY IN LIFE
I FEEL A MARTIAL ARTIST SHOULD PROMOTE PEACE AND HARMONY IN LIFE.WE ALL SHOULD SINCE I AM A MARTIAL ARTIST I THINK IT REALLY APPLIES TO THE ARTS ALSO.
Peace and harmony can be obtained by each of us accepting the different beliefs that people have, and by accepting people for what they are. We should not judge people by race, their religions beliefs, or their age, ect. If we learn to love unconditionally, like our pets often love us this place could be a better world in which we live.
We often find fault and see the mistakes others make and ignore out own short comings. We can often be to hasty in our judgement of others. Peace and harmony can come from trying to understand others better, being patient, and learning by the mistakes in life that we make or those that we observe other people make. We need to learn to accept ourselves for who we are as individuals. We can not change many things about ourselves, yet so many of us think we want this or that to be different. Other people usually see us different then we see ourselves. For example, we may hate a physical feature we have, yet others may find beauty in that feature.
We need to look deep inside of ourselves and see what is there!! The outside appearance is not nearly as important as what kind of person we really are. I have seen people very beautiful on the outside, but their inner self is not very nice. They may have mean, and unpleasant actions that they show to others. Beauty is something that is in the eye of the beholder. To be truly beautiful, I think a person needs to be compassionate, kind, thoughtful, and caring towards others. If we act these ways then we do indeed appear beautiful to others no matter what our physical appearance is. I have seen people get made fun of, called ugly, ect. I wonder what gives anyone the right to judge beauty? Who sets the guidelines for beauty anyway? Well, I feel we should not judge people like we do, or set the standards for what we think beauty is.
Peace and harmony means to be content, not in turmoil, at ease, happy, without conflict. To me it is to like our surroundings, who we are, what we do, and where we are with our lifes, and the people we are around, and the blessings in life we have. Often this is hard to do, but we must make the best of what we have and who we are. If we do not do this then we create conflicts within ourselves that can drag us down. Yes, we all want to change things in our lives, but often we can not. We should try to make changes in the things that are not good, and things we can change for the better. One can get a great sense of happiness if one accepts what life has to offer.
I have found that pleasure and beauty can be found in the simplist of things. I can look at some silly thing and find great beauty in it. Find something laying around and look deeply at it, think about it and you too may see more then just the surface of the object. You may see beauty and harmony in the form of a memory that comes to mind when you gaze at the item, or thinking about where the object came from. Try it if you think very deeply you will be amazed at that thoughts that will get into your mind about the object. I love finding pleasure and beauty in the simple things that are around me. We are not always aware of things because we do not take the time to REALLY look at things. We need to stop and just appreicate all that beauty around us that we usually are to busy to see. If we learn to do this we appricate things in life more. Life is to short to live in turmoil.
We should live life as best that we can and really look at things. Harmony is something we all need to find in our own way. To each of us it is something different. If we resist as many negative things as we can, and look for the beauty we each have in ourselves we will be more content in life. I thank God that I can still see the beauty of things that have passed, and look forward to the beauty that God still has to show me on my path to where I am going.
Mary, COPYRIGHT 1999
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