I can use some or all of the following strategies:
Also leave a set of keys with a trusted friend or relative. Make sure they know WHY you are leaving them a set of your keys so they don't accidently let it slip if your abuser talks with them. If that's not an option, how about a set in your desk drawer at work or even hidden somewhere on the outside of your house. For the short term, you can even get magnetic key boxes that attach under the fender of your car. Be prepared
If I cannot go to the location above, then I can go to_________ ____________or _____________________.
I can use some or all the following safety strategies:
Make sure the statement is NOT sent to your home where the abuser will find out about it. Use a post office box, your work address, a friend's address. If you get an ATM card with the account, don't keep it in your wallet where it can be found. Also, keep some cash in your "kit". Make sure you've got enough for cab fare, a night's stay at a motel and a couple of meals. DO NOT USE CREDIT CARDS. This is an easy way for the abuser to find out where you are and to track what you're doing. Be Prepared.
Safety measures I can use include:
School__________________________________________
Day Care staff__________________________________
Babysitter______________________________________
Sunday school teacher___________________________
Teacher_________________________________________
And_____________________________________________
The following are some steps that I can take to help the enforcement of my protection order:
___________________ and _________________
I might do any or all of the following:
If drug or alcohol use has occurred in my relationship with my abuser, I can enhance my safety by some or all of the following:
To conserve my emotional energy and resources and to avoid hard emotional times, I can do some of the following:
MONEY: Even if you have never worked, you may legally be allowed to take 1/2 of the funds in the checking and savings accounts (check local laws to see if you live in a community property state). If you don't take any money from the accounts, a partner can legally take all money and/or close the account and you may not get your share until the court rules on it if ever.
These items might be placed in one location, so that if you have to leave in a hurry, you can grab them quickly.
When I leave, I should have:
* Identification for myself
* Children's birth certificate
* My birth certificate
* Social security cards
* School and vaccination records
* Money
* Checkbook, ATM (Automatic Tellers Machine) card
* Credit cards
* Keys - house/car/office
* Driver's license and registration
* Medication
* Welfare identification, work permits, Green card
* Passport(s), Divorce papers
* Medical records - for all family members
* Lease/rental agreement, deeds, mortgage payment book
* Bank books, Insurance papers
* Small saleable objects
* Address book
* Pictures, jewelry
* Children's favorite toys and/or blankets
* Items of special sentimental value
Telephone numbers I need to know:
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