TOMMY'S NOTE TO FANS
Subject: A POST FROM TOMMY.......
Date: 5/15/99 3:15 AM EST
From: LPP 11
Message-id: <19990515041554.04490.00000857@ng-fa1.aol.com>
Hi. This is Tommy Lee.
First, thanks for all your personal notes, business advise, and
predictions. Some of your notes were very positive and supportive. Some
of them were very critical. All of them got me thinking.
Some of you think I'm going to do great. Some of you think I'm going to
crash and burn. I learned a lot of things in the last year. One of them
is that predictions generally say more about the one who's talking then
they say about the one who's being talked about. I'll try to stay
positive.
There were some good notes and some that were painful and hard to read.
For example, one note said, "You're only a drummer. You're not a family
man."
That really got me thinking. Yeah, I'm a drummer. And I've worked hard
(and played hard) and I've been lucky enough to enjoy a lot of success
at that. But I'm not "only a drummer." I'm lots of other things.
I'm more than what gets seen through the mean, green, one-eyed monster
publicity machine.
The simple truth is I am a family man. Sitting in jail last year for
those many months, I realized just how much of a family man I really am.
I missed my wife and I missed my sons.
I'm a husband to an exciting and beautiful woman. I'm a father to two
incredibly beautiful boys. I'm also a son to my own Mom and Dad. I write
about being a father and also being a son at the same time, in one of
the songs on my new CD.
I'm also a brother to my sister, who's also a drummer and a wife and a
mother. So I'm also an Uncle to her kids.
I'm a friend to a few people. Sometimes we get along, sometimes we
don't. There are times when friendships can be hard. I'm sure as I work
at it I'll get
More than "only a drummer" I'm a musician. I also play keyboard and
guitar and I write songs. Nikki and I wrote almost all the songs on the
Motley Crue CD's.
Sometimes, even though I try not to, I have to be a businessman. Music
is a pretty crazy business. It can keep you guessing and wishing and
regretting a lot, if you don't make good decisions.
Like you, I'm a consumer and a fan. I buy lots of CD's by other musicians. I
listen to just about everything from Rock to Rap; from Opera to Enigma.
I enjoy it all and learn from it all.
I'm still a student. My personal coach reminds me that I still have a
lot to learn about a lot of things.
My decision to leave the band was not a rash, spur of the moment shot in
the dark. That decision has been building inside me for the last three
years.
For the last couple of years I've felt a musical growth, a strong
spiritual force pushing me in new musical directions that were not
possible to explore with the band, as we were. I felt exciting new
musical sounds in my heart. It can be hard to get three other guys in a
band to share the new vision of one of them.
Something else happened in the last three years. I became a husband
again and I fulfilled a life-long dream by becoming a dad.
One fan wrote that "old rockers shouldn't try to act too young — it's
tacky." I agree. Nikki is also a dedicated husband and a father and we
used to have long talks about what that meant to our lives and our
futures. We knew we had to start thinking and doing things a little
differently. We knew we had other people depending on us and we had to
think differently about the future.
I was lucky in a strange way. A chain of bad events pulled me away from
my new family of Pamela and my sons and from my old family of 18 years —
the other band members of Motley Crue. I was forced off the hard
charging life style.
Suddenly all the fast motion and all the loud noise came to a dead stop.
I had only the screaming silence of four cold stone walls, broken only
by the metallic clang of heavy doors opened by guards who told me where
to go and who I could talk to.
Sitting in jail gave me the rare and frightening opportunity to be alone
with my thoughts and fears and regrets and my hopes for the future. It
gave me a chance to take a careful look at the many business and
financial webs that had been woven around Motley Crue. Were all those
business deals really the best possible deals for me and the other guys
in the band? Did those deals allow for us to change and grow as
musicians? Did they help us to create a better future? Could I continue
to be "only a rock drummer" and still create a new life with Pamela and
my sons?
I didn't make any rash decisions about the band. I got out of jail and
got right back on tour and back into the music. You fans were fantastic,
with all your support.
Still, certain wheels were put in motion. My life had changed. I came
closer than anyone should to losing it all — my family, my music,
everything. Believe me when I say that last year absolutely change my
life.
Motley Crue was a great band. We did some really good music. Fans will
enjoy our music for a long time to come. And there's something about the
Crue's music that probably should not change.
If everything with the Motley Crue and all the business deals were all
good and could be made to work for a new future, I would have stayed
with the band.
The harsh truth is that sometimes you just can't force old patterns into
new directions. Sometimes you have to stop what you're doing in order to
change directions. And that's what I felt I needed to do with my life. I
needed to change directions because I didn't want to end up where I was
headed with the old directions.
We all change. Life is all about change. Just about the only things on
the planet that don't change are yesterday's newspapers and rocks.
If you're alive, if you're above ground, you're lucky and you're
changing. We all like to think we're changing for the better.
It's time for me to put some serious energy into being a good family
man, a good husband, and a good dad to my boys.
It's also time to expand myself as a musician. I always was a little
more than "just a drummer" and now I want to work at being even more
than I was. I'm working on my own CD. It'll be out in September. I'm
exploring some new musical directions on the CD. I'm exploring new
voices for rhythm and lyrics and sounds. The CD holds a lot of what I've
learned in the last year. I think it also carries the hope for a better
future for me and my family.
I hope you, the audience, likes what you hear.
Thanks again for all your support.
Tommy Lee
"Methods of Mayhem"
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