We human beings tend to be plagued with self-doubt and a lack of self-confidence and fears of every imaginable thing. Most of the time our fears are unfounded and our self-doubts based on our own negative thoughts.

The psychologist Abraham Maslow says the story of the human race is the story of men and women selling themselves short. The great majority of people tend to compare themselves unfavorably with others. They dwell on there own weaknesses and limitations and they usually end up with far less then they are really capable of. Instead of taking control of their life and enjoying high levels of self-esteem, self-respect and personal pride,….the average person just gets’ by from day to day. LISTEN FOLKS!!!! GOD put you here on this glorious earth to do more than "just get by." If self-confidence and the self-esteem that goes with it is so desirable, why is it so few people have enough self-confidence to live the lives that are possible for them?

GOOD NEWS!! The wonderful thing about self-confidence is that its’ a mental quality that can be learned. Because it’s learnable, it can be built up systematically and progressively over time. Everyone, whether you believe it or not has a certain amount of self-confidence more or less in different areas. The key for you is to build your confidence from your base and add to it forever. It’s very possible for you to build yourself up to the point where you are completely confident in any area that is important to you.

More than 2000 years ago Socrates discussed the law of "cause and effect."

If you want to continue experiencing the same outcome or "effect" go back and see what you did (the cause) that produced the effect you wanted. When we repeat the causes, we get the same effects. Things do not happen by accident. This IS how the world works!!…. Cause and Effect! Neither success or failure is an accident. We live in a world governed by law, not by chance. Everything really does happen for reason. Yet, the world is full of people who are not happy with their results and yet they continue to do the same things, think the same thoughts, say the same things and take the same action everyday. STOP IT !!!! The sooner you realize what you’ve been doing needs to change to get the effect you want, the sooner you can build from your base (positive foundation) and grow into a positive, confident and consistent human being.

From time to time, (rarely) we’ve seen people with naturally high levels of self-confidence. These people have gone on to achieve extraordinary things. In studying the lives of these super-achievers we’ve found that "some" of them started out with high levels of self-confidence, which they learned from there parents, quite fortunately, in early childhood. But, most of them started out like most of us with down deep feelings of inferiority and inadequacy. Because of criticism and lack of love and other mistakes parents made in early childhood, we grow up with little self-esteem and feel less than others.

Many successful people I’ve worked with are very successful on the outside but on the inside feel unworthy of their achievements. What people really want more than anything else is to feel good about themselves. They want to be happy and positive and have a sense of well being and security. Above all, we really want to have peace of mind. However, you can only enjoy true peace of mind when you feel confident in your ability to deal effectively with your family, friends, co-workers and all of the other activities you’re involved in.

The KEY is to evolve into your confident self. The more you dwell on something the more it grows into your reality. The "Law of Concentration" has proven that you really are what you think about. The more you dwell on the person you want to be the more it will embed itself into your subconscious mind and become part of your evolution. It is at this point you become a "self-made" man or woman. Think about it,…whatever you’ve thought about most of your life you are! REMEMBER!!! Thought becomes reality. Your thoughts become reality. You become what you think about most of the time. When you take control of your conscious mind and purposely think of who you want to be, rather than who you aren’t and focus on the thing you desire and off the things you fear ,….your positive evolution begins!!

True happiness and success comes from living your life in harmony with the laws that govern your being. These laws, granted,….are invisible like the laws of gravity also invisible, but to be altered only at your doing. Happy people are simply those who obey the laws and follow the laws and live their lives consistent with the laws. If we want to have self-confidence on the outside we must have complete integrity on the inside. Its’ an invisible yet powerful law we must obey to attain peace of mind. The real foundation (law) of self-confidence is living your life consistent with your innermost values and principles while thinking and acting in harmony with your highest aspirations! Men and women with the strongest foundations of self-confidence are inevitably those who are absolutely clear about what it is they believe to be right and good and worthwhile. They live their lives consistent with these values. It doesn’t matter what’s going on around them,(focus,focus,focus) they know everything will be okay! They have a deep inner sense of calm, because they know they are doing the right thing. NO matter what happens you get through it. Hey! No doubt,….there will be many ups and downs in life. But, what ‘s most important is that YOU remain true to yourself.

The starting point in developing a high level of self-confidence and in reality becoming an EXCELLENT human being is to think through and to decide upon your valves. For example, what is really, really important to you? How do you define values? Having defined a clear set of values, not vague, not unsure, but clear, concise, values will cause you to develop the convictions and enthusiasm necessary for self-confidence. Your starting point toward higher self-confidence and personal greatness is to clarify your values for yourself. Ask yourself what you truly believe in!(?) What do you stand for? What will you not stand for? What would you pay for? Work for?…or even DIE FOR????

Here are a few questions that apply to me:

Do you value your family? How much?

Do you value your God (spirit)? How much?

Do you value your health?

Do you value career or job?

Do you value your freedom?

Do you value hard-work, honesty, integrity?

WHAT WOULD YOU, die for, sweat for, pay for?

Make your own list and remember,…unshakeable self-confidence comes from unshakeable commitment to your values. When deep down inside yourself you know you will never violate your highest principles you experience a deep sense of "personal power" and confidence that empowers you to deal with life openly and honestly and with complete self-confidence in almost every human situation.

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