Have you ever noticed how you debate something in your Mind, but what your heart thinks is completely different? Almost everyone in Middle school and High school wants a girlfriend or boyfriend, Right? This shows a major conflict between our heart and mind. In our mind, we all know that a middle school relationship will fail, fall apart, crumble to nothing, yet we still set out for one. Why? Recently, I have experienced a lot of this and have been wondering which one is true, heart or mind?
Our heart, the one entity that controls our feelings towards others and how we act; It also affects most spontaneous actions we perform daily. Love also spawns from here, but not always true love, many times; our heart deceives us and tells our mind we are in love with “that” girl/guy when the heart just thinks she/he is cute or funny. In my case and many others, it urges us to ask a girl/guy out or to do something completely crazy like asking a girl to the dance whom you barely know. Many people of my age follow their “heart”, not caring about the reality of it all, but this is good most of the time, because it is a risk you must take for taking the next step of life. Like some people though, my heart is greatly hindered by my mind.
Our mind, the start of all idea and thoughts we have, the logical thinker for our bodies. The Mind is the counter part of the heart, fore it does not believe in teen love, nor believes in spontaneous decisions most of the time. The mind want us to be smart, stop, and plan with a good “strategy” to “conquer” any task that is held before them, whether it is Math to Girls. Many of the strong minded believe in this way or follow it spontaneously, believe it or not. I am one who believes my mind, which troubles the heart with the many different answers just one problem can come out to and how, in the end, it will just fail. This is mostly why we lack a partner, we always see what can go wrong, but not how many things can go right. So remember, every time you hear your mind speak the words, “she will soon dump you anyways,”
ignore it, you will only be a teen for about 5 years total, LIVE THEM!! Risks are just a small part you must learn in a relationship.
“Teen Love! Ha, there is no such thing as this garbage!” is what most parents would say if you told them you were in love with your partner. This is not completely true. There are two types of love, true and deceived. True is your true love, the one you can share your feelings with, the one you love to talk to, the one you wish you could hold for eternity, the one who you love for their inner beauty and mind. The one you wish never to let go. This either ends in two different ways at a young age if this comes about; you much later get married and live a happy life, or most of the time, the two lovers are separated by powers beyond their control. Deceived is not really love, more of a stupidity “training session” for future or love with a “mask” on it. It is temporary love in which are needed to make mistakes so when you find your true love, you know what screwed you up in the past. Deceived love, though, doesn’t necessarily mean that you won’t marry, have kids, and ect. Deceived love can also be going out or marrying for bad reasons, such as money, looks, ect. Just remember though, you can also screw up your relationship with your true love; it is not an invincible force against those who made it. As the Ages rolls on, it seems kids are getting Girlfriends and Boyfriends earlier and earlier, this is good, and maybe bad. Maybe love is slowly evolving to come at an earlier year. Only time can tell future.
Now, the true question is, do you believe your Heart or your Mind?
Fantasy or Logic?
Dreams or Reality?
Please send me responses, aruguements, anything to CyborboyX1@netscape.net with the subject CyTopic1, thank you
Update 3/28 by S1x: Are you sure you know exactly what your heart is doing and what your mind is doing? You have to set something solid between both, even if it means having a complete argument with yourself. (I've argued with myself constantly, heh.) Technically, your mind is able to believe what you try to make it believe (even if that belief isn't true). Your heart only sends more blood to your mind, which can influence something else. So technically, you're having a debate between what you want to think and what is actually happening.
"True" love does not really have a solid definition. Even if you think you've found it, thre's a 99.9% chance that it will not remain that way 20 years into the future. Trying to figure out which is which only gives you a headache and usually doesn't get you anywhere. Of course you bring up the point of "risks". The only thing is, most of the time these risks drag on for way too long. You start to not concentrate and focus on different things. The only exception is if you crunch time enough so that what you're trying to do doesn't get in the way of everything else you do, but you have to devote so much time to it anyways that it practically never works that way.
Kids may have relationships (a very butchered definition of a "relationship", though) at a younger age, but the time they mature has not changed. Kids don't even take that stuff seriously. Splitting a chocolate milk might seem "romantic" to them, but I don't really get it. And I'm surprised if you do. Then there's that really stupid problem in the future where some people get annoyed if they're not your very first boyfriend/girlfriend. Beware of the big picture, not just one part of it (even if it's pretty extreme on its own).
It's not that I disagree; it's just that you shouldn't hope too much for something to happen soon, or even before your adulthood. If I roll a 300-sided die, I'm going to get the number I'm thinking of eventually, but who knows how long that would take? In that same amount of time, I might be able to buy a 6-sided die and make things much easier. Yeah, that's a strange analogy, but hopefully you get what I'm trying to say. >_>
Ha, the whole mind and heart thing is more of a..... figure of speach, it more represents what you KNOW should be done and what you really want to do.
Also, superb1x, Don't give up on people that easily. Just becuase you have seen fighting, failing love, and devorice doesn't mean all the world is like that. I believe that once you meet that certain person, then it is very possible to live with them forever, you just must know atleast alittle of what you want out of life, as well as your partner. Also, you must understand that there will be many distractions in life, and the one im going though is just something that no one, not even me, can stop ^.^`. And trust me, love is worth the time it takes to MAKE it work. Confusion rules my mind right now, but let me say, that this state of confusion, it is not half bad. I have only had a taste of love, and im already in bliss! I would say having and knowing someone that cares for you is one of the greatest feelings ever, you would be suprised at how good it feels when the simple words "much love" are said to you and are meant.
