Self-Confidence Exercise from the Source Family

This exercise will build a self-esteem bubble around you... I have done this exercise silently in a car, next to a lover, when confidence waned. But it is best done standing in front of a full-length mirror... Ok, so you are standing in front of a full-length mirror. You look at yourself and put your right hand out, fully extending your arm, at shoulder height. Bring your hand in front of your head, circling your head, around to the left, then point to yourself in the mirror. As you do this loop around your head, say out loud, "I am ..." and then as you point with vigor at the mirror, finish it with words like "Magnetic!" Visualize yourself as super magnetic. Then do the loop again, and this time as you say "I am magnetic" firmly embed this feeling of being magnetic into your third eye, in the middle of your forehead, as you point to your third eye in the mirror. Now, look at yourself and say "I am ________," inserting any qualities you want to exude or embrace more into your character. I am confident, I am lovable, I am sexy, I am intriguing, I am beautiful...are some examples of affirmations people have used. As you say these qualities one by one, point at your third eye each time you name a quality. A more graphic way to do this is to write a quality on an index card. Then tape it right where your eyes are on the mirror. As your arm points vigorously at the mirror, proclaiming the trait you want, you see the word instead of your eyes. This is quite powerful. You can use this to change behaviors, moods, etc. If you are too shy, you can say "I am outgoing." If you are too extroverted you could say "I am aware of my surroundings." Be creative. You can also do this just with breath. Think or chant "I am" on the inhale, and then say the quality, such as beautiful, on the exhale with fervor! With meaning! As if you are claiming those qualities as your own right then and there with your breath. You can do this silently if you have to. But it is more effective when you actually say the qualities out loud with feeling! If you can get a lover to do this with you so you both meditate on being love and beauty, etc., it can be quite bonding.

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