How To Be A Good Couple
10 steps to enjoying each other
better...
1. Be realistic about each other.
Don't try to turn ur partner into
something he or she is not. Let's face it, guys-there's only 1 Pamela Anderson
in the world, and even she has had her implants removed! Give ur gal a break
and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change overnite
with the help of a few facials or treatments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has
already been taken, so u're gonna have to do with what ur guy is like! Chill
out, love each other for what u are. There is more to ur partner than what
meets the eye.
2. Always talk things out.
Now guys, I know this is not ur fave
pastime or mode of resolving issues, but u know what? This works with the
gals. Don't make assumptions about each other's feelings. Learn to xpress
urself better so that ur partner undrstands what u're angry about, or hurt
about, or even happy about! When u stop talking to each other from the heart,
it's the beginning of the end.
3. Do stuff together.
Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or
involve urselves in some shared activities; something both of u enjoy or are
interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or jus
strolling hand-in-hand down Orchard Road. Watch soccor with him once in a
while though the green patch on TV puts u to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do
give in if ur gal asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest
that she go out with her girlfriends for "that sort of activities"
instead. If u're spending more time with ur friends rather than with ur
partner, it's a warning sign that u're drifting apart!!!
4. Meet each other halfway.
If he agrees to throw out that
rotten T-shirt with the "The_Rock" print, u shouldn't kick up much
of a fuss if he asks u to keep ur room tidy. There's gotta be a little giving
and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.
5.Show ur love
Buy her flowers or candy or perfume
everynow and then, even if u have been together for 5years. It's wonderful to
continue showing someone that u care for him or her. Cook him a special meal,
paint him a Valentine's Day card. Knit him mini-socks he can't wear ( like for
decoration purposes => ), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack
his wardrobe for him...so he knows u can still be romantic and loving despite
having been together for quite a while.
6. Respect each other.
Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or
whatever it is u love to laugh at. Ask urself if she thinks if its funny. And
if he has an inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys
and make him feel worse! Love is about respecting each other's feelings and
being sensitive to each other at all times.
7. Bury the past.
Stop bringing up the past.
Gals..don't bring up the happy things about u and ur ex to ur guy, it would
jus make him jealous or unhappy. And guys, don't talk about the happy times
that u had with ur ex or mention about her in ur every other sentence as it
would make ur gal feel un-happy and she might think that u saying all this
b'cos u are gonna get back with ur ex or not interested in her anymore.
8. Sit on ur jealousy.
All of us go thru' spells of
insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don't translate that
insecurity into jealousy. If u're gonna go through ur partner's mail and
cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, u know something is wrong - with
u!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru' the relationship
before finally killing it. Trust ur partner; love has to have trust in it.
9. Keep ur commitments to each other.
If ur partner is standing u up all
the time and cancelling dates and breaking promises, u need to talk! If u're
in a relationship, make ur partner ur priority and don't disappoint them if u
can help it. It's really terrible when someone promises to take u to dinner,
and then calls to cancel it. Don't make promises u can't keep. If ur partner
starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to u, u may jus lose
him/her.
10. Be honest.
Honesty is not scowling at how awful
she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of
a fly~! When we say "be honest", we mean expressing ur feelings
clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When u're hurt, say so, and when u're
angry, tell him/her, w/o getting hysterical. If u can't be honest with ur
partner, who can u be honest with? ?Love is also about honesty, and a
relationship where no honesty exists probably isn't worth it!
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